Why do my loved ones trigger anxiety !! Help
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Really struggling to understand why loved ones trigger my anxious episodes ? They love my and I then so I can understand why this should happen and it's really freaking me out !! I worry constantly if they are okay. The slightest misunderstanding I think oh god my children will leave home I may never see them again. My relationship with my partner will end I will end up on my own just left with anxiety. Can any body help me understand please x
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I am going through something similar at the moment.
I fear the closest people in my life will either leave me, get hurt, or at the worst die.
I think it is natural to have these thoughts from time to time, but you need to be able to dissmiss them easily. When you are anxious this is hard to impossible and you end up dwelling and falling into a spiral of fear (this is how it is for me).
I have found that instead of trying to fight the anxiety (which always seems to make me more anxious), It is more useful for me to try and relax, take the pressure off of myself. If you set yourself hard targets, you will eventually fail, and that will send you into a fear spiral and push your progress back.
I liken it it to being in water. You usually sink faster than you can swim up, so a little failure can send you back further than a lot of accomplishment.
I have been setting myself little targets that are easier to meet, and then congratulating myself when I achieve them. This keeps my mood up which in turn helps stop the anxiety creeping in. I find keeping my mood good helps so much, so try to be positive about everyday things.
Another thing that has helped me was reading a blog about mindfulnes. I haven't finished it yet, but the writer has a lot of little tips and tricks. Some of it sounds kind of odd and like it should be for a group of hippies, but I have found some of it actually works. One of the tasks is to spend time during to day to spot the mirraculous in the mundane. Looking at nature and realising how amazing it is, and taking joy in things that you might not normally notice.
The woman in the blog plays a little game where she uses her smart phone to snap quick pictures of things that she notices while being mindful. It helps during the moment, but also later on because the images can be revisited.
Anyway, I hope some of this helps you with your predicament.
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If I post a link it will get moderated, but if you google 'silver linings project' you should find the blog.
I hope it helps you.
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I have been pretty good for a day or so now, but falling back into it is always a concern. The mornings seem to be the worst part, if I can turn it around early then I am usually set for a good day.
This forum has helped a lot. It is very supportive, and trying to help others gives a real boost too.
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