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Ready to give up

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deaver
deaver

Wife..........better off without me

Children ...........don't seem to have any time for me

other Family............lots.......but none that give a damn

Work ..............................would love to see the back of me, im sure

Prospects........................... none

SO SO Tired . . . .had enough  . . . . no real alternatives

Reasons to go on . . . . . . . ..  .. . . . . . . .. ??? cant see any  ???

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  • Crazycat
    Crazycat deaver

    Posted

    Reasons to go on .....................

    Tomorrow the sun shall surely rise........

    With that there shall be an opportunity .....

    Don't be fooled by this illness into believing that your wife, kids, family and friends would not be utterly devestated by your death, rest assured it's an awful legacy to leave them.

    Give yourself till tomorrow at least, hour by hour if you need to and keep talking, we care xxxx

  • paul67642
    paul67642 deaver

    Posted

    what about your kids should come first
    • paul67642
      paul67642

      Posted

      i was going to end my life when i losted my girlfriend in may this year but i have a 12 year old son so i cant do it

       

    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 paul67642

      Posted

      Hello Paul, I am pleased that you have thought about your son. Taking your own life would be a life sentence for him, I know from personal experience. How are you at the moment, are you having counselling yet?

      pm if you want.

      Elizabeth.

    • paul67642
      paul67642 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      yes i am with woodlands going next wednesday at 10.00 but still have my up's and down's and things in my head
    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 paul67642

      Posted

      That's good your getting some help. It is early days Paul, your life changed overnight, you have a son that depends on you. Focus on him and enjoy your time together.

      Best wishes, keep in touch and let me know how you are getting on. Keep with the forum as people here care and will support you.

      Elizabeth.

    • deaver
      deaver paul67642

      Posted

      What would you have done if he was older, with a life of his own eh?  cos mine are, and I don't seem to fit in with their lives anymore!

      So many stupid thoughts I can't see clearly, but using guilt is pointless cos I am guilty of being a failure anyway. 

  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 deaver

    Posted

    Hello Deaver, Where there is life there is hope. Your children would suffer as well as your wife. I have been in this position, i lost my husband and nephew to suicide. My children and I live with it everyday, it is a life sentence for us. Have you considered counselling to talk through your feelings, it is confidential and non judgemental.

    Elizabeth.

    • deaver
      deaver elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Tried it twice before but didn't really find it any help.  I'll muddle on but just can't see any positives at present.  Gonna see my doctor tomorrow will talk to him about how I am.

      Thanks for the support

  • hypercat
    hypercat deaver

    Posted

    Hi your wife would not be better off without you.  If she thought she would be she would have left you by now.  Has she?

    Your kids would never get over it if you did end your life.  You might think they don't care but I assure you they do.   They would have pain for the rest of their lives - do you really want to inflict that on them? 

    This is the depression talking and you can't believe what that tells you.

    I have given you 2 very good reasons to go on.  Do you need any more?  Bev x 

    • deaver
      deaver hypercat

      Posted

      I come on here cos people understand.  If it wasn't for this I'm not sure where I'd be.  People like yourself make sense and I can't thank you guys enough.  I'm gonna see my GP and will talk things through with him.

      Thanks for your support.

    • hypercat
      hypercat deaver

      Posted

      Good deaver that is great and very positive.   Of course we make sense co we all know about depression and live with it.   That's the beauty of this site and others like it so we can connect with each other and give and receive help when needed.  

      Am always here for you love.  Let us know how you get on.  Bev xx

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