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I do not have anyone to confide as I haven't any friends close enough to understand or be sympathetic. Any advice please?
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Posted , 10 users are following.
I do not have anyone to confide as I haven't any friends close enough to understand or be sympathetic. Any advice please?
2 likes, 37 replies
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lattifa7777 Veronica111
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Each other, tell me what's been happening?
liana01735 Veronica111
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Misssy2 Veronica111
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Which makes me isolate more...and get more depressed it is such a vicious cycle.
My only advice for you and I try to do this myself....When you meet someone new...try VERY hard to not always be a "downer".
Example: I met a woman in a convience store I go to...I started telling her my problems...over and over...and then one day I noticed that she...wasn't responding to me as much...and I realized when I got in my car...."I really like her and I need to stop complaining to her all the time and become a little bit interested in her day". Or "put on a happy face at least a couple times I go in the store, crack a joke...etc".
And it worked...I don't want to scare her away...she is a very nice woman who I am becoming pretty close to. Its work..it really is...but you have to recognize how depressing WE CAN BE.
I still complain to her an awful lot...but I really do try and catch myself....and stop once in a while.
And to get friends that are "close" enough as in your case....you have to try and care and ask about how they are doing....maybe you do that and maybe you don't SHARE how you are doing...if that is the case...than open up and share....people are compassionate...but people can also only take so much of us complaining.
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carole28488 Veronica111
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jamie1918 Veronica111
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hypercat Veronica111
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It always dismays me when depressives have an obsessive need to endlessly talk about how they are feeling. I find that often in company the best thing to do is use it as a distraction from those thoughts. No matter how depressed I am I usually feel better after seeing friends. Ok there are times when you have to get it out but not every time and not to excess as you do drive everyone away in the end. Depression is a very selfish illness and we often forget that helping others with their problems can help us with ours. That's what I have found anyway. x
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Veronica111 Madasahatter
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Thanks for your advice.
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