Struggling to come to terms with genital herpes :(

Wow! You really seem like someone to talk to about this. You guys are not alone neither, i was diagnosed with Genital Herpes July 28, 2015. Im only 20 years old. I slept with my ex knowing he had genital herpes but he had on a condom. We always have sex with a condom and unfortunately i caught it. Im kind of upset with myself because i shouldve left him alone because he use to cheat on me, but i really do love him a lot so i dont know who to vent too and i dont know what to do. Ive been feeling down, he been trying to lift me up but I continue to push him away i need help.

I was just diagnosed yesterday August 20, 2015 and I feel as of my life just stops here. I dont know what to think and my feelings are very emotional. I honestly dont know how someone could love me anymore because of this.

Wow that's actually really sweet of u "I just love him so much part"

I was just diagnosed two days ago. I cried a lot those days and I still have a hard time but I've done a lot of reading and feel better. I also have two close girlfriends who have GH as well so it's a lot more common than you think. When my friends got it and told me about it, they both felt terrible but that never made me think less of them. And It sucks. A lot. I know. I'm in a lot of pain and have to return to work tomorrow. I miss being intimate with my boyfriend. But it's happened and it's okay. I'll work through it like I have everything else in life. Like you have through everything else in yours. @larissababy is right. We are not this virus, we are still us and have to fight and hold on to that. This thing will not define me or my worth. It's a disease that I'll live with and manage. And you will too.

What were your symptoms? I'm getting tested today and I'm sure I have it because this is nothing I've had before... I'm literally freaking out and I don't know what to think since I haven't been tested yet. I've google everything I could think of, but what I gave doesn't look like the typical herpes. Idk. I just need some reassurance or advice right now

Hi. I have been struggling with this for about 3 years. I haven't had sex since I found out. (Scared of judgment and just having to tell any one about it in general.) I have no confidence because of dark scars that have popped up on my arms over the years and people staring at me constantly any time I go out in public. Do you have any advice on how to get the scars to go away or how I can get some kind of grip on my confidence level?

Hey Hun, did you get your results?

I wish im in strong as you

I am 20 years old and became infected the same way you did. My long term boyfriend had a cold sore on his lip and went down there on me. We both were unaware at what this could cause. I feel you!

After 10 yrs of marriage and 4 kids later... being a military family and going long periods without seeing my husband... i am now more than ever afraid of intamacy ... im smarter than this ...i got tested im taking meds...i know to use protection and have no issues making routine appts... but ive never felt more disgusting.. worthless. .. emotionally scarred. . No self esteem... i feel less a woman ...less a wife ...and less a mother. ..theres a sugn on my forehead and the world seens darker !

Have you had it all of these years, or just got it. I just got diagnosed yesterday at while I was at work. It was the last thing I was worried about. I always used protection, I was the type that had the condom. One f*ck up with my new parthere and there goes my future...I hadon't so much planned for me. I was going to start school in August... get my nursing...get a house. Have a family. Now I don't see me going anywhere. I just don't understand, why me? KnowIngle I can never live a normal life really hurts

I wish i had some advice. .. but im still trying to accept this myself ...its like going through stages of grief and im still not at acceptance. .. i have 4 kids my youngest is 6 and i have had so many labs a and cultures and paps over the years ... my last pap was maybe 2 yrs ago and everything was fine... my husband has always had cold sores so we were always careful to refrain from oral ... he is stationed away from our family so i went to visit him last month .... we had not seen each other since christmas ... for me sex became more painful but i assumed it was bc it had been so long ...i came home and the pain only intensified to the point of tears do i went to urgent care... i dont have sores that i can tell but it is so painful i can barely walk at times ... when they called with my lab results were negative except for hsv and although it was reported to me nonchalantly. ..i was crushed... if anyone else has endured the pain let me say how sorry i am bc i know! I will have but 1 partner the rest if my life and i still feel forever plagued by this sterotyped virus labeled an std i feel like i need a stamp that says std bc that who i am now .. i meet with ny dr today and i have so many ?s ... i want to know how and when but most importantly why!!!!! I dobt know if ill get those answers and not knowing is as painful as the symptoms

I've just been diagnosed - pending test results, but I have no doubt as I'm in agony and have textbook symptoms. My daughter got unlucky too. Now I truly understand what she's been going through. The thing is I'm 50 years old and been married for 30 years and apart from one blip, where I genuinely believed I was in love, I've been completely faithful. My husband had an affair 2 years into our marriage. He's adamant he's been faithful since and swears on our grandchild's life. I feel I'm being punished for my infidelity. I've read it can lie dormant for years. I feel disgusting, dirty and can't see how we can get over this and lead a normal life. He's out round our friends now enjoying life. I just can't face socialising and can't see how we'll ever be intimate again.

So Lindsey both of you guys cheated and admitted to doing it one time?

I have been in my marriage for 20 years, and never had an affair. Somehow I contracted herpes last week and my husband blamed me. He said I must have had a latent infection. I don't think that can be possible. This is my first outbreak. I hope you can get to the truth, and I am sorry this happened to you. Nobody should ever have to go through this pain. 

I am in the same boat. I am also pending results. But the discussion has already vested towards my faithfulness. I have never ever been unfaithful nor even had a fleeting thought to do so. And I don't suspect that he will ever accept that this could have come from him. Who has had to deal with cold sores all his life. I am saddened that this will be the end of over 10 years together.

Im in the same boat as you. I don't see a future I just found out today.

You remind me of myself. I've been with my husband for 13 years. Both of us completely faithful. I just don't understand it! I haven't been formally diagnosed but I know it's it. I have all the symptoms besides the lesions. I also have kids, 3 daughters & I'm so afraid that I've somehow infected them without knowing I've had this hidden in my body all this time. I don't know how I'm going to put all the pieces back together and be the wife & Mom I was prior to all this starting. I can't function at all.