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Long story short (ish):
My boyfriend of a year and a half told me he has suffered from depression for many years. The reason he aditted it to me was because he would be there one minute then the next not speak to me for days without any warning.
That went on for awhile, but recently it got much worse. We were perfectly happy and fine (our relationship has been pretty strong minus the depression) and I lost my temper after we had plans and he just ditches them which happens fairly frequently in our relationship. He says this is the only way he knows how to deal with it and it doesnt have to do with me.
These past 2 months have been different. When i expressed my anger for taking my time for granted, i stopped hearing from him for over a month! Not one word. I tried to reach out to him but he would never reply to any messages. I finally decided to call him to ask how he feels and if we are still together and he could no give a 'yes' or 'no' answer- only 'I dont know'. I asked if it was the depression or just me and he replies 'this is what im trying to figure out'.
I know the common answer would be to walk away..but i truly know he doesnt mean what he says and really does love me and it's the depression talking.
How long could this last for?
Obviously have felt so heartbroken from all of this, but I think I have made myself too available. He always knows he can do that and me just forgive him. Should I just wait for him to message for now on and show him what it would be like me not always being there?
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melle77825 leah44609
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I don't know what to tell you. We were also pretty great together until he started feeling low again. I'm just giving him space, not contacting him, and I guess if and when he wants to contact me, he will... until then I don't really think there's anything I - or you - can do...
leah44609 melle77825
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leah44609 melle77825
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From your post, I feel like you haven't been selfish for a long while so now it is your turn. When you show that you dont need him, that will show him the respect you have for yourself that he wasnt giving! Good job for being strong through a VERY challenging time.
leah44609 melle77825
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brenda34146 leah44609
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Have you heard from him? Do you know if he went back on meds or sees a therapist?
tanya88195 leah44609
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michelle82267 leah44609
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leah44609 michelle82267
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The frustrating and confusing part is just how out of the blue it is. I think me letting him go for awhile to give him time to respect himself will hopefully show him i cant put up with the silence but allow him to have this time he needs to gain respect for himself that he was lacking.
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