Losing my mind
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I just dont know what is wrong with me . Social anxiety perhaps , expects too much , perfectionist , over achiever .
Has got to 51 , only ever had two tumultuous relationships . Has never felt close to family or friends .
I came out at 19 and went to college to study Art and design but problems with Family and sexuality and so on meant i quit my degree course .
How can i make this succinct ?
I never feel succesful or connected . Regularly bursts into tears . Has high high moments and low lows .
I quit my Job aged 37 to go back to college , got a mediocre degree . I decided to become a photographer yet has failed that . Is a great photographer but terrible at marketing or making money .
So 51, penniless , not close to family , has no close family still alive . Single .
Frequently feels so low . Has never made a great success of anything . Feels alive whilst taking photographs and travelling . Feels dead and hollow the rest of the time .
Both of my sisters are bipolar .
I can go for weeks feeling normal then suddenly I can hardly crawl out of bed .
Confused
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Misssy2 phillip63070
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Now I sit where you sit....basically...my family is upset I quit my job
because I am no longer their money cow. I worry daily about losing everything i have worked for for 25 plus years...mainly my house and my car.
I'm the same as you high highs...low lows.
I sit and MOPE around.
What I have been doing lately is TRYING to do at least 1 good thing for myself a day...even if it is taking a ride and sitting in the park (being depressed) instead of at home. Or buying an iced tea or coffee.....
I take my antidepressents more regulary now...they seem to be helping. I keep repeating to myself...this too will pass.
For you if you feel alive taking photographs....take more...make a colllage..search for jobs everyday that would include your photography...maybe local newspapers or community centers that need news letters?
Its so hard to even look for a job in this condition - I KNOW IT.
I just want you to know that you are not alone...and to keep TRYING to do good things for yourself.
phillip63070 Misssy2
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Misssy2 phillip63070
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I ended a 22 year relationship 10 years ago....And my whole family dynamic has changed as well...My kids favor their father...and only contact me for $.
It is very very lonely...I get it....Can you join a local basketball team or baseball? Or dating site?
dopy phillip63070
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I think that having a close relationship with someone is all you really need. It doesn't matter who it is. And it doesn't have to be sexual, I don't think. I go with my son, who is 21, on holidays. We go for walks. He is my best friend. Is there anyone you think you can be a best friend to? x
phillip63070 dopy
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I do have an active life . Some admire my lifestyle . I travel . recently spent several weeks in Berlin but apart from a few words with waiters , hotel staff , talked to nobody at all .
Add in social anxiety and friends who twitter on about mental health awareness but run a mile if confronted with anyone who admits to problems then it is a loely experience .
Copes , mostly but from someone who grew up within a huge family ( disliked many at the time ) to find yourself sort of completely alone at 51 is a scary experience.
on a recent trip to Berlin I was sat at my dining table enjoying a meal , relatively relaxed and calm and suddenly a piece of music jolted me back in time and i just had to sob . I sat on the pavement ( sidewalk ) and sobbed and nobody asked how i was . passers by just sort of looked embarrassed and stepped over me
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