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keepsmiling15
keepsmiling15

I think i am loosing my mind to menopause! I have been so tearful today, depressed and cannot function! is HRT the answer when desparate!

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  • madcow1964
    madcow1964 keepsmiling15

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    Hi, I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so awful and I fully sympathize!  i, too, have episodes of weepiness for no good reason, even tearing up at cutesy adverts! I am a week overdue for my period and my moods are everywhere and my memory is shocking! I was only talking to an older friend today, fearing Alzheimers as we both keep forgetting everyday words and names for objects!  With me I know it's hormone related.

    My mum has suggested HRT but my doctor, without being asked, told me it would be pointless while my periods are regular. Not sure I want to go down the HRT route when the time comes - I know you can be back to square 1 when you come off it again.

    This forum is an excellent place to get help from so many ladies out there who are going through, or have gone through, the same symptoms as you and I. Hang in there - sending you a reassuring hug - though not too tight as my stomach is on fire through PMT so-called heart burn! x

  • meno
    meno keepsmiling15

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    Hi,

    I've reached desperation point in May. I could not believe how awful I felt psychologically and knew that I had to do something and do it quick before I lost my sanity. I looked up a private doctor in my county and got an appointment with her with 4 days. She was fantastic and unlike a GP had time to listen to me. She gave me a private prescription for bio identical estrogen . It has made an incredible difference . I use it on the 17th day after my period starts and then continually until day 2 of my period. It's available on the NHS. She write to my GP and he's happy to prescribe it for me. I spent nearly £300 seeing the specialist (which is a lot of money for me) but she was worth every penny.

    Peri is hard and horrible , but getting real help,( not just a pat on the head and being sent home, ) makes life bearable .

    Good luck.

    K x

  • christine20477
    christine20477 keepsmiling15

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    Hi.

    When all seems just too much to deal with and you feel that things can't get any worse, it's very tempting to try anything that you think may help.

    I started HRT when I was 39 and at 62 I now realise that it was probably just posponing the inevitable. I am just coming off HRT ready for surgery.

    If I had to be 39 again and know what I know now I think I would still make the same choice to take HRT.  Coping with what was happening at the time was just too much. Coping with withdrawl from HRT now is somehow easier, but I know that that is not the same for everyone.

    There are no easy answers. It's what's right for you.

    I really hope that you feel better soon. There is a light somewhere at the end of the tunnel .... Honestly.

    x

     

  • mrs-magoo131
    mrs-magoo131 keepsmiling15

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    Hi, think you might need to get a boost to help balance your body... I personally take a daily dose of VitaB, calcium with vitaD and iron tonic... Drink loads more tap water and try give yourself timeouts when you need one...you will be amazed what a candlelit bath with a good glass of wine and soft lights can do to bring you to centre yourself again... Then again a good cry has done wonders for a few ;-)

    Stay connected to this forum as you will realise you are not alone...there is plenty of us tearful ladies around to pull you out of a blue period :-D

  • tina73315
    tina73315 keepsmiling15

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    My main problem has been insomnia.  Menopause has been a terrible thing for me.  It's worth trying HRT.  You could even try to find a menopause specialist near you.  For me, HRT worked for a while; and then it stops.  But, it is definitely worth looking into.  For myself, right now I am looking into a negative ion bracelet or a special sleeping mask.
    • fightingmadness
      fightingmadness tina73315

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      HI, if you are looking into a sleep mask then you must have sleep apnoea, like me, don''t put it off, it really helps!   It means you get some oxygen which means you get some proper sleep, go for it!!!!! Really mean it!  Without it, you are not getting any sleep as your brain keeps waking you up, which causes sleep deprivation.  This can lead to heart problems... get a CPAP mask and enjoy proper sleep, this not only helps with menopause but with your heart!  Do it now! smile  
  • janelle99349
    janelle99349 keepsmiling15

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    I would look into something natural first. HRT would be my personal last resort and if I had to do that, I would try biodentical hormones. This is truly a tough time for us women. Diet plays a roll...getting some exercise, getting enough sleep, drinking water, etc...years ago, we didn't have to worry about all of this. Now we do. 😞 Hope you feel better soon!
  • margaret04348
    margaret04348 keepsmiling15

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    I had to take HRT in the end.  Just could not cope any more.  Anxiety, bladder issues, hot sweats, aches pains...I could go on and on.  It has reduced or stopped most of the symptoms.  I am hoping that when I do stop the HRT my symptoms will be reduced but I will take it for as long as possible!!!!  Good luck.XX
  • susan21149
    susan21149 keepsmiling15

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    Thats the way i have been feeling. I am on antianxiety medication and Neurontin for depression and HRTs for the symptoms of menopause today I have been bleeding down there I don't know what to make of it I have also been cramping and having anxieties off and on 

