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Help my husband with my anxiety

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amber69885
amber69885

I had surgery 7 weeks ago and long story short I had a lot of complications which caused my anxiety to come back full forsee panic attacks and all. My husband is wonderful and supportive and has helped me a lot and I wouldn't be back to half normal by now if it weren't for him.

That being said, he is having a hard time coping and I don't know how to help him. He has taken on all the extra stress of me and our kids pluses he hurt his back and we're behind on bills. He tries to hide what a hard time he's having from me but I know him and I also wake up in the middle of the night to him being out of bed and crying. I try to comfort him but he always tells me he is fine and I think it's so I don't worry. I'm on the road to recovery but I need my husband and I can't help him feel better.

Also he is on celexa for depression but it seems like when I was at my worst his meds just quit working. Please help and no he won't go see a therapist of any kind

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  • Guest
    Guest amber69885

    Posted

    Does he have a therapist or a counsellor or someone who is trained to help?
  • lee12629
    lee12629 amber69885

    Posted

    Hi,hard situation. I can relate somewhat as I have been having a health issue and my husbands ben doing grocery shopping etc. My husband kind of gets annoyed with me. Dont think he realises my condition and probably thinks I could be doing more. My anxiety is through the roof. Is your situation temporary? If so,kindly remind him things will be back to normal. When its possible that is. Marriage vows,sickness and in health. Someday you will probably be ther for him if he has a physical problem. Sounds like his back might really be bothering him. Are your children old enough to help? The financial stuff,I umagine very stressful. I dont know what to say. Sorry you are going through so much. Hug each other alot. Hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel.Xx
    • claire54445
      claire54445 lee12629

      Posted

      You couldn't have said it any better Lee!! :D amber maybe with him been out of work cause off his back is upsetting him cause be can't devoid for you at the moment the way he used too!! Use just need to help each other out day by day and hope use can both be back to normal in no time :D xxx
    • amber69885
      amber69885 lee12629

      Posted

      He went in for an x-ray on his back today. I have a 12yo that can help but my other 2 kids are 4 and 1.
  • richard89308
    richard89308 amber69885

    Posted

    I think with some anti depressents initially when taking them some patients cry a lot.  It could be due to dose levels or not enough of a dose but get him to see the Dr for a review of his medication and that may help your situation.
  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 amber69885

    Posted

    He is taking on your feeling on top of his depression. He is sensitive. He might need to go back to his doctor to adjust his meds. Let him know you are healing and there for him too. God bless and i hope both of you feel betterrr.
    • amber69885
      amber69885 lisalisa67

      Posted

      He's starting to act like he doesn't want to be around me anymore. Is this the beginning of the end or will we get better
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