Social anxiety disorder

If someone doesnt like you the way you are they arent friend material anyway.You are just as good as anyone else.dont forget that.Hold your head high,be nice,be genuine and try and makeyourself talk to at least one person a day..you will get friends.

Hi becca...it is awful to feel so insecure..I was always the same...

Have you made any friends at work ? Or maybe live locally?

The best way is to find an interest ....or two......do you like to Swim.....Cycle.....Jog.....Play squash.....

Personally Sketching the countryside.....Train spotting......Kite flying...... in fact any !! Kind of activity whereas .....you meet people who could be friends or even more....if you are in a social group with the same aim and enjoyment...

Quite often a relationship can start..without any awkward silences....I wish you lots of happiness and fun.....hugs for you...Dee xx

Hi Becca.  I know how you feel.  I'm quite the lone wolfette myself.  I think too much about what others are thinking and it's hard to put myself out there.

Its never to late to make new friends every one wants new friends all the time and u should never allow anyone opinion affect you ever god is good he is the only judge

I am speaking from experience here.I had same situation.I felt like others had something I didnt. Much social anxiety.Volunteer(dont work too hard ,get to know everyone) or begin joining public activities.make many aquaintances.Do not divulge too much personal information at first.get them to talk about themself while complimenting them on their attributes .Be supportive,if they seem down.Remember to relaxation breathe .Just while you are in conversation take note if you are holding your breathe.Smile a lot,and maintain a sincere eye contact.If you show you are interested they will always look forward to see you.Then you have the power to decide if they are friend material.

 

Thanks for all your replies. 

The thing is I'm not in the right headspace to make friends when I'm at work as I'm so busy and I get so stressed out. But when I try and do new things like join a yoga class, or a mindfulness class, I just don't make new friends. I just stay quiet in the breaks and don't know what to talk to people about. It's so frustrating. And also when I'm out with my boyfriends friends, I'm always the quiet one of the group. They all know each other and are all confident successful people, and I feel inadequate and again I just don't know what to say. I don't like all the attention being on me if I'm in a group of people so I don't want to talk, but I'm fine one on one. I'm worried that his family and friends just think I'm boring or don't like me, and he says they do, but that I just need to show my personality more, which then makes me more paranoid :-(