i feel like im dying

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how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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    Hi Kim your not alone and you are not slowing dying of anything. Try to ease your mind by reminding yourself that all test were clear. Its all hormones. They throw us through the ringer for sure! You will feel better soon. I promise! I still have rough days but they are easier to get through when I say oh its hormones again. Please try and take it easy and rest as much as possible. Im praying for you! Take care Kim
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      Hi Becky, I'm exactly the same don't feel right and when I wake up you don't feel you either people say it will get better and that's my only hope..I'm glad you are feeling better it's so hard 

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    You definitely are not alone. I have had every test you can think of as well and feel the same as you. Tired from insomnia, horrible gas, racing heart, anxiety, one minute I'm freezing with chills and the next I'm hot, dry itchy skin, you name it, I've felt it, weird head pressure, horrible dreams and feelings of dread, just all kinds of stuff. But be reassured you really are ok. Hormones effect every part of our body and it's normal. You really will be ok.

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      Thank you for your testimony! I am 67 and started these symptoms in April after my doctor and I determined that it was not a good idea to still be on HRT at my age. I have been hit hard!! I feel sick all the time. I have that same weird head pressure. My primary care doc set me up with an ENT to determine if my head had something to do with my nasal sinuses. I had to cancel and I now realize it has nothing to do with my sinuses! My head hurts all the way down through my neck! Strange taste in my mouth and don't know from one day to the next what symptoms I will have when i wake up. On bad days, my whole body hurts. I have to force myself to move then I do feel better after awhile. I so hate that this happening!!!

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      Thank goodness for your reply. These are my symptoms, and the past 10 days have been the worst...However in under a month I would have reached a year without a period.

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      I have these symptoms and more and still have periods, but I hold hope and I truly believe what we eat/consume has a lot to do with it and also our need to look after our own mental health during this process. Its not easy, I hope you have support around you

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      As always, life is full of complexities, and there's never a "right time" to do menopause.

      My husband and I work very closely in our jobs ,and so we can navigate times when I need to flop, however , sometimes we are called to try and carry on because of who we are in our jobs. Looking forward to a couple of days off over Christmas.

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      Hi, i just read your post and i feel exactly the same way. Its Feb 5 now and on April 15 it will be my one full year without a period. Im 55; will be 56 in August. I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. I dont think its IC but i get this pressure but very little urine. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. I am going to get a second opinion from another doctor in the practice. My prayers are with all of us. I didnt realize men caused this. My mom never mentioned it. I have never had children but if i had id try to give them a heads up. Going through meno is awful!

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      I am there with you. I feel such dread, especially in the morning. I ache all over as well and have had so many stomach issues. I'm not sure if i caused them myself with the constant worry. I just went to my gyno yesterday and she wanted be to take anxiety medicine for at least one month to see if it works, instead of putting me of HRT. I also have developed a health anxiety. I feel for you, because I am feeling the same way. I hope things get better for all of us. I'm here for you if you need to talk

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      Hi Viola, I was afraid this thread was dead since the last entry was 6 weeks ago but still wanted to give it a shot. My worst symptom is health anxiety. Unfortunately i noticed changes in my body and went on line to look for answers. I saw the most horrific things. I have this weird bladder pressure but i dont think its Interstatial Cystitis because i dont have any pain, thank God! I am hoping its vaginal atrophy or stress b ecause i can deal with that a lot easier because it is reversible. I dont want to use HRT. I dont want to use anti depressants either. Eventually you have to come off both. I think my bladder and digestive issues are the biggest problem causing my health anxiety. I have had numerous blood work done and for the most part they are normal. My alkaline phosphatase is elevated as well as my sed rate. The doctors didnt have an answer as to why so thats what got me googling which led to my health anxiety. I have a rheumatologist appointment next Friday even though thankfully autoimmune disease has been ruled out. I would love to talk with anyone about menopause. Although i hate that other women are suffering, at least i know im not imagining these issues. I wish you well with everything and hope these symptoms will be a thing of the past for all of us. Thank you again for responding!😊

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      I wish you the best too, let me know if you need to talk. i've had numerous tests done as well, but I still get all these aches and pains, which lead me to think the worse. I believe in GOD, so I put all my faith in him. I did need to start taking medication, but I don't want to be on it. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. I hope this passes because it does totally drain the life out of you.

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      I was also so relieved to find this site and posts as have been experiencing the same symptoms, anxiety about health, aching joints, feeling sick in the morning, just found I have polyps, which has given some reassurance regarding irregular bleeding. It just feels like its never going to end! Always seems to be one thing after the other, water infections a few months back were awful...I also fall into the trap of googling..

      I am 54 and don't want to go onto HRT hoping things will start to ease now I have gone for a year without a period, wishful thinking! sending lots of hugs to you all feeling the same way xx

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      I feel so connected to you all..will be 51 this April and in constant turmoil...I'm also on propranolol for a anxiety..

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      I am a believer in God/Jesus as well and He is my Saviour! I have my faith and i know i would be in so much worse shape without Him in my life and have done plenty of praying. I think in part He is what led me to the menopause boards!💕💓💕. I am a member of other menopausal chatrooms too. What i cannot understand is why i havent met anyone that i come into daily life with that has had these horrifying symptoms? My doctors think i blow everything out of proportion. Maybe I do but i still should be heard by them even if im wrong about my health.

      There is no shame in taking medications when you need them. I tried Cymbalta but again i googled as was terrified at some of the reviews. My doctors think stress/anxiety are causing my symptoms. Not sure if i mentioned it earlier but one of my worse symptoms is the bladder pressure. Everything gynecological has changed, it feels different. My doctors tell me everything is fine as i have had normal CT scans and normal gyn ultrasounds. It feels as im constantly running to the bathroom even at home and not much comes out. I apologize for the TMI. I also have my digestive woes like you so you are definitely not alone.

      You are absolutely right about googling. Half of what i see is so inaccurate. For example i google "urination problems in your fifties" or something like that and guess popped up? I have prostate problems...lol!😃😃 Um, i dont think so. My fault though i guess i should have googled "urinary problems in menopause" .

      Yes id love to talk to anyone about this. Its awful and i dont know if things are going to magically settle down after im post menopause. I dont have too much longer, God willing!🙏🙏🙏 April 15, 2020 will hopefully be my new day! Im looking forward to it!

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      Hi Sian, i also had endometrial polyps. I had a biopsy and it wasnt bad at all. My gynecologist did it the same time as he did my pap. The best news us it came back benign. When i had a TVUS done they said my lining was thick. I have another appointment in March with another doctor in the same practice and will ask her about my lining and if everything is ok now.

      i have horrible muscle aches as well at times. Maybe because of declining estrogen. I dont want to take HRT either. I am about 2 months shy of my menoversary and i dont want anything to interfere with that. If i start bleeding again, please God no, i dont want to have to guess uf its the HRT or if im still in perimenopause and not menopausal yet.

      Take care! Ill be around the boards. Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience.

