My boyfriend suffers from anxiety - advice please

Hi all, 

I decided to write in this group as I need advice from people who suffer with anxiety/ depression as I need to know how best to act towards my boyfriend as a lot has happened this year and I am so confused. Maybe you who suffer can help explain?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. For the first four months we had an amazing time together and I would never have thought he suffered from any illness. Things were perfect and we really fell in love with eachother. Four months into our relationship whilst on our first holiday together my boyfriend had an anxiety attack. I have never seen anything like it, he struggled to function and was unalbe to be out in public for too long. He thought he was going crazy which added to his anxiety. He informed me that around two years proir to us meeting he had his first anxious episode and was previously seeing a counsellr in relation to this but then stopped as he felt well again. 

Unfortunetly around the time my boyfriend got sick I went away on a two week holiday with a friend [this was booked prior to us meeting]. Apparently I was his rock before I went on this holiday and when I left he felt distraught [as he was still sick with anxiety at this point].

When i returned from the holiday after a week of being back my boyfriend decided to end the relationship with me. He noted that on my return from the holiday he did not feel connected to me anymore. He said when he looked at me it was like there was a glass shield between us. When we had sexual intercourse he reported feeling like there was a shield inbetween us resulting in him feeling nothing. I notcied that my boyfriend started to feel disconnected from me after he started taking Prozac. 

I knew my boyfriend was sick at the time he ended the relationship so I continued to support him and after a week of us being apart he decided that although he did not feel anything for me he wanted to give our relationship another go. I told him that I would support him through this difficult period. 

Whilst giving the relationship a go I spent around four months with my boyfriend without knowing where I stood. EAch day I turned up at his house I would not how he would react with me - whether he would look at me and feel nothing or whether he would like at me and want me in his presence. For around four months my boyfriend reported having "swinging feelings for me" however he maintained that he always looked forward to seeing me. The swinging feelings relate to feeling close to me and then feeling nothing at all. Again this confused me?

Eight months down the line my boyfriend appears to not suffer with anxiety anymore. He is now back at work and seem generally okay however he reports that he has no feelings at all and feels numb. He has been on prozac for around eight months now and the more we go on the less he is being intimate with me. My boyfriend tells me that he doesnt feel anything at all when we kiss, and he has completely lost his libido. He rarely wants to hug or kiss me. however he maintains that he loves me, he loves having me in his presence, he loves snugling up with me in bed. In his opinion the prozac is stopping him from feeling anything at all and he maintains that it is nothing personal towards me. He keeps asking me to be patient as in his view things will get better and we will have a great life together. 

Whilst he is such a lovely guy and treats me well. I can't help but feel concerned about why he doesnt really feel much for me? Any help or advice would be appreciated?

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