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Partner Snoring drives me beserk

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Dippy_Girl
Dippy_Girl

I know he can't help it but my partner snores nearly every night and as I already find getting to sleep difficult, it is causing me to sleep in another bedroom or use painful earplugs made of wax. (not good for relationship!!) :cry:

His GP has tole him to lose weight and nothing else, we have tried a spray used down the throat, but this makes it worse.

I am not working and he is, so his sleep is more important than mine at the moment, however I get really irritable (especially when he denies snoring and even says he has trouble getting to sleep when I can hear him snoring as soon as his head touches the pillow!!!!)

Anyone got any good ideas? He is trying to lose weight and we go to the gym regularly.

He doesn't ever blow his nose - only sniffs all the while, which must be causing some obstruction. He is constantly picking at dry skin in his nasal passage - must all be linked?

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  • Jane1962
    Jane1962

    Posted

    Hi Dippy Girl

    Does he stop breathing at all when he snores and does he drop off to sleep on the settee when watching tv or anything like that?

    My husband has sleep apoena and now uses a CPAP machine to help him breathe in his sleep - he took a test and found out that in one night he stopped breathing 24 times!!! Now he sleeps very well and no more dosing off whenever he sits down, which was really bad. He was like a baby in the car as soon as we set off anywhere he'd be asleep by the end of the road and after about 20yrs he's finally made it all the way up the Yorkshire awake.

    He has suffered high blood pressure and on tablets for that and cholesterol and if only I had been to the drs with him earlier he might not have suffered as they said that the lack of oxygen when he slept could have caused all these other problems.

    I'm not saying it is that but whilst you are trying to sleep check whether he stops breathing at all. If he does you have to go to GP with him as the patient can't answer the questions as they are asleep :!:

    Losing weight will also help, but it's never easy for the partner and after 21yrs I'm now a very light sleeper and can't remember the last time I had a full nights sleep, although it is getting better.

    Good luck.

    Jane

  • Jordan78
    Jordan78

    Posted

    My husband has been snoring for a couple of years and it really bothered me and I couldn't get any sleep, I used to wake up in the middle of night and I wasn't able to go back to sleep it was so bad. We went to some specialist that recommended using a snoring mouthpiece and it totally changed our lives. I am able to go to sleep and my husband doesnt snore anymore.
  • richard.mint
    richard.mint

    Posted

    I was definitely going to suggest using a stop snoring device but I can see that Jordan78 has already suggested that, snoring does actually cause serious problems for relationships, particularly as far as stress is concerned,

    Hence why many couples end up sleeping apart, which is a pretty sad thing in my opinion. All I can do is suggest where to find a stop snoring device.

    Emis Moderator comment: I have removed the link as we do not publish links directly to selling sites. You can Google sleepro, snoring guard etc or links can be sent via the messaging service if users want specific links from other users.

  • Tapman
    Tapman Dippy_Girl

    Posted

    Hi DIppy Girl, 

    Like other respondents, sounds like your prtner might be suffering ftom sleep apnoea. As metioned, if he actually stops breathing or makes a great gasp for air during the night, he probably i suffering from apnoea. The problem is, he is not awre of it.

    As a short-term help, he could try NasiVent (about £20 from Amazon). I suffer from mild apnoea and have found the NasiVent nostril dilator to be the best thing since sliced bread. 

    On the subject of nose-picking, that's something your partner  needs to grow out of!

    Nest of luck 

    Tapman 

     

  • donna06117
    donna06117 Dippy_Girl

    Posted

    My husband is snoring as i write. I have put up with it so long, i have become resentful because he doesnt care about how its effecting me!! I have earplugs in and it makes no difference. He says he cant hear it so that makes it ok. It is a marriage destroyer, i am so tired and miserable. I kick the bed, cough loudly, bounce around, throw sheets on and off but sometimes it just makes him snore worse. Sometimes i think he is doing it deliberately. He is never apologetic, I dont have a spare room and i dont deserve the lounge.
  • maryem15136
    maryem15136 Dippy_Girl

    Posted

    Try to convince him to try an anti snoring device. Read honest reviews before buying any.
  • michelle77777
    michelle77777 Dippy_Girl

    Posted

    I have a cure, not for the snorer, per se, but for the partner who is bothered by it. I have performed it successfully on myself (as the affected partner) and I am starting a pilot study where I find people willing to try my method to see if it works for them too. I would coach you through the process I used and hopefully this would be enough to have it work for you too. But I would also use this opportunity to refine my teaching method, adding whatever was necessary (and possible) to have you "get it" successfully.  I would do this for free! I am super excited about this process because in using it, I resolved the issue in under a month, and now I no longer even hear the snoring. If you are interesting in hooking up with me by phone/skype/whatever and seeing whether I can turn you into someone who no longer hears snoring, so is therefore of course not bothered anymore by it at all, please respond here and let's find a way to exchange personal information so we can hook up. I think I'd be willing to post an email address publicly to enable us connecting and we could go from there. Cheers, Michelle

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