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Feeling guilty

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kaz_40
kaz_40

From my own personal experiences, and from reading some of your posts. We all have at some point felt guilty, whether its not being able to work, letting a friend down for coffee, turning down invitations down to wedding or partys. What ever the reason we shouldnt feel GUILTY. WE DID NOT ASK FOR THIS CONDITION, WE DONT WANT THIS CONDITION NONE OF IT IS OUR FAULT AND MAKING. Hope all have a good bank holiday weekend. Take good care of yourselves gentle hugs to all xx

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  • kate21881
    kate21881 kaz_40

    Posted

    HI kaz, I always feel guilty asking for help and for letting people down because I always think sooner or later they will stop asking me to go out like most of my friends. How r u today x
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 kate21881

      Posted

      Hi kate21881 I have felt guilty in the past, dont like letting people down and having to say no. I have lost friends also, but true friends would stick by you, if they dont well they wernt true friends. it says more about them than us. My back is still painful legs arnt brill Im going to try and get up later Im sick of staring at 4 walls. how are you today? hope you have a good weekend and bank hol take care gentle hugssmile
    • kate21881
      kate21881 kaz_40

      Posted

      Yeah that's very true about friends, I went out yesterday with the kids and paying for it today am suppose to be going my sisters but i don't think that will be happening. Hope u have a nice weekend x
  • shellyb26
    shellyb26 kaz_40

    Posted

    I think that getting friends/family to understand this condition is extremely frustrating. Because we don't always "look sick" they can't comprehend why we have to cancel plans or turn down invitations. I had to cancel this week on my friend who had gone to lots of trouble to make afternoon tea for me and a couple of others. I felt so terrible, but she has MS so was very understanding and compassionate. The next day I felt much better than the previous day which is just typical. I cried when I couldn't go as the last couple of weeks have been so awful. Today is a good day so I'm going to enjoy it. Sending hugs to you all and have a good weekend xx
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 shellyb26

      Posted

      it is upsetting when plans are made and have to be cancelled, fibro loves taking the joy out of our life. hope you have a lovely day today and weekend take care xx gentle hugssmile
  • Bee70
    Bee70 kaz_40

    Posted

    Well put together Kaz.  

    I used to feel guilty in the past, but now I don't after all we too have feelings and need to express how we feel from time to time without feeling GUILTY.

    Life is too short and we must move forward with positive and calm attitiude to each day that comes our way.

    Gentle hugs wink xx

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 Bee70

      Posted

      morning Bee How are you today hun? hope your having a good weekend. I have felt guilty of late my poor husband has been working 6 days a week. Then coming home cooking dinner doing washing etc he is so shattered bless him. Ive felt bad not being able to do anything. what with fibro and my slipped disc. But cant be helped I didnt ask for either the fibro or slipped disc. rolleyes feeling guilty doesnt alter the situation just makes me feel worse. never mind onwards upwards. I agree with what youve put about being positive calm. take care gentle hugs xxsmile
  • Meg53
    Meg53 kaz_40

    Posted

    Oh wow Kaz, can you read my mind. This is something I am just trying to come to grips with at present in my life. I socialise when I can but it seems to be the luck of the draw, which days I have a flare up and which I do not. I think I am starting to get a bad reputation of being flakey, but what can you do. I am trying to get rid of negative thoughts out of my life at present, so Mr Guilt will just have to vacate these premises. I know I will always try to do the right thing by other people but if not possible, such is life with Fibro. I believe personal integrity is more important than social popularity, I guess I am an old fashioned kind of Gal???

    I am so proud of myself as I have managed to cook dinner for my long suffering hubby, how amazing is that. When one has a day with out pain, wow what a blessing.

    Hope you weekend is going well Kaz and you are getting some sleep?

    Megxxx

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    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 Meg53

      Posted

      morning Meg How are you today hun? hope your having a good weekend.well done to you for manageing to cook hubby his dinner. that is a big acheivement for you. its hard when we want to do so much in life and find we cant. our hubbys are suffering as much as we are.As everything falls on them, my husband is working 6 days a week at min then coming home doing dinner. He is so shattered bless him but he never moans just gets on with things. I have felt really guilty where he is concerened. But we have to remember none of this our fault we didnt ask for this condition we dont want it. its not through choice we are like it. Its hard and a difficult situation to be in not only for us but our loved ones to.. Hope you are managing to sleep well meg, every night so far Im waking up at 3 and not getting back offrolleyes never mind onwards upwards take care gentle hugs xx  
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