In love but my partner doesn't understand depression and anxiety
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Hi all,
I am new to this forum. Glad I found it. I have depression and anxiety and recently started on AD's which is helping alot. i would say I am highly functionig as i manage a very busy department. A question for everyone who has a partner, do you find them supportive? My partner has never dealt with anxiety or depression and when i talk about it i dont think he truly undrstands, I am also a step parent to his 2 young boys, I often feel left out.. I am seeing a counsellor next week to talk things through. Any thoughts?
thanks
Lis
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Jackhammer lisab12
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Hi Lis.
Speaking from experience my wife was very supportive. She was somewhat surprised when I confided in her that I was feeling low as she didn't see any major difference in me.
I managed to keep a reasonably brave face on the outside but inside I was a mess and knew it.
After speaking with her I felt better and it was the catalyst i needed to go and see my Doctor.
It's very, very hard explaining to your other half how depression feels, especially if they have never experienced it themselves, but they will help you, talk it over and be there for you.
Don't be shy to spill all your thoughts to the counsellor, that's what they are there for.
Hope it all goes well and let us know how it goes.
amanda35274 lisab12
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Hi there ive had dep & anx on and off 4 many yrs. Ive been with a patrner who understood & one not. I think if you have never felt how we do its v hard to comprehend and still to this day i cant comprehend mental illness is still a taboo type of pull urself together for some. But i think the counsellor will be someone you can be open with without judgement & hopefully in time yr partner may begin to understand/ empathise. Hope so. Good look at your first appt xx
lisab12 amanda35274
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Lis
borderriever lisab12
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Depression and some problems caused by Anxiety can be a puzzler for many Partners who have not seen the like before, education can be very hard work especially when some may feel the condition is because of a neurosis.
Your apointment tomorrow will be a getting to know you. Make a list of your concerns and that will make it easier to explain how you are feeling and how to meet your fears and concerns
Good Luck for tomorrow
BOB
lisab12 borderriever
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Thanks BOB. Yes the kids have been a challenge to get used too but i wouldnt have it any other way. You are right i often do not feel appreciated and this is am ongoing iasue i have with my partner. It doesnt help that i have A & D. Thanks fr the advice i will defintely right down the things i need to discuss with the counsellor next week.
Lis
amanda35274 lisab12
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Aww well counselling for u both could be a great start. Life in itself & relationships are hard enough. Then throw dep anx stress in the recipe its all bound to have a knock on effect. Wishing u lots of luck xx
borderriever lisab12
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Keep a hold
BOB
lisab12 amanda35274
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Lis
amanda35274 lisab12
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Aww no. X sorry to hear that but a little headspace till u both get an appt cud be the making of u both. X hope so. X
amanda35274 lisab12
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lisab12 amanda35274
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I moved back in but we still have not resolved things. i am seeing a counsellor tomorrow and he is seeing one next week. He is going away with his kids this weekend and I have a friends wedding so the space continues. I basically tried to end the relationship tonight but he wants more time to work out if he wants a child with me in the future.
Had a pretty good week at work. how about you? thank you for your support!!!
amanda35274 lisab12
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Ohh bless u well thts a start if hes at least thinking about the baby thing. Maybe theres hope xx try have a gud tym @ the wedding destress a bit & im full of cold n feel yukky but slowly improving on the dep / anx front... its a start. Being on heres helping thank u too :0) good luck tomorrow x
lisab12 amanda35274
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I saw a counsellor today, she gave me some good advice. My partner is away with his boys this weekend. I feel like the fluxo is helping me cope better with this uncertainty- i would be a mess otherwise! The baby thing is a big deal. He lost his sister to cancer 2 months ago and we have been through alot so I feel he is grieving and going through his own stuff. I have faith we can get through this. It is nice to hear you are doing well, i feel the support has helped alot on this forum. people are so nice.
thank you for listening to me Amanda
amanda35274 lisab12
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Hey. No its a bad cold this tym coughing away.. good to hear the counselling went well. And no problem a problem shared & all that xx grief will def be adding to his probs that was the catalyst to the start of this bout of major dep amongst other things losing my stepdad to cancer in august. He was pretty much there after losing my real dad to cancer at 8 yrs old so it opened up lots of bad memories. Im getting there now and want u to have a great weekend. If u nd to talk u know where i am. ?? xx
lisab12 amanda35274
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That is good to hear you are getting through this bout of depression. I feel like the flux is really helping me deal with this x
Thanks Amanda i am here aswell to chat aswell if you need too
amanda35274 lisab12
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