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Hi I was suffering from vignal dryness and so was my marraige due to not being able to have intercourse with my great husband my hormones are all over the place and my husband is feeling neglected as there is not much going on in the bedroom scared of losing him help x
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gailannie susan43259
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Susan, I've been there and done that. And here's the bottom line. They say that 50% of all menopausal women get into vaginal atrophy and dryness. (I wonder if the other 50% just arent't talking about it) However.......once this starts, it will never go away and only gets worse. No one has spontaneous reversal of this condition.
There are many woman who suggest lube, coconut oil etc. But our bodies are not suffering a lack of coconut oil. Not saying some women don't see some help as it moistures the tissue. But coconut oil doesn't create healthy tissue and cells.
There are several estrogen compounds available that do.
What I can tell you is that if you do nothing, this will only get worse. My sister was opposed to estrogen therapy, and now her tissue tears and bleed with any sex because her tissue is so thin. There are women who have described pain with even walking because the tissue is so dry. In addition we get UTIs, infections and bladder problems without supporting vaginal health. We also lose blood supply to the area because veins shrivel and shrink. Not good.
So my suggestion is you see your doctor and talk about this issue. Please don't allow this issue to get to the point where it's harder to restore your vaginal health.
Painful sex is not fun, and it's hard for our male counterparts to understand when they still want and desire sex.
susan43259 gailannie
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gailannie susan43259
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You're very welcome. Sorry you have joined this club. This is such a life altering and unpleasant symptom of menopause. I'd rather have hot flashes than this.
michael72246 susan43259
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Dear Susan:
I'm so sorry to hear youre going through this and sorrier that it's taking a toll on your marriage. I don't have any silver bullet solutions to offer as my marriage is about ready to end. But what I would say is that keep the lines of communications open. Your husband loves you. It may be a difficult topic to broach. But l'm sure if you just touch base with him every so often it'll go some way in maintaining some harmony. I know with all you have going on probably the last thing you want to do is reassure your husband. But as a guy who's living with a peri menopausal woman I would welcome anything in the way of pleasant conversation. My wife's doctor told her last may that she's peri menopausal. Since then she's been so difficult to handle. There's been nothing in the bedroom for over a year. I'm supportive as much as one can be who's constantly attacked. If my wife would just talk to me like a human being I'd deal with it. Good luck. My thoughts are with you.
Michael
susan43259 michael72246
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Twixxxo susan43259
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Hi I'm just going into the menopause at nearly 53 my problem at the moment is hot flushes worse at night I'm way too hot if my husband cuddles me. But I'm sure I'm gonna have the same problem's as a lot of women on here I'll be heading down to Ann Summers. 😉😉
Guest susan43259
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Hi susan, Yes, its a painful experience and since I don't want to take hormones the next best solution is KY jelly or some sort of lubricant. good luck.