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      Hi Sherrici I'm so sorry that you are going through this also, no you are definately not imaging these symptoms. It can drive you to the edge especially if you are googling. I would advise you to stop, I did it so much that I had severe health anxiety. Right now my biggest symptom is my bladder. Uggh.. it is really getting to me. Im having bladder pressure too along with frequent urination and irritation in the urethra area. I've had interstitial in the past, but its been way over 20 years since I've had a flare. I don't get any pain either with this, and before I never got pain with IC . But even then , I think it was triggered to my hormones. I was having hormonal issues then. Are you having any other symptom besides the pressure in bladder?

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      Hi Mary,

      Don't worry about your bladder it will go away eventually. i had that for a few years and the more i was stressing about it the worst the discomfort got!

      and one day was gone..For me the anxiety is the worst! im worrying about everything, kids, my health !!

      i given up i dont think ever will get back to normal..its been 10 years for me!

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      Thanks for that Sherricl I also had one polyp removed there and then just waiting for another one to be removed and hoping all is well with test results . You sound so like me I thought my lining would also be thickening, I am hoping that I will get some guidance after the tests are back. Thinking of you too! xx

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      Hi Mary, sorry youre going through this as well😟 I do have other symptoms like digestive issues, sore breasts, joint issues, itching under my skin, and constipation too. Most of my bloodwork came back fine except for my Alkaline Phosphatase level that they do as a routine bloodwork. My Alp levels came back elevated for the first time ever at 128. Its only supposed to be 39-115. My alp levels were normal back in May, 2019. When i had bloodwork again in August, 2019 i found out it was elevated. Its supposed to be a bone/liver blood marker. I apparently have fatty liver but ALP levels arent singularly raised. My sed rate was also high over 120. Should not be any higher than 30. Doctors didnt have a clue so i googled and next thing i had all these weird, crazy diseases.😳. My doctors say they fodt worry about my levels unless it was 3 times higher. Well i dont want my levels any higher. I am supposed to see a rheumatologist on Feb 14. Thank God autoimmune diseases have been ruled out. So i was googling pretty much what causes elevated sed rate and alp rates. Youre right: googling is dangerous!

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      Hi Sian: Im sending good, healing thoughts and prayers your way! I think the polyp made my lining look thicker than it was. I had this done back in November. Im going to talk to the menopause expert at the doctors office about it.

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      Hi Sherriel - I had the same bladder pressure issue. I was just about ready to start to take medication then I got my period and that was the end of it. It happened twice. The doctors had no idea what the problem was. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. I'm home tonight, when I should be out, because one minute I feel nauseous then I feel like I need eat but then end up running to the bathroom.It just makes me want to stay home and not have a life.

      I tell my doctors I think the anxiety and digestive issues are hormone related but they look at me like I'm crazy.I'm looking for a new doctor who is female and post menopausal that has a clue what this stage is all about.

      Before you go through menopause you just expect to have hot flashes and the other standard side effects. No one told me about the weird anxiety, vertigo and digestive issues. Strangely I don't have hot flashes yet but I'm sure they are around the corner.

      I hope you feel better but at least you know you aren't alone. Hopefully in a few years we will feel back to a new normal.

      Marina

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      i have been turning to God also. i have not had a period in three months and since december ive had a feeling of inflamation and pain on my right flank. then it moves to the front and i feel pressure and aching. when i do deep breathing to try and relieve the anxiety it causes I feel a heaviness in my chest. at times i will feel the ache in my left side.

      i too get muscle tremors around my body, hot flashes and twitches or zapping feeling or skin crawling and the bloating and vaginal flatulence at times. i also gained a bunch of new food allergies and intolerances because it caused my immunity to go down. i have tried exercise. I am taking a natural supplement for perimenopause but don't know if it's helping. i also take a variety of supplements- calcium, b, d, probiotic, etc and my husband is thinking i'm a hypochondriac! the rib or flank pain is scary for me. has anyone else felt this and any relief or diagnosis? ty

      Hang in there ladies. prayers and support.

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      yes! All the above symptoms I can relate to. I get rib pain, ache in my left side, always the left for me, really painful at times then goes...I put it down to trapped gas, which at first I didn't believe as it was so sore, I thought it must be something more serious, but its been going on for so long now and I have had various tests...I have had polyps, but they said that shouldn't cause the pain, they were detected when I started bleeding slightly after not having a period for over a year. Stretching and walking seems to help. so sick of the bloating, sickness and flatulence! I have been taking extra menopause supplements, I think they may be helping a bit. Allergies are also annoying, coffee and oats for me and now I crave a cappuccino and porridge!! Hoping it ends soon..sending you lots of hugs xx

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      vaginal flatulence! one of a million new and strange things that's happened to me that I didnt have an actual term for. God be with us all. Hugs.

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      I also get rib pain on my left side only, comes and goes. Can I ask which menopause supplements are you taking? Thanks

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      Hi Sherricl & Ukkiwibird (and all you lovely ladies out there)!!!

      Sherri, as I was reading your post, I had to stop and look up it was not one I wrote. As crappy as it is, it sure is comforting knowing we are not alone in this! I just turned 53 and have been post-menopausal for almost 2 years.

      My doctor thinks I am a hypochondriac (and lately I would have to agree). I have always feared death but in the past year it's been terrible. Every ache, pain I swear to God I am Googling convinces I have cancer or something and dying! It's consuming my life as it's all I think about. Is this a normal thing with this (post-menopause)?

      Hot flashes come and go. Don't really bother me but do any of you ladies have this awful nausea? I will be fine for a few weeks and out of the blue I feel like I have a knot in my upper stomach and feel like throwing up. NO APPETITE either. Then it will go away and come back. Is this normal or am I just losing my mind cuz it sure feels like it!

      Anybody?

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      i have horrible nausea on and off all day everyday and no appetite!!

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      Hi, I've developed this anxiety this year about fear I'm dying. It's taken over me, honestly, every aches and pains I fear the worse, I'm scared to be alone and I get panic attacks. I never use to be like this. I've been in perimenopause for five years now, but this fear and anxiety started this year, now with the lockdown and Covid19 it's even harder for me.

      Just know you are not alone, people will think we are losing it. But it's one of the perimenopause symptoms some of us experience as I speak to other women going thru perimenopause and some have talked about this kind of symptoms. Honestly it's terrible.

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      yesss. kadija. this sounds just like me. I am always telling my husband i don't want to be alone. And always scared of everything. i exhaust myself worrying all the time. I am sorry you are feeling this way too.

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      I absolutely agree with everything that you said. I was in recovery for PTSD and dealing with anxiety and depression before perimenopause hit and then this pandemic followed. This is the worst fear that I could imagine and my PTSD was pretty bad but I don't compare it because at least I understood what caused it. I don't understand how hormones can do this to a person. It's frightening and debilitating...the crying, the anxiousness coursing through me, the nausea, the panic attacks all night long. I'm working with two therapists and a behavioral specialist to help me out of this. Every day I feel like either the end is near or that I will be committed...it's just insane. I pray that we all stay strong and do what we have to be overcome this and progress to enjoying this change of life.

