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I think my boyfriend has bipolar, what should I do?

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lynn23363
lynn23363

I met my boyfriend a few months ago, he was kind, loveable, just amazing then changed overnight. He says he is ill, feels tired all the time, in pain, irritable, loves me too much, he's afraid of hurting me, so dumped me. He still needs me in his life but wants to go back to being friends and doing it all again. He has lost interest in his hobbies, work, people. He suffers from nightmares too. I really want to help him, I know he needs help. What do I do?

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  • borderriever
    borderriever lynn23363

    Posted

    If He has depression, He will need to talk to His GP.

    It sounds here with me, He is trying to let you down slow, I hope I am wrong.

    Look at the relationship with a stoney, cold eye and decide what is best for you.

    Is He using you.

    BOB

    • lynn23363
      lynn23363 borderriever

      Posted

      I think you're right, he knows that I'm a caring person and will never let him down. I think he's been playing me. He messaged me last night saying he's having trouble sleeping. It's always about him, he never even asked how I'm feeling. Thank you for the advice

  • stacey16142
    stacey16142 lynn23363

    Posted

    I'm sorry I don't want to be blunt but it doesn't sound like bipolar , depression maybe and it sounds like he's playing on your kind nature he's letting you down gently but still wants you in his life , to me that sounds like he can have the best of both worlds and that isn't fair . You deserve better

    • lynn23363
      lynn23363 stacey16142

      Posted

      Thank you Stacey, I think you are right, he said at the beginning I was the most caring person he has ever met. He pretends he doesn't know what the matter is. I think maybe your right he just wants the best of both worlds. He's probably met someone else and doesn't know how to tell me. He messaged me a couple of days ago, saying he's struggling to show his feelings and is trying to keep off his phone, he feels that he is using it too much. Well he hasn't been messaging me, so I'm going to try and forget about him and move on.

      Thank you 

    • stacey16142
      stacey16142 lynn23363

      Posted

      I wish you all the best sweetheart and I hope you find someone who treats you like a princess
  • Misskiss
    Misskiss lynn23363

    Posted

    I struggled with the same thing for almost 2 years with my now ex boyfriend who is bipolar. Trust me you can not help him if he doesn't seek the help himself. Everytime we had an issue he was afraid of hurting me and wanted to end the relationship, we took one 3 week break and got back together. Just as I thought things were getting better he started to get worse, the same things over again. No intrest in doing things only if I pushed. I finally ended things and told him he needed to seek help not actually thinking he would. Turns out he is getting help and he told me he wasn't taking his meds, it was like a wake up call for him I hope he sticks with. Trust me it's easier to move on now and save the heartache. If he doesnt want help he you cant help him.

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