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Feel like l.have hut a wall

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lors23
lors23

Well l am now 9 weeks post op for 2nd hip replacement and 1st was done in december. Today l have woke up at 4am wih the hot sweats l used to get right after my ops and pains in both my legs at the hips and down front of my legs.

I thought l waa past that stage and have being doing good. I still get sore backs from time to time and if l have done to much the occasional bad day. But the last few days l have been feeling like l am back at week 3 for both legs. I feel a bit down as l thought by now l would almost be back to normal. But l am far from it. I have been off work since november last year and have just got another doctors line for 2 months. Which is taking me into july. I realise l have had 2 hips replaced and its a lot on my body but sometimes l just feel like l am going backwards instead of forward. I have been off my work so long the thought of going back makes me feel sick although l know l am not ready at the moment to go back. My life has become a routine of not doing much and not seeing many people apart from my family. And l feel all l am hearing is how good they are all doing and how happy they are.

And here is me stuck at home most of time with no life.

If it was not for this forum and my close friend l have met through this forum infact a few friends l have made through this forum l would go off my head. I became friends with sarah at the start and we became really close and thank god for finding her and if course Cels , Renee, Rose and Kate and Graham and the rest of the crewe who l could sit and name but woud be here all day who all became like a second family as l spend most of my days reading and talking on here. I see a lot of people come and go and l think to myself is this because they are bettter and back to there normal life and l am still here getting know where. There is no sign of me leaving or going back to normal for a while. And now l am thinking l have hut a wall. Is it just me thats taking forever ti heal.

I tried to be normal and have a few days in York and thought it was quite an achivment driving 350 miles but it ended in disaster not just because of my legs but the hotel was just not gonna be comfotable enough for me to sleep as l have a set routine in sleeping at home. So l was going to be to tired to do anything and ended up home the next day.

Sorry guys just feeling a bit low today you don't realise how mentally draining it can get at times as well as painful.

Laura xx

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  • joanne-1970
    joanne-1970 lors23

    Posted

    I'm sorry you're feeling so bad Laura. I've just read loads of old posts to see how other people were feeling at 9 weeks and you're definitely not alone with feeling this way. It's a long drawn out recovery isn't it. I read one poster who was 6 months and they actually forget they've had a new hip, imagine that!! No you probably can't imagine that yet, neither can I. Plus you have had the added bonus of having 2 done close together, that's a lot of trauma right there. I think you're on the cusp of starting to feel really great and getting your life back. Did you do more yesterday to explain the pain you have today?

    Joanne x

  • basia58126
    basia58126 lors23

    Posted

    I am just over 9 weeks and feeling like you. I felt quite a bit better about a week ago and went swimming which my physio encouraged. Since Sunday though have an acute pain in the side of my thigh deep inside a lot more swelling and back on 2 crutches. I walk the kids to school every morning which used to take 7 minutes and now takes nearly 20. The other mums and nannies are very sweet asking how I am and it's frankly exhausting smiling and saying I'm fine when I really don't! I am sure it will all be fine at some point in the future but for now I still feel I rubbish most of the time. I don't post all that much as don't like being negative but can't help feeling it!
    • AnnieK
      AnnieK basia58126

      Posted

      Oh, basia, I am so sorry to hear this! With the swelling and pain, perhaps you should take it easier for awhile. Can you drive your kids to school, or have someone else take them for awhile? You must take care of yourself. At 9 weeks I would no way have been able to be walking children to and from school, not to mention doing all the other things to take care of them and a household. 
    • basia58126
      basia58126 AnnieK

      Posted

      I have had friends walking them to school for the first 7 weeks but, after seeing my consultant for the 6 week check I thought I could get on with things a bit more. Seems I am impatient but, like Laura's post says, you read lots of posts where hippies are walking unaided for miles at 6 weeks while I feel pretty much like I did pre op. Pain has moved rather than gone and have less mobility and energy. Can't wait to get to the point where I am glad I had new hip as feel more of an invalid than ever. Probably sound horribly self pitying and negative so apologies to anyone who reads this!!
  • Nell1301
    Nell1301 lors23

    Posted

    So sorry to hear your feeling down, that's how I have been, I'm 10 weeks today, yesterday I made myself go to waterwork out, I was terrified to be honest, because like you legs,back, ache, can't sleep properly, but I totally surprised myself. How good I was, I stayed for the whole 45mins class, Also I got on a BUS on my own, which I was dreading.

    i think the feeling we get of not going out socialising, even just browsing around the shops we miss.

    Please God another week could be your turning point, just like me,

    Take care Chin Up xxxx

  • CelsB
    CelsB lors23

    Posted

    Yep, 9 weeks here too and you know I'm struggling Laura.  I think we expect too much too soon and yes, we do hear people saying how well they are doing but they are not the majority in my opinion, and also how do we know that they aren't going to have setbacks later on?  

    How quickly we forget what a huge operation this is and what our bodies have gone through in the last few weeks, and that's double for you Laura, you've had them both done since December.

    Let's face it - York was ambitious and if it had gone smoothly it would have been fabulous, but I think the fact that everything went against you, including the weather and the hotel, has thrown you into despair.  You're disappointed, bored, tired and feeling very down.  Hun, it won't be for ever.  Honest.