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      this sounds like me also, and gotten even worst with this scary virus!! the constant worry of something horrible is going to happen!!! i cant sleep, eat or go on with my daily responsibilities..the tension headaches are so bad the past week!! stay safe xoxoxo

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      I know exactly how you feel, anxiety is putting so much strain on my life, I don't sleep well as I get panic attacks, fear that I'm dying, I live alone and it makes it worse as I fear something will happen and I have no one to help me. All my children have grown up and move away. I was OK with my single life. But since this anxiety I am feeling very lonely and scared. Luckily I have two dogs for company. Still I feel scared being on my own during those panic attacks and anxiety. Hopefully we will all see an improvement in our symptoms soon. I'm praying every day.

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      I know exactly what you mean! My kids are attending school away and hubby also works abroad. earlier this year I had a terrible panic attack. I took a 5mg valium and jumped in my car and drove to the vicinity of the hospital thinking I'm going to get a heart attack and die making several rounds on the block without going in! I was also of the opinion that I will die home alone and no one will find me! I then drove back home and quietly went to bed.

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      shari. i can totally picture myself doing this!

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      kadija. do you act like everything is fine when your kids call?

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      My kids are grown and gone as well..i do feel lonely and the few friends I have they don't have it as bad as us so they don't understand..like you im seating here constantly worrying. Back in July my period had stopped for 7 months and i thought, great im almost done then in January I got it again and every month since then and all the symptoms came back 10 times worst!! I don't have hot flushes just headaches sore throat and anxiety all the time!! Im scared at nights as well, I had a panic attack the other night, I was so scared!!

      I read a lots try to keep my mind occupied till I get tired and I fall asleep..

      I use to go to the stores, movies out to eat so wasn't this bad ..now being constantly in the house days at the time

      feeling scared and depressed..hope things will get better for everyone soon!

      feel better and welcome to write anytime you like xoxo

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      I speak to my kids about the situation but not to the full extent of what I'm going thru, so they don't really understand all these weird symptoms I'm getting.

      Last night I had a few panic attacks and my chest felt like I'm wheezing, my jaw and neck felt painful. I don't have a cold or asthma. It felt strange when I breathe, like there's candyfloss in my lungs.. Lol.. It took a while to fall asleep but this morning I wake up and its not as bad, not sure if it's anxiety causing this.

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      Dear Maria

      My period also stopped last July, I felt alot better those months without a period, then it came back in January until March and my symptoms started again but not so bad first and second period, in March I started to get hot flashes and a period too. Very light. In April nothing, and from there the worst anxiety and panic attacks started, headaches. And tons of other symptoms but No hot flashes. Hopefully it's the end of my period as I'm 53. I just want to feel a bit normal with a good night sleep.

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      I've done that too a few times. Omg I thought I was dying, tight chest. Neck pain, Overwhelming feeling doom, I panic jump in my car drove near the hospital which is 10minutrs drive from my house. and I wait in the car park without going in. In case something happens so I'm near the hospital. Then once I've calm down I drive myself back home. Not sure why or what happens to our body during those times. But it feels like we lose all control. Its so scary.

      So it must be this menopause making some of us lose control on ourselves. Omg.

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      Hi Leisa: im now about 2 weeks post. Ill be 56 in August.April 15 2019 was my last period. I still have the weird digestive issues unfortunately. Im nauseous but hungry. I cant win...lol! Then there are times when i do not want anything. Still have anxiety through the roof. Bladder still bothers me with this pressure. I dont have IC though, thank You, Jesus! As much as i hate doing this because i don't want to go down the hormone path, i started using vaginal estrogen. Premarin and yes, i know about the mares😢😢 I wanted to try this first as it got more good reviews than Estrace . I saw a urologist video by a female urologist, Kelly Caperpace or something like that. She practices in Washington state and im in Virginia so i have to watch her on YouTube. She has excellent reviews. Anyway she says to throw away the applicator to the vaginal estrogen. Put a little on your finger. Im thinking i might have Vaginal Atrophy. I also use a moisturizer Gynetrof and Calendula ointment. I started the Premarin last night and only use a pea size amt on the outside and near the opening. I use calendula every morning. When i get to three weeks of nightly Premarin, ill cut back to twice a week maitenance. Ill use Gynetrof moisturizer the otger nights that im not using Premarin. I hope this works, too soon to tell right now. I really hope everyone feels better soon!

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      Hi again Leisa, just wanted to add yes,i do get the nausea. Mine is like you said with the upper stomach. I feel hungry but nauseated at the same time. This Corona Virus lockdown is not helping either. I have a lot of anxiety over it!

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      I was having weird urinary type symptoms that come and go. I found that what helped was Probiotic Pearls for women's vaginal and digestive health. I think when hormones are off, the pH gets messed up and causes all sorts of strange things in the bladder/vagina. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. So weird. It lasted for about 6 months and then new symptoms took over and the bladder issues went away. And we wonder why we are all getting health anxiety! Because docs dont have personalized answers so we go to Dr Google where EVERYTHING is cancer.

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      zmama,

      I have also had the urinary issues, mine lasted for about 8 months and seem to have tapered off just as some of my other peri symptoms have acted up again. I think you are onto something with your statement that one winds down when another revs up. I was convinced that I had interstitial cystitis, I googled everything I could for my symptoms and finally resigned myself to continuing my oral and vaginal estrogen, having acupuncture and trying to just put one foot in front of the other to get through the really horrible days. Out of all the symptoms I have had, the urinary ones were the worst! You know they are bad when you are asking for the alternating constipation/diarrhea to come back so you can be over the urinary symptoms! lol. After 3 months of suffering with the urinary symptoms, I went to my gyn and I kid you not, he told me to have a colonoscopy to rule out any bowel issues that could be mimicking bladder symptoms. Afraid that my insurance would deny the payment of the colonoscopy after I had it done (no prior authorization needed and I am not 50 or older), I decided to wait my symptoms out and sure enough, they have improved. If you look around at other posts, you will see that most women that post have had tons of medical management of symptoms done, lots of tests, blood work, treatments that have shown nothing because peri is so misunderstood. I feel your pain, you have my sympathy and hope that by telling my tale, you know that there are other women out there going through the same thing. Hugs to you.

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      I read a post you wrote about shoulder blade,throat and ear pain. I am having the same thing. was wondering if you found out what it was and how long you had it and did it ever go away. I am post menopause.

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      Yes i pretend all is well, i dont speak about the extent of my situation as most people think you are over reacting, because when they look at you physically you are ok, but its inside thats suffering.

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      Hi Leisa.

      I'm new to this site and I'm so grateful I've stumbled upon this forum. I read your post and I have the same EXACT symptoms.......the nausea is awful. I also have a lot of bladder problems, urgency pressure. I've been to the ER due to this issue thinking I had bladder cancer, nope all tests come back normal. I've tried my hardest not to Google symptoms because of course everything points to cancer (my biggest fear). Lately most days are spent thinking I'm dying from dome form of cancer. I am mentally, physically and emotionally drained to say the least. I also have been fighting migraines, so painful they cause vomiting. I'm very thankful for your post because now I know I'm not alone.

