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Age doesnt give you the right to talk down

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sarah1996
sarah1996

I am posting this as I am now fed up with the amount i have been talked down to and insulted on this site.

Just because Im 20 doesnt mean I do not know what im talking about, it also doesnt give members the right to insult me or treat me like a child.

Quite frankily I know feel like I cannot say something without being judged, this site is supposed to be helpful when in fact I am actually finding it a lot more upsetting.

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  • bini31328
    bini31328 sarah1996

    Posted

    Aah , dont be upset Sarah , we are all very different people , come from different countries and have different back stories - that makes effective communication hard ( its hard enough face to face with friends and family sometimes dont you find ? ) i truly dont think anyone means to upset anyone else , we are all going through difficult times , however strong we are and that makes us vulnerable and sensitive - of course you know your own experience better than anyone else and age is irrelevant . I have found that if anyone says anything that upsets you its best just to not respond , otherwise it just escalates / gets worse . Big hug honey - you are just fine xxx
    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 bini31328

      Posted

      Thankyou. You have been very kind and helpful to me. I sometime find that this forum causes more problems than helping. Im considering leaving it tbh xx
    • bini31328
      bini31328 sarah1996

      Posted

      DONT LEAVE !  Just ignore anything that winds you up , for whatever reason and respond to the stuff you find helpful   - another big hug , am off to bed now - night night xxx
  • linda38528
    linda38528 sarah1996

    Posted

    Hi Sarah, 

    I apologize unreservedly if I said anything to make you feel this way. I am deeply sorry as the intent of this site is indeed to support - not to insult or add stress.

    I think one of the challenges of this site is that initially at least, we know little about one another and ways of expressing ourselves differ quite a bit across generations and even countries. I hope this is at the bottom of this rather than an intent to patronize as I truly beleive in the genuine intent to help.. 

    I consider that I have been more sensitive pre-operation and since given the pain and uncertainlty and even despair at times and family confirms this in their own ways. Could this be contributing too?

    Either way - I am truly sorry for the bad experiences you have had, It is bad enough with the medical challenges you have faced.

    Wishing there was a more susbstantial way to offer support ... but sending hugs in any case, 'cause a good hug helps no matter what!

    Sincerely,

    Linda  

    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 linda38528

      Posted

      Haha no you have never done anything to hurt me haha.

      And yes hugs certainly do help 😂

    • hope4cure
      hope4cure linda38528

      Posted

      Been there a few times myself. It's always something. Some people are negative. I find most everyone here are very positive and encouraging as well as inspiring.

      Lots of gentle hugs and smiles cheesygrin !

       

    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 hope4cure

      Posted

      I totally agree. Its very off putting. Especially when you were only trying to be informative.

      Stay strong xxx

  • Fernlady
    Fernlady sarah1996

    Posted

    Big hugs Sarah. Deep breath, chin up & don't be leaving this site. I'm 5 weeks pre-op & despite me being old enough to be your mum, I need your advice when I'm post-op xxx
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