    I wish I lived nearer, I'd bake you a cake and then we could go out for a walk and cheer each other up.  But at least we have here, where we all understand what each other is going through.

    Sending big hugs,

    Cels Xxx

  • anna47418
    anna47418 lors23

    Posted

    Hi Laura

    I am now 16 weeks on saturday - at 8 weeks i was feeling better and less pain and moving forward nicely - then i also suddenly thought i was going backwards !  i think maybe i did a bit too much - and it was sore ! 

    i am now 16 weeks this friday and it is good - i am doing some gardening - i limit it now to an hour or so a day as i overdid that and it hurt!!  driving long distances - still not done as even shorter ones i get stiff - so do be careful !

    i have been told our bodies will still e healing in a year !  so take things easy.and get as much sleep as possible - even if this means an efternoon sleep

      i have found though that walking is great - i was doing 1mile after about 4 weeks and now upto 4miles without pain !   

    dont sit in four walls - if needed get a friend or even a cab to take you out to a park where you can have a walk and then sit and have a coffee and people watch - it really helps !! 

    keep going it does get better !

  • lors23
    lors23

    Posted

    Thanks everyone sorry for sounding negative just having a bad week. I would not change getting my new hips as it the best thing l done just the recovery can sometimes be mentally draining.

    I am lucky enough to have a very supportive husband who works from home so l am not alone if he was not there l think l would have really have went into major deppresion.

    I am sure l will be better soon and l think your right Cels l built myself up for going to york and when l got there l new right away l was not gonna be able to do it cause the state the hotel was then could not sleep a wink. So my husband new when he woke up at 5am and l was sitting on couch awake he saìd do you want to go home and l did. Felt like l had wasted time and money and my husbands weeks holiday but as usual he was supportive and great making me feel it was fine to go home.

    I will be fine as l say l will probably have a good week arter this.

    I don't want to put you folk that have still to go through it off as its worth beleive me. l just woke up at 4am and did not feel good l should not have blurted out how l was feeling at that time as it sounded negstive and l am not usually a negative person so ignore me. Note to self do not post when l have just woke up feeling rubbish ha ha

    • CelsB
      CelsB lors23

      Posted

      Laura,

      If you can't talk about it here where can you, eh?  We share our good times and we share our bad times.  We are happy for those who are having great recoveries and have empathy for everyone who has a blip.  That's what this lovely forum is for.

      We find out through the weeks that this recovery does not go in a straight line but curves into the good zone and just when things are looking great BAM, something comes along and wipes the smile off your face.  

      After the first couple of weeks I just though I would gradually get better and better, but it hasn't been like that at all for me.  Infections,  a haematoma and one huge bum cheek.  But today I'm feeling good and hopefully it's the start of another upward curve in my recovery.  

      You were so positive before you went to York but hey, you'll get back there.  Summer is coming and by the time it's here we'll be bright-eyed and bushy tailed.  We will, honest cheesygrin 

      Now gissa hug Xxxx

    • renee01952
      renee01952 lors23

      Posted

      hi Laura,

      when I read your post, I immediately started writing. ..I felt so miserable when I woke up this morning (also around 4.00 am)..why am I still so stiff etc.

      longwinded story. ...arghhhh ...The site was unresponsive for hours. ..

      I agree with cels. ...If not here then where. ...

      another thing : with everything I know ,I would do it again. ...

      big warm hug

      Renee ❤

  • Rocketman_SG6UK
    Rocketman_SG6UK lors23

    Posted

    Laura,

    WE know how draining this roller coaster journey is, I am now 17 weeks, and properly back to work, delayed train journeys in and out of London and all.

    I haven't tried going that far yet, and I know it must have been quite an ordeal even without the hotel not coming up to standard.

    Take some time out, relax, and plan something nice again with your hubby but perhaps not so far next time, say just a two night break?

    Best wishes

    Graham

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      It just came to me ....

      There's more roller coasters in this THR recovery than there is in Alton Towers.

      Graham - 🚀💃

    • rose0000
      rose0000 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      At look what happened to them! They were all hanging upside down in the rain the other day for a terrifying 28 minutes! That says it all me thinks...we all have days when we are hanging upside down despairing in the rain thats for sure smile

       

  • rose0000
    rose0000 lors23

    Posted

    We ALL have days like this, truly we do. When it feels like we will never be  back to normal, but trust me you will.....we all get there. People come and go, for all different reasons mainly because they are better. You will feel this more keenly having had two hip replacements, you have seen so many on the forum.

    This is a bad day for you, and we know tomorrow will bring a breakthrough of some kind....it always seems to work like that...you are getting better and I bet there are loads of things you can do now you couldn't do before....we just don't see our progress (and it can be painfully slow!)

    Can you not invite family or friends over for a glass of wine or a takeaway this weekend or tomorrow eve, or go out for dinner? You sound to me like you need a lift of some kind, and getting dressed up and doing something different will make the world of difference to your mood.

    Don't think about working, it is a long way off, and you will be ready by then almost certainly. Just get yourself out - anywhere, I went through this at your stage, do you remember? I am sure you posted to me words of support at the time. It is horrible - I remenber it well, and so many people posted to say they felt the same at some point or another. I felt like a hermit crab hiding in my shell, but as you gain confidence your horizons broaden out again and you won't recognize yourself in a few weeks. 

    Where are you planning to go?

     

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