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      im new here and cant figure out how to use this forum properly but i have the shoulder blade pain which caused me to have neck surgery to get rid of it. sadly the pain remains. i have severe nausea, ear ringing, and every other horrible symptom. i just got home from the er where all my tests were normal. i am at the end of my rope. i hope we can help eachother cope.

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      Hi Vicky. I don't know why I am not getting notification on responses. I am so sorry I just seen this. I know what it's like when you are just wanting someone to talk to and seems like you are going through this alone.

      You are going to laugh about the shoulder blade/throat and ear pain. The shoulder pain was just from me sitting wrong and being on my lap-top with not very good posture. The pain in my throat and ears of all things was TONSIL STONES! Gross as they are, I was relieve that was all it was. I have always had them but with menopause and everything drying out, they are more common!

      How are you doing? If you ever need to talk, I am here. I am in California.

      Hang in there honey!

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      Hi Marianne70635

      How are you honey! You are SO not alone! We sound like sisters from another mister (lol). When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! Just had mild hot flashes, periods all over the place and that was about it. Looking back now, these bouts of nausea had me scared to death (yep, Googled every type of cancer under the sun and thought I had every one of them!) Now we have COVID! Can things get any worse? I am afraid to ask. It will be 3 years in December since my last period. I NORMALLY have labs done every year but this year has been epic so I have not been in but have never had any bad labs (hope I don't jinx myself). My daughter was involved in a fatal car accident in January. Worst day of my life. She will be ok but it's going to be a long drawn out legal battle as the driver fled and his best friend died. Then COVID. Now awful riots and my niece is a police officer in Milwaukee and the things she tells and sends me are down right frightening so I think with all I am sure the stress is not helping

      My biggest things now (and some days are almost debilitating) are extreme exhaustion and the other thing I am having a REALLY hard time with is the nausea. It is not all the time but it seems to hit me every few months and lasts for about a week. It scares me and if there are any ladies out there experiencing this, I would LOVE to hear from you.

      We are in this together ladies! I hope you are all save out there. Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. We are strong women and our bodies go through so much (bleed like a stuck pig for decades of our life, push amazing objects our of us the size of an average bowling ball then try and figure out what to do with this object for the next 18 years cuz the little suckers don't come with handbooks, our bodies are dis-figured and scared out of love, then we go through THIS - lol). We will get through this together/apart and I can't tell you (to the moderators) how much I personally appreciate this forum.It has some nights made the difference of me going to sleep with peace of mind I am not alone!

      Love you ladies!

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      Glad to hear back from you. My shoulder blade and ear and throat pain have gotten better and I was feeling pretty good and now I'm having alot of acid relux and feeling like I need to burp and cant. Have you ever had difficulty burping? I also feel nervous and jittery. I used to get naseau but not very often now. Like you i do gets bouts of no energy but then some days I almost feel normal then bam you wake up and there is a new issue to deal with. Hope to hear back from you to see if you ever dealt with the reflux and difficulty burping.

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      Hi Vicky42722;

      I have been burping more than normal. I also noticed I cannot tolerate chocolate anymore. I had an ice-cream bar the other night right before I went to bed and HOLY HELL! I had the worst heartburn ever!

      Did your nausea come in waves. It seems to hit like every 3 months and last for about a week (which seems like a year)!

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      i also get alot of left rib pain - and over the last couple of years it's radiated to my back as well. can be really tender when i breathe in deeply. Many articles say to get checked out for serious causes from this, but I've had 2 CT scans for it over the years an I'm sure something would have been found. Doesn't really make me feel better as it's easy to think something was growing and wasn't yet visible to them...the mind games...my only ray of hope is that it has been less noticeable sometimes so i figure that wouldn't happen if it was a progressive disease. I come on this forum from time to time when i get scared though...seeing you mention the rib pain will help me sleep a bit tonight - thank you ❤️

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      my nausea was about once a month for over a year. It would last a few days each month and I had to make myself eat. It was horrible but it has gotten alot better. I dont hardly have it anymore. I know what you mean about chocolate I drank a choc shake the other day and I had horrible refux. My problem now is the pain between shoulder blades and moving to the front. I get reflux and then I take a tums and then it stops the reflux but causes me to have a pulling nagging pain between breast and shoulder blades. Have you ever gotten this?

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      I have pain in my RIGHT shoulder blade that comes and goes. I own a property management company so on the computer probably 14 hours a day and I am pretty sure it's due to my posture. I have had it for YEARS (and I mean YEARS) so if THAT was anything, I would be dead by now! (lol).

      My new found thing (and it seems like something new or nagging every damn day) is my head feels all fuzzy! It's hard to explain. I don't have headaches, a little congested but I don't think it's allergies. I just feel OFF (not really dizzy) just head foggy!

      Have any of you ladies had this? My nausea kind of went away replaced by this head crap and not sure what is worse. Just want a sprinkle of myself back so I can enjoy life (which is hard to do with this COVID political mess) again ya know?

      I pray and pray and pray and does not seem to matter. Don't want to give up on God as that is all I have but getting tired of this daily suffering. If it's not one thing it's another!

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      hi i really feel the same .somedays the meno symptoms come back with a vengance constant nausea tiredness aches and pains . i am fed up of being a moaner . usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive.

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      You could not have said it better. I have never been a "moaner". I am the caretaker in my house. I have always been bubbly and positive. I am 49 and I swear this hit me overnight. All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. The nauseau and anxiety are just awful. Dry mouth and burning tongue make it really hard to eat so I am losing weight. Looking back I am pretty sure I am 8 months into it but symptoms are getting worse. Every day I wake up saying I am going to be strong but then another symptom appears!

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      Hi Sherricl

      How are you doing darlin. I seen your post and it sounds like me. I am 53, 3 years no period and at first I was like "this is a piece of cake". Spoke too soon! Started with of course the hot flashes. Then I was off balance at times. Then the nausea which would come in waves. Good for a few weeks and it would come back for a week +. This of course made me very cranky. The anxiety (about health and dying) is ALL the time. NOW, the bladder! You mentioned you had pressure. I have had this deep ache and almost burning type sensation right on top of my pubic bone. It does not burn when I pee and this too comes and goes. I did an at home UTI test and it was negative so have any of you ladies had this. I also have low back pain but I have 3 facet joints in my lower back that are shot so the back pain (I think) is explained. I fell on my tailbone when I was a teenager REALLY hard and I was warned this might catch up to me and boy it did.

      My main concern right now is this bladder pressure. I am also going a lot it seems. Mornings with my coffee are terrible (piddling every 15 minutes).

      Praying this is just another lovely menopause symptom and not cancer. I am not bleeding, no heart burn, not bloated, not gaining or losing any weight just the occasional nausea which has been going on for years.

      We should have (when COVID is over) a national menopause convention like in Las Vegas. I would so love to meet some of you ladies. I think together and reading each other's posts, it makes us hopeful and not so alone!

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      Marianne70635

      Hi Marianne;

      How are your bladder problems? I started having stabbing (like almost electric shock pains) just above my pelvis bone. It was only a few times. Now I have this gnawing, burning like pressure right at my pubic bone. Does not burn when I go and my at home test for UTI was negative.

      Praying like you that this is just another "symptom" and not cancer. I don't have any other "bad" symptoms like bloating, bleeding, heart burn, weight gain just this pressure down.