    I don't know if this is due to the HRTs or what 

    I have been feeling weak and just not myself 

    What am I suppose to do 

  • loretta63638
    loretta63638 keepsmiling15

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    I was completely non functional so I was prescribed HRT it worked and I didn't give it any thought until recently. Reading all the posts of women whose doctors refuse to continue prescribing. So 6 years later I am weaning myself down slowly just invade that happens with my doctor I see in August. If not I will stay on them. Quality vs Quantity is what is important for me. So the risks far out weigh the lunacy I become without them. I am taking the HRT every other day and I am fine so I will hold tight until after I see the doctor in August. I wish you well from the USA.
  • keepsmiling15
    keepsmiling15

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    Hello Ladies,

    I wish to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your replies. I would thank you all individually usually but i am just too unwell. My menopause was bought on by surgery and i also have fibroids. This is the worst time of my life and i always said to myself i will be strong when i do through this stage of my life. My mother suffered hell through her menopause and i fear i am heading the same way. I did not understand what my mother was going through at the time as i was young with a young family. I did not know how to help my mum or my Dad and eventinally my Mum was sectioned and put into a mental hospital for a while. She is better now but i am trying my best not to go down that route as i know it would have a huge impact on my family lives. I will never forget it ever and i do not blame my mum as it could not be helped as she completly lost control to know fault of her own. My doctor suggested sleeping tablets which i did take but they made me feel worse. She also mentioned anti depressants but said if you can cope without them it would be better. I came away confused and distressed. She did not offer HRT but i am not sure if i can have HRT due to the fibroid. I may well have to go on anti depressants but i am trying so hard not to go on them. I have looked into various herbal things and currently i think they are upsetting my stomach and bladder. I tried b vitamins and fish oil, but i only took them for a few days, i also tried sage for a little while. When i was getting inflammation and cramps i stopped taking them, perhaps i should of tried them for longer. This is all on top of surgery . I now think weather a hysterectomy would of been a better. WHo knows?  But i thought a op to save the uterus would of been a better choice. I am at my wits end both physically and metally and basically falling into a huge black hole. But i again appreciate all you kind ladies for your advise. I am not sure what i am going to do? All i can say is peri/menopause is a such a trying time and i wish all you ladies health and happiness. I would rather give birth over and over again than go through this. Bless you all xxxx

    • meno
      meno keepsmiling15

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      Hello again,

      Please go on the anti depressants. I work in mental health and would say to anyone, now we have modern antidepressants , if you need them.....take them. If you were diabetic.....you would take meds to help. If you had high blood pressure. .....you would take meds to help. You are no doubt, getting my drift. Anti depressants are not the end of the world, I belive they save lives.

      I hear what your saying, and advice given to me earlier in the year was:- it's about your quality of life now! Take what's on offer and allow yourself to live the best life you can at the moment. Talk to you doctor and get everything that they can offer you.

      K x

    • sarah63813
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      Hi , it is all very well for your doctor to say that it would be better for you not to take antidepressants , it would be better for us to not to ever have to take medications ! I have suffered from anxiety / depression most of my adult life on and off and it most definitely started to get worse over the last few years ( am 50 ) so am assuming am peri ,think have most of the other symptoms but have regular periods which is a novelty for me as was always irregular , so pattern has changed ! Anyway ,I take Seroxat used to be 10mg but now on 20 mg due to depression/anxiety crisis a few weeks back , it has definitely helped , don't know where I would be without it ! Maybe just try an antidepressant for a short while just to get you through this time ,it certainly sounds to me like you could do with something to help you ! I don't like taking unnecessary medications but surely if it helps and makes you feel more able to cope it is worth it ! I have been on this medication for about 15 years albeit a low dose ,who knows what the long term side affects are ,but I have to think about the here and now !!! Do hope you find something to make you feel better , it is exhausting battling the feelings you have on a daily basis as well as trying to carry on a "normal " life ! Thinking of you ,good luck x
  • tina73315
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    I never had fibroids, but my sister did; and she had her uterus removed.  After which, she was able to go on hormone therapy (just estrogen.)  Even if you kept your uterus, I would think you could go on therapy if the Dr. was able to monitor the fibroids.  I now have a femring (which I got from the meno specialist.)  I don't think my regular gyn dr.even knows about it because she never suggested it.  Maybe it is because I was in peri at the time??  Also, I have a first cousin who is in her seventies and has no intention of stopping therapy.  I'm realizing now that her meno was bad, and she does not want to take a chance and go back.
  • norma54754
    norma54754 keepsmiling15

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    Hi, Without a doubt HRT was a godsend for me. After suffering awful menopausal symptoms for sometime I went on HRT. Decided to come off it but got awful symptoms so went back on it and felt normal again. When I finally ended with HRT I weaned off it very slowly as I think stopping suddenly like I did the first time was a mistake. So if you do take HRT then end using it, reduce it gradually so the symptoms also reduce gradually.  
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