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I recently said goodbye. But, guess what, I'm back and feeling so desperately low.
I did return to work, but had to admit defeat. I cannot sit for very long and, when raising myself from a seat, I am in so much pain. Without a crutch, I still limp. It's unfair to my firm. If I can't do my job properly, then I shouldn't do it at all and so folks, I have been forced to retire. My job was more a way of life than an occupation. I live alone and suddenly I feel so alone. I am fourteen weeks post op so why am I still limping and why so much pain after sitting. Is this how it is going to be? My first hip was fully cemented. The second hybrid. My Consultant assured me that the recovery would be just as swift as the fully cemented. But surely, it would take longer for my bone to adhere to the prosthesis. Wouldn't it ?
I have spoken to the Manager of my Health Club who has arranged for me to see a coach who specialises in rehabilitation. I do have a definite pelvic tilt. In order for my knees to align I have to lift the longer leg. The Consultant suggested that my physio could give me exercises that would help. But he did nothing. He just told me to watch myself walk! I don't know about anyone else, but, when venturing out, I tend to leave my full length mirror behind.
It's late, so no one is going to see this post anyway.
I should imagine that most people after fourteen weeks are pain free with no limp.
Maybe my muscles need strengthening ? Now I'm rambling, speculating and tearful.
Goodnight one and all.
Love, hugs and blessings ,
Maureen💕
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cheril1301 morriewynn
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Hi.I'm out on the Pacific time zone in Idaho so the sun is still shining. From what I have been reading hear, it's takes a year to heal completely. And everyone has a different time line.
I will write more
cheril1301
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cheril1301
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Do you take ice packs to work and have continued your slow stretches? We are all different and maybe your surgeon can make some suggestions. You are not yet very far into your healing progress. Prayers for you to become more comfortable
Soon.
Cherdonnay
morriewynn cheril1301
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Hi Sweetie,
I was never been given any stretching exercises. In fact my physio merely took me for two short walks . My wound, at three weeks post op, did become infected and I was unable to carry out any physio for two weeks.
I have to sit for long hours at my job and cannot be excused. I also have to learn forward to write. After my first op last Jan, I returned in April but merely dealt with admin. This time, I have a case load which I just can't deal with. I know that at fourteen weeks post op with my first replacement, I was
Not limping and it did not cause me pain to rise from a seated position. I'm hoping that my muscles are weak and that, over time, I will regain strength . But I'm not banking on it.
Thank you for responding xx
Msky morriewynn
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Hi Morri.This is my 3rd surgery in 18 months.Our body's heal different with every surgery and you really only have so much power over that .The truth is that companies nowa days see us as a liability after the age of 50. My husband was a "job developer" and he said it is not us being paranoid , it is the truth. I just had to take a 4 hour international board exam.I studied for it weekly and then nightly and as a part of a study group and I'm sure if I had not passed it could of been the end of the job.I only have 4 1/2 years to pay off my home and car and about 4 years as of 1/20 to qualify to retire.I love what I do so will probably volunteer in some way after I do retire.I have always worked full time and planned on working part time these last 4 years.The economy is not good here and many of us are not independently middle class.I just hope the place I work for does not try to retire me or look for grounds to fire.A lot of older employees are just there one day and gone the next.The company I work for is large so I guess they don't think we notice but we do
morriewynn Msky
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Sorry. I have received so many replies, which was totally unexpected. I thought I had answered everyone, but note that I missed your post.
I have eight years left before I can officially become an OAP. But I do have a private pension and, fortunately , own my home so financially, I'm pretty stable. Regarding age. I found that, despite the young and beautiful new recruits, I was, almost always favoured and that my experience was paramount.
Thank you for responding . It will be hard to move on, but maybe it's meant to be and, in the long run, for the best .
