New partner, telling about diagnosis
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Hi guys,
I'm new to the forum but wondering if any of you had any insight for me. I was diagnosed a few months ago with hsv 2, and was absolutely devastated. I still have not had the courage to tell anyone about my diagnosis. I didn't plan it, but have recently started talking to a great new guy and have hung out quite a few times. I know that eventually I will have to deal with things getting physical. I am 20, and go to a small college. I am horrified that if I tell him and he runs he will also tell others and I am just not ready for the world to know. I really like this one but almost feel the need to end things just so I don't have to deal with this situation. Any words of wisdom?
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FelizCastus kate38355
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Best thing is to get to know him a lot better, then you can hopefully better judge his character. If you one day disclose to him, a few tears and sense of extreme vulnerability may help ensure his silence as well! Genuine, of course, not acting!!
Or you could friend zone him and just enjoy a platonic relationship, if you're not ready to disclose for whatever reason.
sweethheart5703 kate38355
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FelizCastus sweethheart5703
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However, the problem is people usually react poorly to such hypothetical situations (e.g., "No way, that's so gross, I'd NEVER date someone with herpes!"), but may feel very differently if the person with herpes is someone they actually care about...
FelizCastus
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kate38355 FelizCastus
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FelizCastus kate38355
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rockin_R kate38355
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FelizCastus rockin_R
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Also, herpes does not transmit via everyday inanimate objects, especially not HSV-2. No need to go overboard with cleanliness, just common sense hygiene, like handwashing with soap after touching an active outbreak area or your genitals. Autoinoculation is only a potential issue during the first 4 months, up to 6 to be extra safe.
rockin_R FelizCastus
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