😡😡 So upset

Posted , 6 users are following.

This discussion has been locked due to a period of inactivity. Start a new discussion

I was admitted to hospital with severe pain to left side, nausea, temp &  bloated. I had an X-ray & ct scan and diagnosed diverticulitus, my bowel severely inflamed. I was given antibiotics & fluid through a drip & metro &cipro to come home with. I couldn’t keep food down for 3 weeks, felt sick and really light headed. I was off work for 12 days in total, 3 of which were before I went to gp. On my return to work I was told I had 

to have a meeting with HR as it was over 10 days. I haven’t had sick 

leave in 3/4yrs (only a few days then). Im  very work conscious. I explained my  condition & hospital stay but was given a caution by my manager. This has made me feel devalued as an employee, I was so upset by this I couldn’t explain how they made me feel at the time. This caution was discretionary by my manager, he 

said it was given purely because the 

affect on the business not a reflection on me and that he knows I have a good work ethic. I was told they can’t afford to have a experienced workers off? This is not my fault 😡 anyone else experienced this?

0 likes, 14 replies

Report

14 Replies

  • Posted

    Yes me also every appointment and letter i have had from hospital ive taken to work even the pictures of my sigmoidendoscopy i just had August!😂but ive been given afew back to work sheets and i am now on my 1st caution!and ive got 18years service with my firm!

    Report
    • Posted

      Hi Adam

      I think it’s awful that they can do this over 1 period sick. It’s just not right, when they send paperwork through I will write a letter to my manager & Hr explaining how I feel as an employee. Thanks for your reply, I’m sorry you’ve also experienced this unfairness. I’m currently looking for a new job after 14yrs, I’m not a shirker but feel treated like one 😔

      Report
  • Posted

    I am sorry to hear both you and Adam had such negative experiences with your workplace.  Sadly that seems to be the norm these days.  So shortsighted as it would take far longer to recruit and train a replacement.

    I am assuming you both provided the appropriate sick notes, not just self-certificated.  If you have not already provided your workplace with copies of all your paperwork, I would do so, and enlist your GP's support, and if appropriate, your Union. 

    I would also advise you both to keep all your paperwork and a full diary of everything relating to your condition - medical papers, work papers, records of GP visits, phone calls, medication, pain, other symptoms like the runs or constipation which hinder your performance.  If your employers try to sack you, you will need every bit of documentary evidence you can get.  Two of my friends went through something similar for different conditions, and one actually lost his job.  Good luck.

    Report
    • Posted

      Hi Felinia

      I’m just disappointed 😔 in result, honestly thought there would be discretion. Self cert & GP note given in. If  I had previous sick within 12 months then fair enough but this wasn’t the case x

      Report
  • Posted

    i hope you get well !

    i made a video if you like it is at youtube.com 

    called:> 

    My Diverticulitis:-Treatment!

    if you need more help copy and 

    paste that line there ..good luck

    i do hope to help one another

    ?thank you 

    Report
  • Posted

    Totally unfair.   You might have a case for the Labour Board?
    Report
    • Posted

      Hi Sharon 

      I wouldn’t go further, I will put in writing how it’s made me feel, so it’s on record. 

      I just want them to know how this made me me feel 😔. It’s no good them asking me if the company can support me, when all I would have liked is a bit of understanding on their part. I wouldn’t have any more time off than I needed.

      Report
    • Posted

      Thanks for your replies, sorry for the rant, I was  just feeling really low. Good to know other people understand. My health is more important and this comes first. What will he will be, hopefully I can keep episodes at bay 😉

      Report
  • Posted

    Hey Kaz - are you UK based? Doesn't sound a very sympathetic employer. I run a small business myself so appreciate the issue about losing good people at critical times. I have DD and have lost a load of time this year with it. As the boss there is no one to give me a hard time but I get it in a different way (worry about the enterprise and my ability to lead it successfully) so at least you know regardless what position you are in, DD is not easy to deal with. Feline's advice is good - keep all the paperwork on your condition. Generally speaking to keep up good communication with employers is the best approach. If you have an HR dept then it sounds like it is at least a medium sized company. Critical is get your own direct line management onside with what you are going through and what they are likely to expect, as HR will nearly always do exactly what they tell them. 

    Good luck! 

    James

    Report
    • Posted

      Hi James, thanks for the feedback, I’m in the U.K.  I’ve taken on board everything said, I also understand the affect  sick leave has on a company so wouldn’t go sick 😷 without good reason. I could appeal but I have let my manager know how it’s left me feeling. I will keep a diary for future reference, still trying to manage it at the moment. Do you have any light headedness with your episodes?

      Report
    • Posted

      Hi Kaz - In general as an employee you are well protected by the law - your contract will have all the info in it as to your company's obligations. There is always the 'human level' though, which is important. No one wants to be thought of as "unreliable". However, as everyone on this part of the site will agree, when you have an attack of DD bed is the only place for you! People understand flu or colds, but only sufferers really understand how horrible DD is and how miserable it makes one feel. Keep the comms line fully open to your manager.

      Light headedness? Perhaps, but only in the case of the fever stage of an attack in my case? Lots of other nausea related symptoms though!

      Best

      James    

      Report
    • Posted

      Hi James, Thanks, I had a raised temperature 🤒 that’s when they admitted me to hospital and diagnosed DD. I also feel the side affects of meds (although they worked) caused nausea and possibly the light headed ness. I know it’s difficult as s manager but I feel discretion hasn’t been used in this case. I don’t feel that I could talk to him now if unwell, I honestly believe that it will go against me. I look after myself and don’t want time off on sick, hopefully no more illness. 🤒

      Report
  • Posted

    I am in shock reading that what country do you live there surly is employment laws and a HE department no way if you have a sick cert can you get a caution ...
    Report

Join this discussion or start a new one?

New discussion

Report as inappropriate

Thanks for your help!

We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.

newnav-down newnav-up