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Worried I can't get pregnant!

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brogan23793
brogan23793

Hi,

I've never written on a forum before so I hope I make sense!

I first found out I had pcos when I was just turning 16! I was young and overwhelmed and all I took in from the information given was infertility. I then being a stupid teenager never used protection cause I was ignorant to other risks!

I was just turning 19 when I met my now partner, I obviously told him about my cysts and we never used protection and that was the last of it.

Even though I knew I had cysts, I always got this exciting feeling when I would be late in hope it was pregnancy, I would work myself up and then feel so gutted when the test would say negative even tho I expected it!

Anyway last year at the doctors I had some pain and I went for a scan and apparently theirs no signs of cysts anymore, but I am at least 4 stone heavier.

I still havent used protection and I am starting to feel so disheartened. Its like every month I have this battle in my head of being positive and then being realistic. Like this week I've been researching all about implantation periods, just cause my periods different. I know if I was to do a test it would say negative! I get my hopes up, then like tonight I have pains in my ovaries and I just think "nope not this time" and I just get this weird emotional feeling! Its not sadness or anger its just an overwhelming fed up feeling that I cant even describe.

I dont like to talk to my partner about it as he is to laid back, he is 9 years older than me and we joke about him being an old dad. But I am worried hes going to get impatient.

I feel lost!

I dont feel like I have anything to contribute to the forum but a rant!

Any stories or advice is welcomed!

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  • Chris-J
    Chris-J brogan23793

    Posted

    I find it strange that you received a PCOS diagnosis which later changed. PCOS doesn't simply 'go away' - you either have the condition or you don't.

    At this stage, you don't really know which diagnosis was correct. E.G. Were you misdiagnosed at 16 years old or have you been misdiagnosed a year ago?

    In your situation, I'd recommend you request a full vaginal ultrasound to ensure you a achieve a definate diagnosis (one way or the other). You'll need to be referred to a specialist gynaecologist who'll instruct/authorise this definitive test.

    Once you know, (either way) you'll know what you're dealing with..........PCOS doesn't mean you can't get pregnant, it just means that pregnancy may be more difficult to achieve.

    • brogan23793
      brogan23793 Chris-J

      Posted

      I doubt I had a mis diagnosis when I was young as they asked me and I opted in for blood samples to be sent to a college somewhere up the line for them to play with.

      I did have a vaginal ultrasound with blood tests, the results were I had raised androgen but no sign of any cysts.

      I know pcos doesn't mean I can't have children, I have friends with pcos and they have a few children, it doesn't stop the constant worrying about it though. I'm actually saying about how I keep working myself up about it as I have read many others have to.

      Thank you.

  • Chris-J
    Chris-J brogan23793

    Posted

    Sorry - I don't have any wise words/suggestions to offer you. However, if you are certain that you don't have PCOS maybe you should seek the help, support or guidance of those (on other forums) who find themselves in a similar situation to you (or have been where you are).
    • brogan23793
      brogan23793 Chris-J

      Posted

      I'm not certain that I don't have it, I'm just fed up at the thought of going back to my doctors again for my ultrasounds and more blood test haha. Every time I go doctors I got a different doctor, I have all the symptoms the excess hair on me is unbelievable, I have gained 4 stone over the past 5 years, I have Acanthosis from the Insulin Resistance to.

      Okay thank you ill seek help elsewhere smile

  • emma2214
    emma2214 brogan23793

    Posted

    Hi everyone

    I'm not a pcos expert but I can tell u my story which relates a lot to brogan post! I was diagnosed with pcos at 21 I'm now 27 I do not have cysts either, my pcos is caused by the follicles in my ovaries not maturing these are like little fingers that grow and push an egg out of the ovary down into the fallopian tube, for me this only happens once in a blue moon and i don't have periods hardly at all my last being almost 2 years ago!

    However on a positive note I do have a child he is 4 now and was a complete suprise as I told my now husband when I met him I could prob not concieve etc so there is hope brogan! We are and have been trying for a second child for around 9 months with no luck as yet however I have gained 3 stone since I had my son.

    I'm on 1.5mg of metformin and have now requested to be referred bk to my specialist at the hospital For support.

    I do believe if I loose the majority of the 3 stone I've put on then I will manage to concieve again so I'm starting slimming world diet this week you can get 12 weeks free through your gp.

    I hope this helps you brogan try to stay positive tho and ladies I have set up a Facebook page which I try to post regular info on and my end goal is to try to organise local support groups for us ladies but it's a massive battle at the moment

    Xxxxxx

    • brogan23793
      brogan23793 emma2214

      Posted

      Hi Emma

      So glad to hear of someone who's been in the same situation!! I've been wrecking my brain trying to remember what the doctors said and that I had made the cysts going in my head haha!

      I never realised their was different kinds of pcos as you can tell I haven't been given that much help over the years, just stuff I have researched myself!

      It's nice to hear such a positive story! I'm happy that you have got a little one and are trying! I have periods quite often and they are quite heavy and draining! This period has been different, good old google (I must stop depending on it) came up of pages of it being an implantation period! Me getting my hopes up again as a test today said no! Oh well nothing I'm not used to haha.

      Is there anything you do specifically that you think may have helped you get pregnant?

      I'm on the weight management programme for gastric surgery so I am losing weight, fingers crossed that contributes.

      Can you explain what metformin is please? I can't remember but I think I asked for it from a doctor when I was younger and they said no! My memory is hazey but the name rings a bell haha!

      Thank you Emma and I would love to join the page on Facebook if you could let me know tell name that would be cool smile

  • manda52431
    manda52431 brogan23793

    Posted

    I am not one for emotions but your heart felt emtions struck a serious cord! One far too real with me!..

    I was mis diagnoses as a teenager with PCOS mainly due to prsenting all the symtoms but no cysts , as a teenager i was training 3-4 days a week and weekends but got an injury that changed my career direction. I gained weight quickly 10plus yrs later, it haunts me. This last year has been horrendous visiting the fertility clinic poked , feeling violated quite honestly for the tinest person i have ever seen to tell me i am over weight (like i dont know) and have tried everything over the last 10yrs to lose it!! They cant to any more until i lose it, all be it with determination and depression i have again tried to change my diet, gyms sessions etc. I have been with my husband for 7yrs married for nearly 3, he has two kids already and as much as i love them like my own it is far from the same.. he thinks he understands but really how can he has kids of his own. As a teenager i had the most horrendous heavy periods the thought the pill didnt help but never been on one since, and they have never been the same, there was a few years back where i only had 2 in a year.

    I feel like i am in what i can only describe as meltdown mode!! Everyone around me is either pregnant or has babies, i luv them all but am really struggling to spend anytime with any of them for the fear of just breaking down which seems to be a daily occurance..

    I feel your pain completely and as sad is it is to hear you are experiencing similar trauma ( coz thats what it feels like or grieve for what hasnt even happened yet!) It certainly reminds you that you are not alone xx

  • helene911
    helene911 brogan23793

    Posted

    Hi! Is it still a problem to be a mother for you? It's my work- I make a deal with you, and then help you with reccomending a clinic, doctor and with other things, such as translator, hotel and etc.

    If you're interested in it, you may write to me:

    Wanttobeamom@yandex.ru

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