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Yogadatti
Yogadatti

I can't take any anti depressants cos of another medical problem.   CBT doesn't work , and GP doesn't care.   I am now 66 and feel that now I am this age no one cares if I live or die....I feel very isolated and alone.   Grown up children do not care, husband doesn't care.   

How ow do I motivate myself to even get up...I feel so low?

 

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  • RHGB
    RHGB Yogadatti

    Posted

    I'm sure someone will come along with some better advice, but mine would be, change your GP.
  • michael98615
    michael98615 Yogadatti

    Posted

    i so agree with the above advice, its gonna require a lot to do to arrange, but again if someone can help you, you wont feel as lonely, surely ur hubby would help, so sad it seems he dont care sad
  • lorraine52317
    lorraine52317 Yogadatti

    Posted

    Hi Y

    I'm so sorry to hear of your suffering. Have you tried any natural remedies eg. St John's wart? Do you mind me asking why you can't take any antidepressants? I think CBT only helps when your depression symptoms lift a bit. When you have no motivation or energy it's so hard to do the smallest things. You need to start insisting that your doctor provides you with options and a plan of action to get you better.

    I am sure your family do care very much about you, but depression is an illness that many people don't understand eg family members also find it very difficult to believe we are ill for such a long period. You could have 30 plus years ahead of you so it's important to start demanding further help from the medical profession so you can then look forward to and enjoy those years.

    stay strong and be really determined to get the help you need xx

    • Yogadatti
      Yogadatti lorraine52317

      Posted

      I got low sodium from anti depressants and I have an AVM in my brain....feel free to google.....it's enough to depress the most stable person anyway.....and no treatment for it .....that's why I can't take anti depressants.....and my husband and I are miles apart in most aspects of life...he doesn't understand depression....
    • RHGB
      RHGB Yogadatti

      Posted

      Well, having had a bleed on the brain/stroke AKA cerebral hemorrhage last year, resulting in a two month hospital stay last year, I can kind of understand.

      I have had to fight for help, fortunately I have a good GP, but I have really had to battle with the stroke rehab hospital, after they turned me away for physio even though the neuro consultant recommended me for it. My GP got me referred back there. I had a meeting with the general manager because I reused to see the neuro consultant, because he made errors in so many ways.

      The neuro surgeon, has avoided me, and only the psychiatrist has beaten him down into meeting with me again. I have a good GP and now a good psychiatrist who work hard for me. The point of me writing this, is not to garner sympathy, but to show that I know what it's like, but also point out that sometimes you need to fight to get the right people, you musn't just give up.

      Hence, if your GP isn't working for you, find one that will or it isn't going to get any better.

       

    • lorraine52317
      lorraine52317 Yogadatti

      Posted

      Hi Y

      goodness I looked it up and you are quite correct that's a very unpleasant condition to have. I noticed some people with this condition do take antidepressants. Isn't there something you can take for low sodium? I understand why you are feeling so down, but please don't settle on the notion that nothing can be done. Please consider an appointment with your gp.

      God bless x

    • Yogadatti
      Yogadatti RHGB

      Posted

      Thanks for reply......but I guess the problem is I do not have the will to fight anymore...I have had three bleeds from avm and a medical mistake caused a small stroke, so I do sympathise...I discovered avm 18 years ago.....
    • RHGB
      RHGB Yogadatti

      Posted

      You know what happens when you lose the will to fight, don't you?
    • lorraine52317
      lorraine52317 Yogadatti

      Posted

      Hi Y

      don't think of it as fighting each day. I know this is easier said then done. Try to search your heart and soul for all the blessings you do have and thank god for these. eg to be alive, to have your children, maybe grandchildren? Accept that you may be limited in what you can or cant do but.. and try to make the best of what you can do and try to find some joy or commitment in it. Eg demand a change of doctor. Ask for further specialist appointments to enable you to find a way of having a better quality of life.

      Be kind to yourself let go of the idea of a daily battle..try to think of each day as a blessing. This way each you can plan out how to live with this condition as well as ascertain if there is anything available to lift or ease your depression. starting with demanding further help from your docs.

      God bless ....stay strong!

    • lynda70899
      lynda70899 lorraine52317

      Posted

      I was going to reply, but Lorraine has said it all quite eloquently.  Such a compassionate soul.  Good advice.  

      Lynda

    • Yogadatti
      Yogadatti lorraine52317

      Posted

       "demand" a change in doctor....sadly the doctors in my practice are all hopeless now...there is one good one left, and to see her you have to make an appointment 2 months in advance, and I am not joking.....there are 5 other doctors, all hopeless and all trying to cut corners....i know there are good gps but not in this area ......the good older ones who did look upon it as vocation retire......
    • RHGB
      RHGB Yogadatti

      Posted

      Yes, that is true. My GP is going into semi retirement, he owns the practice, so doesn't need the money, he only works half a week now. The other GP is fairly useless and the locum is as good as a chocolate fire guard.
  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 Yogadatti

    Posted

    Dear yogaadatti

    I am so, so sorry that you have no support and feel so alone...xx

    You must be an amazing sister xx and I am sure you love him and really want to help him...it is much harder to cope without your husband. It is crucial that get more support.. it helps your lovely brother....he is not a bad person...nobody CHOOSES to become an addict.....he must be so, so sad inside...and feels awful about the AFFECT his gambling problem..

    You both need help.. and it has to be an a specific addiction....

    Counsellor....it help me enormously..I so pray for your family..

    You really need to both go to a support group for gamblers

    I wish you so much peace of mind...as I said before ..you are

    AN AMAZING, AND VERY UNDERSTANDING...

    BIG GENUINE HUGS ...and that you both GET PEACE AND A

    FUTURE WITHOUT WORRY....

    YOU BOTH ARE GOOD PEOPLE AND YOU BOTH DESERVE IT....

    HUGS AND PRAYERS TO YOU BOTH...xxxx.

    • RHGB
      RHGB Yogadatti

      Posted

      You mean you haven't lost your husband and you don't have a gambling addiction? biggrin
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