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My broken heart

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mark04225
mark04225

Hello Im a middle aged man who is divorced with 2 children who i live dearly.

My girlfriend ever since she went into perimenopausal she does not want sex even though I told her to take natural remidies(by the way she is a nurse). Our relationship has soared and we broke up. She did shift work and studied on top of that and she made me pay by breaking uo with her. For the last 4 years I was always patient with her and submissive because she lives by herself here in Australia and I am the only one she has who has stood by her. Also I went against my family to be woth her. i am writing this becasue I am sad and heartbroken

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  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm mark04225

    Posted

    wink Hi Mark

                        you don't state how long ago the break up was?

    As you can see by being brave enough to join this forum the menopause is horrendous (for some, not all women) rolleyes

    and nursing I believe is if not one of (the hardest jobs) 

    Give her some time please, let her genuinely make up her own mind (god knows the mind isn't that good at this time for some of us), try backing off

    I'm sure this lady isn't a bad person, just having a hormonal breakdown

    stay in touch on here for support Mark

    the more you keep pushing the sex (if she feels hey wire) the further away you'll push her

    hang in there, 

                            Mrs M wink

    • mark04225
      mark04225 MrsMerm

      Posted

      We have been broken up say 4 months. Well dont you believe when your girlfiend goes for overseas for 7 weeks that she would want to be with her boyfriend? Also I am going through a last time I lost my job as well and 2 people (my auntie and my grandmother) died in this period. Dont you think she should have be a bit more close to me
  • mark04225
    mark04225

    Posted

    Also unemployed I buy her flowers and then I take her to restaurant and then you dont want to be imtimate with me. Cmon Im not a saint. Plus you can do other things as well. Dont you think? Anyway Im really distraught. Everyone tells me she is a trouble maker (that I know) and that I should move on
  • mark04225
    mark04225

    Posted

    I tried to reconcile but she is stubborn and I felt also very hurt coz she was no supporting me through this tough period
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm mark04225

    Posted

    Sorry Mark but as I said before SPACE.......................................

    give her some space

    wink

  • mark04225
    mark04225

    Posted

    Im falling apart here. How long do I still need. Its bad
  • inessa7
    inessa7 mark04225

    Posted

    Hi Mark, Its really sad what you going through. Unfortunately, brake ups happen with or without menopause. As MrsMerm suggested  already give your partner some space. You will have to get on with your life, though with a lot of pain inside. You have to try and accept the way things are at the moment. You cant expect anyone to act the way, YOU want them to do. They simply will NOT.

    The time will put everything right. Be patient. Good Luck

  • monique_93857
    monique_93857 mark04225

    Posted

    Menopause is very sensitive subject with women sometimes you have to be patient I am going through the same thing but my husband is very loving and understanding he supports me maybe you should sit down and talk to her maybe there was another reason who knows I myself have not had the desire to have sex but my husband truly understands but it's not like it's the end of the world try talking to her and try reading more of our status on here then you two will truly understand what we go through I pray things can be worked out with you too but you have to learn sometimes to listen and listen to learn good luck with everything I pray that you and her will work things out but menopause is like a living hell to us good luck
  • mark04225
    mark04225

    Posted

    Well dont you think I should be comforted too. I have lost my job, 2 people have died in my family and I know my girl is very self centered. She said she had a very bad relationship with ex husband now she is got a good guy and she does not know how to appreciate him?
  • mark04225
    mark04225

    Posted

    Ive passed the hardest time in my life and now I face this mess
    • monique_93857
      monique_93857 mark04225

      Posted

      i pray things get better for you mark sometimes we go through the storm but god will see us through it all also my own belief is god moves people and things out of our lives for the better and to move better people and things in our lives keep your head to the sky and keep faith because there is  someone for you sometimes we confuse lust with love you seem to be a great guy but i know what you are saying about your feelings i to have loss many in my family and nobody seem to care how i felt it's not a good feeling at all mine were very close together 99 bro 00 sister 01 dad 04 mom 05 grandmother so i can relate to you please try to focus on you and your happiness mark that is very important keeping yourself together god bless
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