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My life feel like its over. What should I do?

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kionna_53003
kionna_53003

So about a week ago i found out that i have hsv 2 during a prenatal visit with my significant other. We both were in shock because we have been together for over 2 years and i have never had any signs and symptoms of an outbreak or awareness that i had it. 8 months prior to that my other half was tested for hsv 1 and 2 and tested positive for type 1. Since then i found out that he has been sexually active with other women and stepped out on our relationship a few times. Now he goes to his doctor and ask to be retested and instead of the Dr. Retesting him he asurred him that he did not have it and there was no way he could have it of i never had an outbreak since we been together and that if he did he would of had an outbreak already and that i am the only one with it. This all is coming from a Dr. Who specializes in this area. Now with that being said i was in contact 6 years ago with a man who found out his wife had it 2 years ago and they have been togther for 6 years. I cannot bring myself to believe that o had herpes for 6 years and not had 1 outbreak and i am a nurse so i am fully aware of the signs and symptoms. My partner is acting like he doesnt want to get retested and i feel this way because he is ok with what the dr told him about me and that he has labs from 8 months ago stating he is negative. Is there a possibility that i could have gotten this from him and that he could have acquired the virus after he tested negative since he has been cheating and his test result are 8 months old? And also if he alreasy has type 1 is there a chance that he can not get type two because he is already immune??? I need answers

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus kionna_53003

    Posted

    This specialist doctor is woefully misinformed, I'm afraid to say. Herpes can indeed be transmitted without an outbreak via asymptomatic shedding, and an infected person can demonstrate no symptoms if they are an asymptomatic carrier, which is more common amongst those with pre-existing HSV1. HSV1 does not protect against HSV2 infection, but can minimise symptoms of HSV2.

    More importantly, since you have never had any outbreaks, is how you were diagnosed with HSV2. Do you know the test type? If a blood test, was it IgG or IgM and how did you score? The standard blood tests for herpes are not perfect, so if you have never had an outbreak and scored a low positive, under certain circumstances, there's a chance that it's false.

    • kionna_53003
      kionna_53003 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I believe i scored a high positive. Now i do know that when my partner tested 8 months ago that his test stated that he was neither high or low but equivalent or something like that. I do know that when that is the case they should be restested because the scores may have been to low at the time to be detected and i noticed that once i seen the paperwork and underneath the results it says it clear and for the dr to tell him he does not have anything without restesting is bullcrap to me. Something os telling me that i acquired the virus within the last 8 months since he tested. And yes i had blood work done.
  • marie_83380
    marie_83380 kionna_53003

    Posted

    Definitely not trying to come off as a b*%$h or anything but you being a nurse you should also be aware of the statistics stating that hsv1 and hsv2 can go unnoticed or misdiagnosed for a period of time some people don't have symptoms at all and some people only have symptoms of that resembling yeast infections. I do believe that your significant other should be retested and if he has stepped out on your relationship before maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship.

    • kionna_53003
      kionna_53003 marie_83380

      Posted

      I appreciate your response that is why i am here. I am very aware of the statistics and signs and symptoms. My issue with my whole situation is that the doctor is telling my partner there is no way he could have it if he never had an outbreak and i never had an outbreak to give him anything. When i called the Dr. And explained what i knew and learned about the virus i was told from him "I am an expert in this field and there is no way he can have it and no need for him to be retested". I have been checked for Std's in my past before him and i have never tested positive for anything. It all boiled down to the fact after i explained what i knew the dr stating he xannot be retested because insurance will not pay for him to be retested it will be an out of pocket cost but instead of just telling him that when he asked to be retested he assured him that it was not him only me. I am here for support about that issue. I have come to terms since then about what i have and that there is no cure. I was looking for imput as to how others would feel if they were in my shoes regardimg the doctors response to it all. I am not here for relationship advice...but thank u

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus kionna_53003

      Posted

      That doctor doesn't know what he's talking about, if he said what you said. I'd send him links from reputable sites like the CDC or ASHA to discredit him, lol, and go (both you and your partner) to a different doctor! It would be helpful if you could post your lab results (test type and kit, index range, and scores).

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