      Does this sound familiar. I also have lower central back pain but I have 3 messed up vertebrae so that is explained.

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      yes I'm the same. It started a month ago. Starts off with a headache and nausea like morning sickness! I've had perimenopause for the last two years. I've had all scans bloods done it goes on! I'm always making a drs appointment about something! My stomach has been the worst acid reflux, bloating and major heartburn had an endoscopy too.

      Now nausea! This has topped me off as well as extremely heavy periods which last for days! What next! Now getting night sweats which are nothing compared to nausea. I'm doing my best to cope. Today I felt normal! It comes and goes and I cont plans my life because of this nausea.

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      You are not alone. I've been to the doctors office twice regarding this. Two different meds, for this, and neither one helped. I've had this for the last 3 months. Gave up on docs office. So I just suffer. mind you it was very painful some days but I guess sad to say I've learned most days to cope. some say try the Obgyn office, but I'm tired of being disappointed. I'm too old for HRT. My heart goes out to everyone dealing with this.

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      It is truly awful.

      Panicking with every single new symptom and the pandemic is not helping.

      Fear to be alone and hard to be with my husband too. I feel like hiding and just hoping for my body to stop this storm.

      I feel like under the possession of an evil force.

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      I am so thankful to know i am not alone. i am 45 and feel like im losing my mind periods come very regular but the past theee months i had one hospital stay because of racing heart that comes and goes, vertigo, hot flashes the stomach wrenching anxiety full ear head feeling periods are a nightmare. These Drs truly dont listen heck the emts mentioned menopause. I feel terrible live a very healthy lifestyle and have been completely taken back by this every single day for three months. All lab test perfect once i rule out no heart issues from cardiologist as already have been been by my dr but i have to be certain. im desperately searching for a good dr that specializes in perimenopause - menopause.

      Sincerely, Miserable

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      I'm having the same problems with my liver.My Alp is 150 and I'm getting test done next week and google has scared the crap out of me. Also having anxiety attacks joint pain and stomach issues and ear pain that not caused from infection. Menopause sucks.

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      I am having the same shoulder neck and ear pain. Dr. ruled out ear infection. Im so glad I'm not alone.

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      Hi Lisa,

      This was my first perimenopause symptom. I was so worried and Google is the worst! So an ultrasound and it showed a rough texture. The ultrasound nurse was horrible and wouldn't tell me what it means! Got a call from the DR to get bloods done on liver all fine. I still wasn't happy and wanted it investigated further and had a fibroscan done. The nurse was lovely and all fine.

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      I hear you. I am 62 and endocrinologist suggested I go down on my hormone and now in bed so ill. So weak nausea and feel like dying. no e nergy and sickly feeling all over

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      i dread going to bed

      wake up having major panic attack

      numb head and numb arms

      horrible

      interferring with my daily life

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      i suffer with the panic attacks that wake me also. the worst feeling ever

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      I've had the same pelvic pain and my going to the Dr. this week. Do you ever resolve that issue?

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      I am so relieved to have found your post. I have recently started getting discomfort in my right flank/around the base of my ribs. Feels like a strange sort of pressure. I have also had digestive issues with bloating and gas - feel the need to burp. I have had the latter periodically since starting peri-menopause 3yrs ago. My health anxiety is dreadful. I've had bloods and ECG done - all normal but I plan to speak to my GP about the stomach/flank symptoms. I do have fibroids and IBS and am recovering from Covid too (mine was very gastric) so none of that helps me understand what's going on and why. I just want to feel better and stay well.

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      Sherricl,

      you certainly are not alone. I cant quite put my finger on all the unwellness i feel, but have a doctor cousin who assures me that what i feel is valid even if doctors dont quite understand it. i have been post menopause since 2015. In the beginning, palpitation episodes, unwellness, digestive issues were frequent. i am glad to say while they can still come, they are at least frequent.

      One thing i notice, is that dehydration can cause me to feel rather unwell. So i have been vigilant in my drinking.

      For me, faith too is cornerstone in this struggle. Without focussing on God's promises, I find it hard to see light at the end of this menopausal tunnel.

      Thank you for sharing.

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      sometimes i dont want to be alone and then all i want is to be alone ☹

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      I understand the confusion between peri symptoms and recovering from Covid. I had Covid in late December and some days I can't decide if my shortness of breath is the usual peri symptom of air hunger or from my Covid infection. I had lots of stomach issues with Covid, super constipated and it lasted for what seemed like forever but I also have belly issues with peri. Sometimes constipated, sometimes diarrhea. So I completely get where you are coming from. It is so hard to get through both of these things at the same time. Hope you feel better soon!

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      I had similar bladder/urinary issues when I was in the menopause transition which disappeared after menopause. Because of terrible hot flashes I went on HRT about six years after menopause and after a bit the urinary problems returned. I hope that reassures you a bit. I suffer terrible medical anxiety so understand what you are going through.

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      Hello, please can someone help to ease the absolute terror I have that I've got some terrible neurological disease?

      I have so many odd symptoms I just feel like I'm about to drop dead any minute.

      I have patches on my feet that burn, yet when I look there is nothing there, my body goes stiff and I feel like I'm swaying, I have strange feelings in my fingers, I have panic attacks with sob, sweating, fast heart rate every time I need a bowel movement. I just constantly feel like I'm going to drop dead in front of my 12 year old daughter. I have been like this for 3 years and I'm finding it harder and harder to cope. Sorry for the rant 😦

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      hi, are your periods still regular? have you had any tests? x

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      Hi, my periods are very irregular, I won't have a period for 3-4 months, then I'll have one every 18 days a few times, the 5 months without...I've had quite a lot of tests, bloods, been to 2 neurologists, gynae, gastro docs, all okish, except for Sibo and low in vit d and iron. but my health anxiety is through the roof and I keep thinking there has to be something wrong with me but they just haven't found it yet

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      aw bless you i know the feeling, are you taking iron? how is your diet? are you drinking plenty of water? x

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      Yes, I take all the supplements I need, I drink plenty of water and I'm now on the Fodmap diet for Sibo.

      When you say you know the feeling, do you feel really rotten too?

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      oh yes absolutely, i have about 100 symptoms, my heart rate was 140 this morning x

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      Mmmm sorry to hear that, it's horrible!! I'm finally considering some form of HRT

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      do some research first, if youre in peri estrogen tends to be higher, i developed fibroids when this started and estrogen makes them worse x

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      my chest pains have been really bad today I feel sick and faint and the head pressure too. I feel like I'm on another planet 😥

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      the skin zapping! googling this fills me with worry, glad to see I'm not alone

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      i also have been diagnosed with SIBOi spent so much money on the test, supplements, probiotics etc.since i have started my hormone replacement these issues have cleared up IDK

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      That's interesting Corinne 🤔 the one thing that keeps me (semi)sane and that helps me think it's hormonal rather than something more horrendous is that on the rare occasions that I have a period these days, both the day before and on day 1 of my period I feel almost "normal"

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      How is taking proprabolol ? my cardiologist prescribed me for palpitations but my body didnt like at all i felt i was passing out .

