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bereavement.lost my partner 5 months ago and need any advice to cope

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ann66184
ann66184

Am new to this web site but looking for advice on coping with. Bereavement. As I retired last year am left with a lot of time on my hands and finding it hard to cope with what has happened at the moment. Perhaps there is someone who has gone through. Similar and can point me in the right direction with coping

Stragies. I feel as if I am losing it if that makes sense to anyone.

Help.

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  • play2day
    play2day ann66184

    Posted

    I'm sorry about your loss. I remember when my father died, it was hard on my mother, because they did everything together. My mother eventually sold the house and bought a nice townhouse, so that she didn't have to take care of the yard. She took up golf, tennis and bridge. She was always busy and cultivated some good friendships. You might consider taking up some hobbies that would involve other people. Don't get into anti depressants though. It's natural to feel bad when bad things happen. You will get past it. Good luck dear.

    • ann66184
      ann66184 play2day

      Posted

      Thank you so much for your kind words I really appreciate it.

      Yes I know I have to start doing thing, after being so busy as I was his carer and retiring last year, have been left with no

      Responsibilities. I hope to be able to make new contacts

      with others who understand what I am going through.

      Like everything it is taking that first step.

      Kind regards. Ann

  • donns_71925
    donns_71925 ann66184

    Posted

    I am so sorry for your loss i lost my partner in December there is no fixed time for bereavement and  i know people will tell you that you that you will learn to live your life without that person but i dont feel like that i feel you learn to live your life around the fact that they are gone.  I still say goodnight to my partner everynight and still argue with him whan i cant find something even though he doesnt answer back.  I have found new things to do to pass the time and have good friends and family but not a day goes by that i dont think about him and i feel thats normal try to keep yourself busy and focus on all the good things it will get easier hope this helps take care.
    • ann66184
      ann66184 donns_71925

      Posted

      Hi. Thank you so much for your kind words. Still early for

      You as well then. Seemed to cope at first but that was

      probably because it was all being sorted. Family and friends

      have to carry on with their lives so I must try to get on with

      mine. I feel it will be a big help to have contact with others in

      the same position as myself as they will understand.

      Am hoping to perhaps get to find out about any local groups

      who meet for coffee and chat to break the ice.

      It is kind of you to get in touch with your wishes. Nice to hear

      from you at anytime.

      Kind regards

      Ann

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