Need better understanding.

Hi sheila it sounds like there is a real possibility that your son is depressed. If that is the case it really isn't a matter of shaking him out of it. Being depressed means you can't help how you feel. The best thing you could do for him make him see a doctor. I hope he gets the help he needs

Can you persuade him to seek counselling from his doctor? Any diagnosis of a life changing disease is a huge strike. He will be grieving fir the life he expected and fearing his future. Ms isn't nucey but its not always the big bogey we think. I have ms and it can affect your mood and anxiety is common, but I trained in counseling and therefore received it, it does help. Goid luck. as a mum you feel you need to make it all OK, you can't but you can be there like you are doing. Sending you some love as one mum to another.

You are both right of course, I know he is depressed and has been to counselling twice....I feel that he is wasting away his life  instead of focusing on what he still can do... Whichever granted isn't a lot as his balance isn't great.... I got him a mobility scooter and he has only ventured as far as his local shop....I have tried to coax  him to get the train to town and offered to accompany him until he gets familiar with it, but so far as refused...i won't give up. Thank you both for your response.

Thank you BIc I will have a word with him about hypnotism and get back to you if need too..

Hi,

Everybody is right but I will add that two things helped me over the hump (in addition to therapy). One of my neuro's did a kind of reality check when he said "It's not going to kill you, you know". I also find great satisfaction and purpose by helping others. Sometimes those much worse off than me and sometimes young people as it keeps me involved in society. I see others with MS turning inward and that never helps them. Being open to things and people are your best path. Sometimes a helper animal will assist as well. Ask him to help with small things to start and keep at it. Good luck Sheila.

Thank you Virginia I will take what you said on board..

Hi sheila89140 you may be experiencing extreme fatigue as well which is a symptom of Ms and depression. Has he seen an occupational therapist? They could help him manage his symptoms better by pacing himself with what needs doing around the house. Part of the OT assessment is to find out what is important to him ie getting out again, doing something he used to enjoy or even looking at the barriers in his environment such difficulty having a bath or access to the property. They would break this activity up to make it achievable and help your son find his own solutions. Ask the GP to refer him. Good luck