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      i have similar issues i have sibo and low iron i found out by seeing an integrative doctor she ordered antibiotics for the sibo and said after taking it i will be a diffrent person but when i read the side effect of the med im scared to take it the reaction with covid vaccine my body is so senstive to meds . im tired of being sick im praying hard to have helthy day and restful night . Good luck to us !

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      I take a low dose of propanolol with no side effects and it does help. I occasionally get tachy but not as often as I used to

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      I refused antibiotics for my Sibo because of some terrible side effects I had from antibiotics some years ago. I treated mine following a low fodmap diet and taking oil of oregano which is a natural antibiotic, msybe you could ask your integrative doctor about this.

      Just let me know if you have any questions. All the best x

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      Does propranolol help you? it was prescribed me for palpitations but i felt even sicker taking it .

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      Hi l am the same postmenopausal 4 years had negative smear in july one week later all menopause symptoms back with a vengance fear of death constantly panic hot sweats depression had to start ads citalopram 20 been taking for 6 weeks hope it will work cant carry on like this .Keep well ladies

      D xxxx

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      Me too , i took propranolol for palpitaions and felt that im about to passout .

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      hello Sian19469,

      I saw your post about rib and left side pain. have you ever been given an explanation? I have had the same thing for 2 months now plus digestive issues and no explanation from the GP. Blood tests ok too. Have you received any diagnosis for what causes these symptoms? Thanks!

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      Hi Becky, sorry to hear that you're having the same problem. I had lots of tests all came back negative. They put it down to diverticulitis, which of course can cause digestive issues too. mine went on for ages too then all of a sudden just stopped. It can be brought on by stress..do anyone in your family have diverticulitis or IBS? Hope yours clears up soon, it gets you down doesn't it when you don't know what the problem is xxx

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      hi just ready all glory to god , bit I'm in a constant battle everyday 🙏 I have some many things that's physical wrong with me , for aches pains to cramps tingling numbing surges of pain in bust hip aches groin pains back aches, stiff neck back of head shoulders weird headaches , light-headedness sometimes like I'm just floating ,it's a daily constant battle, I went through some really dark times in my mind and tried hrt but think that caused more light-headedness palpitations dropping in BP heart rate , had ecg done that's OK so just stopped taking it , but still constant feel ill daily , and now I have been called back for further testing following a mammogram, so I am all over the show , then I have to get down and seek God, because that's all I can do .

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      Hi Lynda,

      I feel the same have so many peri menopausal symptoms , im in a constant pain days in days out . I did many tests what i know is i have Gerd . im with you getting down and seeking God is the only thing i need too God is in control of our health .

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      just awaiting on results from a biopsys that was took from left breast yesterday , get results next tuesday , but praying 🙏 and asking God for good result , thanx for reply , nobody quite understands as the out of things that can come from menapause.

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      hello, wow you seem to have a lot of the same problems I have I think they’re digestive anyway they’re in my stomach and in my back and on my sides and they move around a lot but it really hurts mainly on my right side the most and I’m really scared there’s something wrong!!!

      I have horrible health Anxiety been to the emergency room three times the last two years a month ago which was just recently they didn’t do a ton of test but they just said you have anxiety but I just don’t think anxiety causes this much pain but maybe it does!!!

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      hello I have had the same dry mouth burning tongue, it’s hard for me to eat it drives me crazy I am 54 years old I had a hysterectomy about a year and a half ago but I still have my ovaries right after my 54th birthday all of these things just kicked in at once. I have aches and pains all over my body hot and cold all night I can’t sleep headaches all the time dizzy tired pain in my left side it feels and sounds like the rib pain you ladies were speaking of but just sore every morning waking up feeling like doom it’s driving me crazy and it’s hard to talk to anyone about it that’s not going through it because they just think that there’s something wrong with you or you’re having anxiety but it’s way much much deeper than that, but the dry mouth and the dry eyes and pain in the body is what is bothering me the most besides everything else I don’t even look the same when I look in the mirror I feel like I’m somebody else like everything is changed and I’m not the same person I was just a year ago I have to fix this I pray on it I buy things to make me feel better and they don’t but I’m going to find a way to fix this I have to oh and I can’t forget the buzzing in my ears I’ve never experienced anything so horrible in my life all of this is just horrific but I’m going to pray about it and I’m definitely going to get better I have to.

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      hi,

      i had the same fear about dying and losing my parents and it eventually got better and went away. i did speak to a therapist about it which really helped and i told my parents. they reassured me they are fine and this too shall pass. my doctor told me to make a will too and that this would help. but i have had every fear under the sun. you name it,! my latest fears are thinking i no longer love my bf and that i am attracked to women. im learning that women especially watch other women for styles and although we do admire other women, it doesnt mean you are attracted to them. also another symptom of perimenopause is obtrusive thoughts with no factual basis. its all a mind game but one in which we might need help to get thru. im on HRT patch and anti depressant but i dont think this one is working so i may need to switch. this will all pass so dont worry but get help if you need it.

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      Hi Jamie,

      I have no appetite, nausea, dry mouth, incredibly fatigued - tired, headaches, occasional hot flashes, night sweats, etc.. Fighting to keep weight on via force feeding myself. Also forcing beverages down to keep from getting dehydrated. VERY scary.

      How are you doing present day? Have your symptoms gotten any better?

      I've had my blood, urine, fecal checked --- all have come out normal. underwent upper and lower endoscopies today in hopes of finding out why appetite gone and nauseous. No cancer or ulcer found, thank God! dissapointed on the ulcer however as thought would be/provide remedy for resolve.

      I too feel like I'm slowly dying. Very scared.

      Came upon this thread while googling my symptoms. (Peri)menopause seems to fit. In early 50's (appears to be late menopause as still in Peri) no period since mid-December. have had periods off/on during course of last 3 years --- during which hospitalized twice for extreme nausea, dry heaving and dehydration. Several other times no hospitilization very nauseous with dry heaves. Couldn't figure out why as both days had started off normal. Drs chalked up to migraine and or stomach bug. Nausea a constant now. After reading through everybody's stories, hormone fluctuation seems to fit.

      I'm now in battle to keep weight on. drinking ensure and weight gain powder blended mixes.

      growing physically and menatlly very tired.

      Could this be hormones? I last bled in December and FSH test came out at 76.

      I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you if/when convenient for an update.

      I'd also love to hear from anybody else going through the same.

      Thank you,

      Laura

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      I have lists and lists of symptoms , just wondering what sill be next you are not alone , keep your faith .

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      Wow, this comment is so relatable. I just had a very light period (after skipping 2) and can truthfully say, the only 2 days I felt completely normal in the past 2 months were the day before and the day I started.

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      Hello Sasical hope this email finds you well . i dont know how i miss your recommendation for sibo as i am checking this site too often so i still looking for a cure for my Gerd and sibo yes as i seen the holistic doctor she prescribed antibiotics which is very scary to take it i read many bad review about it as an alternative she prescribed If i want to take the herbal supplements, take

      Berberine 500 mg twice a day for 4 weeks

      Oregnao Oil 230 mg twice aday for 4 weeks

      Allimax 1 tab twice a day for 4 weeks

      do you feel good after taking only Oregano oil ? please let me know . Thank you In advance .