Thanks again xx
Msky morriewynn
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I'm glad you have options Morris.My husband became paralyzed when the youngest of our 3 girls was 3 years old.Our youngest moved out last December.I wanted my girls to be able to dream.I did not want the paralysis to limit their life.They participated in physical activities ,2 Did dance,2 did karate with 1 going to the level just under black belt.One was the costume director and designer in her high school theater Dept.2 played viola up to advanced.Bottom line I wanted them to developethat which was creative and that which was physical.I was trying to teach by doing.One of my young ladies is working in a Masters/PHD program.One is the manager of the highest rated store of its kind in our state and taking college coarses.My youngest has ADHD ,she graduated from HS,is with her HS sweetheart and has my awesome grandson.She takes classes through her job.I keep pointing out to them the importance of education.Im the 1st person in my family to complete her degree.Even being hurt I worked right up to surgery date x 3.Sounds as if you are a lawyer,are there any jobs that could be tailored to your limitations?I worked with our staff to meet our units needs as well as mine,it worked.Im glad you can rest a little longer and stay afloat.It seems that you are really valued at your job ,is there a way you can stay there ,is that important to you?You are getting great responses.Wish you all the best .God Bless,Be well
Loral morriewynn
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We all heal at different times...Your body has been through a lot. I had my surgery in May 2015 and to this day if I sit to long I feel pain in the side and femur area (my scar area, anterior approach), good for you that you were able to retire. I'm pretty sure you'll be fine, just make sure to stay mobile, my surgeon said walking is the best exercise for us older ladies 55'....Take care, and welcome back!
morriewynn Loral
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Thank you hunny. When you have studied so hard to achieve. When you are not a natural academic and need to read the same page over and over again until it eventually "sinks in" and then when you eventually qualify; gain respect and have the ability to actually help people, it's so hard to have to throw in the towel and walk away.
But thank you so very much for replying. It means a great deal to me.
Xxx
ann43383 Loral
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That's what my surgeon said too, walking is the best exercise and no need for physio. He is a very well respected surgeon and he has had no dislocations.
morriewynn ann43383
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Hi Ann, I can walk outside with the aid of a crutch and with little discomfort , but I can't walk without a crutch because I feel off balance. My legs are of equal length but I have a right anterior pelvic tilt which needs to be rectified but for which I have not been given any exercises. I have searched the web, which isn't ideal, I performed a bridge and promptly hurt my back. Hopefully, the gym coach that I am seeing on Monday, will be able to assist and put me on to the correct road.
Take good care xx
wendi27 morriewynn
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I am so sorry you have had such a difficult time and having to give up work must be horrid for you!!
Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx
I am 11 weeks after bilateral thr, and was doing great until physio yesterday when I was being taught to walk correctly, (I was doing wrong apparently).
I was told to squeeze butt pulling in tummy and then legs know which way they are heading, and posture is then correct.
Did a few times in the hospital and lots more when I got home, and this morning I feel like I have been hit by a train!
Remember muscles have been cut through or moved out of the way, and its our job to rebuild and strengthen them, and this hurts while working them, the same as if you work hard on other muscles, but we also have internal scarring to deal with and everything else.
I strongly believe e erything happen for a reason and the door that has just been closed for you will lead you to a new opening.
Stay postive my lovely
Wendi xx
morriewynn wendi27
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Thank you so very much Wendy.
I'm hoping that the gym coach I'm seeing on Monday who deals with rehabilitation, will help. I'm beginning to realise that as well as the physical healing, we also need to heal emotionally. I have just read my 2016 calendar to appreciate what I actually endured and did so on my own!
Soon, I shall be able to laugh at how long it took me to pick post up from the floor. Colouring my hair in the kitchen sink whilst using a glass jug. But mostly how many times I referred to "my crutch"!😳
Thank you again xxx
candice57475 morriewynn
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I'm so sorry that you're feeling so sad. Everyone heals differently but it seems 14 weeks is still fairly soon. Is it possible to consult your surgeon again? Please know that I'm thinking of you.
morriewynn candice57475
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Thank you Candice,
I'm feeling a little better today and am seeing my Consultant in March. He's extremely amiable and if needs be, I shall request an earlier appointment.
Thank you so very much for responding .
People are so very kind .
Take Care
Xxx
hazel14263 morriewynn
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Yes mine was in march but I rang secretary and asked for sooner and saw him after Xmas and said I was in a lot of pain so had another x Ray and found out one leg a bit longer . He seemed concerned I was in pain and said don't worry we will resolve this I promise !
morriewynn hazel14263
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Has it been resolved ? If so how?
Are you still in pain ? I do hope not.
Take good care xxx
hazel14263 morriewynn
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