      Betty

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      Yes, I found the oregano oil to be very effective but when I took it I was also on a very strict low fodmap diet ant I think I was also taking something to increase acid production in the stomach, because she said that a lot of times when we think we have acid it is in fact the other way round, that we have low acid, I can't remember the name sorry (pepsin?)

      Maybe check out this info online.

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      Thank you for your response , The gastro advises me after taking the antibiotics for Sibo then do food map diet and take one of the PPI omeprazole along probiotic and see if it gets better then if not they will ck my acid level by inserting a tube as you said sometimes we have low acid . But i hesitate to take the antibiotic but my pain isnt getting better i suffered almost 3 yrs wake up with bitter taste and many tummy discomforts , i start intermittent fasting eating just lunch and light food for dinner . Are you totally cured from sibo and feel totally healthy ? if so thats a big hope for me . Take Care.

      Beth

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      I wouldn't say I'm 100% cured because I still have some issues now and again but I am so much better. I didn't want to take antibiotic (because I have severe allergy to some) so I started with the natural route. Maybe you could that, give the natural route a go and if you are not satisfied with the results you could then weigh up taking antibiotics. Just a suggestion

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      Thank you for your suggestions , I got the antibiotics but i did some research some say the SIBO came back others with so many side effects so i was scared not knowing what would be the outcome now its expired , so i had to request for a refill with the holistic doctor since i didnt go back to see her for a year she recommends to see me which will be 100% out of pocket pay-for visit i almost spent $1,500-2,000 for follow up visits and private lab works . Im now seeing a traditional Gastro Dr who takes my insurance i was praying not to repeat tests with her which she didnt . Thank you for reading my frustrations . God bless .

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      Wow, that is expensive! I live in Spain where we have free medical for everyone, but if you go holistic you do pay out of pocket.

      Good luck with whatever you try!

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      Hi, with regards to your bladder pressure have a read about vaginal atrophy, it is caused by low estrogen levels. It can cause dryness, itching, burning, painful intercourse and can also cause unpleasant urinary symptoms. Treatment such as creams and pessaries are often very effective in helping the symptoms. May be an avenue to explore if all tests have come back fine.

      Finkyb

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      Hi I know this post was some time ago. But i was wondering what happened about your alp being elevated.Ive just had liver function tests and they are all normal except alp , which is raised 128. Im 56 and post menopause.My doctor is going to retest in 3 months but ive been googling and now Im worried out of my mind! Did yours go back down.?

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      YES, I am postmenopausal too, been a year and a half since my last period. It's strange, I got thru peri and meno without too much trouble except for maybe some sudden outbursts of anger (and I'm not an angry gal!) plus some strange behavior where I'd look back and think, WHY did I do that? WHY did I say that? Right before meno hit I had a 2 month period that seemed endless and I honestly thought I was gonna die.

      But now, postmenopausal... my life is pure misery. NO appetite, food sits at top of stomach, can just nibble, losing a lb. every 2 days. Muscle twitches in calves and feet. Rocking sensation, like I'm swaying. Not quite dizziness, more like I'm on a boat. Waking up after 3 hrs of sleep in complete panic. Hot flashes were never too bad, but heart pounding loud and hard (and fast) right before I'd get one. Then the rush of adrenaline.. plus panic attacks in between. I had no idea all of this would hit after periods stopped, in postmeno. I honestly didn't see it coming.

      And here's the worst part. I've had anxiety since little, so I'm ALREADY on meds for it, benzos. For the last 7 years. And now that anxiety is UP UP UP, my pills are struggling to work. I was fine before. Now, anxiety has crept its way back in and is working over my meds, even stronger. Sleep is a new concern, when my meds always handled that before (mostly why I'm on them in the first place)... and I feel all alone. Strangely sad, too. Sadness is a bit foreign to me, usually I'm happy go lucky. So the feeling of sadness is actually scaring me. I just stay in my room now. I've lost almost all interest in guys. I am 49 so this is a (fairly) early age to already be postmeno, but Mom went thru it at 49 as well.

      No children, wondering if this transition is harder on women who haven't had kids (?) Peri and meno didn't get me, postmeno is what's killing me.

      So happy to have found this site, I finally don't feel so alone.

      Wishing better times for all of us, and I'm just really so happy to be here. ❤️❤️

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      Health anxiety is the worst. I've had it all my life, but it's really flared up now with the perimenopause. It is so obviously hormone related since it's worse in the morning and best in the evening.

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      Hi Jamie, I get weird head pressure too. The GP says my eustachian tubes are retracted but no matter how much steroid nasal spray I use, the pressure is there. My jaw is always tight, my neck hurts, my ears are ringing. I can hardly get through my day. I feel like i always have some kind of physical problem and it's giving me major health anxiety. Is it possible to feel like crap 80% of the month?

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      I realize this was posted months ago but I'm hoping there are still others out there that can relate i feel as if this perimenooause is breaking me i literally feel as if I'm dying from nausea the moment i wake up to constant anxiety and panic attacks, jelly legs etc its horrible and so overwhelming I don't recognize myself I used to be such a practical thinking person. Everyone described me as "strong". I certainly don't feel that now. I pray for daily clarity and reminders that is hormones and it will pass. The health anxiety I have developed is almost paralysing. praying for us all

      be well ❤

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      Hi there! I wondered how you were doing as this sounds a lot like me right now hope you see doing well

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      ya the sore throat really started freaking me out , I've read where everyone said do avoid sweets , dairy , and caffeine, so I have been and have started eating spinach and vegetables and trying to get to a healthier weight , and wasn't feeling to bad today so I thought I'd try a diet coke to see if it actually did effect my symptoms and sure enough it did not even a hr after drinking it my throat has started hurting , feel like I have a vice script on my head moreless pressure , and right lower rib started hurting again , so needless to say there will be no more caffeine in my future , I've went as far as going to cvs and buying a rapid std test because my doctors and everyone says that I'm fine even though I was checked 3 yrs ago and haven't bee. with anyone else but it's like I told my doctor I felt like I had the flu and my throat just kept hurting off and on and was red , and they all chalked it up to post nasal drip , I asked if my hormones and menopause could be causing it told her I had read on this site that a lot of women were having the same issues she looked at me like I was stupid , and the rapid std test that shows results in 20 min was negative thank you Jesus , my sons are like mom you need to stop freaking out you've been checked you don't have anything but Google told me I was dying moreless and possibly had a horrible std even though my Dr's tell me if I did have I would be a lot sicker but this has all just suddenly hit me all at once within the last 6 months with the head aches and feeling moreless like flu symptoms and crap bundled all in one , I went to the er over it because my left under arm was hurting they did x-rays and said my lymph glands wasn't swelled and my blood work was fine , and I was like well why Is my throat red and why does it hurt but not hurt when I swallow and why is my armpit hurting and my upper chest off and on and why does my throat feel like it's going dry , simply it's allergies, pulled muscle , your fine just take musinex or a sinus med but here's the kicker since all of this started I'm having allergic reactions to a lot of stuff that I never had before , and my question is why does these doctors act like they've never heard of these symptoms with menopause well I'm apparently perimenopause, just turned 48 the 23 rd , so in short I wish someone would of kicked that snack in the ass and eve to for eating that stupid apple she cursed us all because she didn't listen to God's commandments , but I guess I cant be mad at her when I fell him daily to , I'm just so over all of this ughh , hope you feel better soon . hope we all do .

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      hi could have written this myself l have been treated for depression through menopause which has brought on thought s of death all the time l Have started on hrt past 12mnths and antidepressants which did work well l stopped the antidepressants 6 mnths ago as l felt so well but recent Bereavement s pushed me right back just starting back on antidepressants again just think will never be well again l. m 64 had late menopause 58 has anyone gone through same .

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      Hi,

      Sorry not be through the same, my symptoms are other, but I just wanted to say to you that nothing lasts forever, not the good things and not the bad ones and that I wish you start to feel a bit better soon 💚

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      Were you able to start HRT after you turned 60?

      I will be 60 in September and have never taken HRT.I have been told I am to old for HRT and to be having menopause symptoms. I had a decent stretch where symptoms were not gone, but more manageable. Then out of the blue I was slammed again with every symptom I have ever had. I was told it is anxiety and was prescribed Zoloft, which made everything worse. After 5 weeks I came off. None of the medical profession will acknowledge menopause. They will always give another diagnosis and push a prescription on you. It is so frustrating they will not listen to women! You can bet if a man went through what we go through a cure would have been found years ago! Hope you feel better soon. GOD Bless

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      hi there, I just happened upon your comment; I don't know if you're still going through this, but if so, please do consider getting an oral surgeon to check for temporomandibular disorders -- these show up with these exact sort of symptoms and ENT doctors seem to routinely miss it.

      I wrote a somewhat related post about it some time back, perhaps you'll find it helpful --

      https://patient.info/forums/discuss/thoughts-on-what-we-re-going-through-and-how-we-can-try-to-avoid-exacerbating-them-749174

      take care!

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      Hi! One of the things an nd mentioned to me years ago was sibo.

      I never did anything about it. I have tried numerous supplements but nothing worked

      Is hrt still working well for you?

      I'm 52 never missed a cycle rather have more of them. I'm always in agony . I'm considering bio identical hormones

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      yes i have mega nausea and it's worse with cramping and I get dizzy also. I don't really ever have hot flashes but I'm freezing and trembling alot

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      hi Sherri

      thought i would reach out as i am having horrid memo symptoms which weren't to bad a the start and just over a year ago god back with vengance and feel like i am going out of my mind

      , I to have the weird bladder feeling , not a feeling were I want to wee it just a weird feeling i always feel like i have a bladder infection when i don't, i also have health anxiety due to the fact i feel so crap ,have so many tests blood test , scans and all normal thank good ,constantly tired to the fact i feel i have been drugged especially first thing in the morning and take me ages to wake up , also weird abo feeling like i am about to have a period along with back ache and bowel cramps which come and go, i also get burning sensation in my private part which i have steroid cream when I have a flare up , by the way i am nearly 10yrs post meno l, also low moods and tearfull .

      no quality of life at the moment

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      Poor you, I feel really crappy as well and it's really getting me down. For the longest time I tried to stay positive but now I can't any longer, I'm too fed up and scared.

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      There is a lot of misinformation out there but it is also up to you to learn to use Google intelligently to narrow down the results by providing it with more specific descriptions of your symptoms. Telling people not to Google is not the solution. in fact, it is quite irresponsible. It's very likely that it was because people looked for answers by googling that they came upon this site. Sadly some will use people's pain and discomfort as an opportunity to proselytise. How disgraceful. There is nothing more harmful than giving people the impression that religion is the answer to their physical ailments. No point in trying to frighten people off googling for answers when it is obviously your own ignorance that got you terrified.

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      me too feel like under possession its kind of paranormal feeling when body reacts like this all of a sudden 😨😭

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      Hi there,

      Im in the same boat. I have health anxiety, anxiety, and sooooo many other symptoms. Im so sick of drs looking at me like Im a mental case. Im sick of being told its stress and anxiety. I am also a googler. I reallly have to stop it! My dr put me on an anti-anxiety med before talking menapause. I cant shake the feeling of dread, and Im so tired. I wish someone would have warned me about all of this. It kind of snuck up on me and knocked me over! Prayers for all of us!

      Blessings!

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      it is just the most horrendous thing. my perimenopause started about 5 or 6 years ago with rapid heartbeats, and just feeling really unwell always in the build up to my periods or during. i ended up in a & e a couple of times when it first started thinking i was having a heart attack or something was seriously wrong. i have not felt the same since. every day i feel rubbish basically. tired, low mood, pains in elbows, stomach, neck, back, hips, just ache everywhere like ive got the flu some days plus sore throats, very dry eyes that are so incredibly sore, the skin on my face is just awful nowadays, i never go out without makeup on. im just so fed up with it all. the heart kicking off all the time followed by hot flushes in face but body being freezing cold. i only work part time now and thats a struggle to get through most days. i have tried hrt twice but it didn't really make that much of a difference and then i had problems with my liver blood tests so stopped it. ive had tests for absolutely everything, and scans and everything in between but no answers. i suppose i should just be grateful that they haven't found anything serious, but then it makes it worse having no answers. has anybody tried anything natural that has worked?

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      DIM taken with calcium d-glucarate has helped me, along with a whole lot of other supplements and diet changes

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      i have felt the same way and it started in 2018. I dont know if or when it will get better. I hope it does for us all.

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      Perimenopause started for me in 2009, that’s when I crashed, or so it seemed at the time and everything in my body and mind changed. Fast forward to post menopause, been there for over 11 years and nothing has changed or gotten better, last year has been my worst year so far. I know that I have to add ageing into the equation now and that’s some of it. I was always told things would level off and settle down, still waiting for this to happen. I wonder if I will ever feel human again. I know I will never be the me I have always known again, she is never coming back. How can she, my body no longer produces the hormones that made me me anymore. I really wish I could have accepted this early on in this journey, maybe it would have been somewhat easier to accept.

      It definitely been a journey and one that’s still not complete.

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      I am so relieved to know that I am not alone in thinking I have cancer. I have always had a fear of it, but since peri- menopause it has gotten worse. And to top it off, during this time, it seems there can be a lot of unexplained symptoms. I too have had increase in Alk Phos, 118. Seems others have too. My Lymphocytes are elevated at 4.0 so I have to have a re-draw. Convinced myself I have a blood cancer, even difficult to write that, but I need to get it off my chest and see if others can relate. I believe in God, I read the antidote to fear is getting into the Word more, to help fill my mind with Him, therefore pushing out fear. Perfect love has no fear. Take Care all!

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      you just described what ive been going through for 6 years now. i had no idea what was happening to me when it first started and ive not been myself since it all started. i have a daily fear that im dying and i have shortness of breath fatigue migraine teeth pain dark thoughts muscle and joint pain. i cant accept that this is my life now.

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