10 weeks still feel swollen and lumpy

Thanks Jan I must have been tempted to phone docs 100s of times sice op (only actually phoned twice)  When did you start to feel better, so you  could go a day without thinking about it ? I also now have a frozen shoulder which is making me miserable. Its good to know others went through something similar.

Hi pam I turned a corner at about 12 weeks. but only because my gp gave me gabapentin without it I would still be suffering. My repairs themselves seem to be improved my problem is with low tummy pain, my gp thinks it's nerve damage, so if at ten weeks ur not in pain then I would say u will soon see improvement. Good luck. X

Thank you for your replies the constant worry is has it failed ? My husband has been very patient but lets face it they have only so much in them!!! I think once you start doing bits you are expected to feel better. Also I feel guilty then you do more feel rubbish and the whole cycle starts again . 

I am 12 weeks post op and I know what you mean. It's been a long 12 weeks but just remember how you have come in those 10 weeks. Each week it has got a little bit better and it will continue to do so. Saying that if you suddenly get new symptoms that you are unsure of that is what the doctors are there for xx

Thank you for posting this, I totally agree about the recovery times except I was given un reasonable recovery times. Like rest completely first week. No driving for a week. Only light housework for 2 weeks , no hoovering for 4 weeks and no hanging out washing for 6 weeks. No sex till 5- 6 weeks but doable at 4 weeks. I am only 2.5 weeks post op but the whole area feels heavy is so swollen and my vagina entrance so sore , I just get so tired and exhausted that I fall sleep alot. I hate being so useless but know for my own good I must do as I am told. But before my surgery before I found and got real recovery times from real ladies who have been there I used the info my Urogyno gave me and so work are excpecting me back at about 4 weeks, my daughter already has me childminding my grandson again at 4 weeks he weighs 14Kilos and is still in nappies and my hubby expects sex at about 5/6 weeks as that is what the spec told him. It makes me shudder with pain to go to tiolet at the moment. I ahve to rest after BM as I am so exhausted, a simple trip to the supermarket feels like i have just scaled everest. I was no way prepared for how long I think this recovery will take and think th info given such give much more realistic recovery time lines . Unless it is just us few that find ourselves on this forum seeking help that need the extra time and everyone esle actually does recover within the short period my spec suggested. Make me feel like a whimp and not implying that any of you ladies are whimps but just the whole system lets us down.It is incredibly reassuring to know we are not only ones going through this. Thank goodness for this forum and the wonderful matron. I am told my fellow forum user that it does get better every day and that in a few months it will be a distant memory like the pain you feel at child birth. Keep smiling and do keep posting. My spec suggested that I get myself a dilo and at about 6 weeks start using it . If I can bear that I should be able to accomodate any penis. Made me LOL, but after reading your post I will. Even though at the moment it feels like you could drive a bus in there. Got to keep my humour up or go stir crazy. Feel sorry for you and hope you get stuff sorted real soon. Can I ask how old you are? When you did finally go back to work? and when you attempted sex? keep smiling

Oh my goodness Tilley all of the time frames u have here are totally unrealistic, it was ten weeks before I could drive, still can't hoover our carpets which are really deep pile, but can do our wooden floors, and finally managed sex at 16 weeks. I'm sorry to say ur hubby may be disappointed if expecting it to be 5-6 weeks. Give urself the time u need .don't expect anything to soon. X

thanks Jan yes I realise that now. Appreciate your feedback and support. Guess he is but not going to put him a bad mood until then and will try and give myself the time I need to recover but it won't be easy. 

Thanks Jan its the whole is this normal conundrum !! that I cant get my head round I feel worse now than i di 4 weeks ago .I am going to try for am appointment with doc this week .Just to check I have no infection .To be honest it feels like it did before the opp !!Apart from inside .I felt so well last week that I probably overdid it. Oh well thanks for your thoughts it is nice to hear other peoples storys and advice xx

Great reply and advice. But for me it's the whole you will be fine in 6 weeks time thing that gets me down at times. I am only 2.5 weeks painful and exhausted after BM and so exhausted all the time, a simple trip feels like I'm scaling mount Everest. I have this guilt issue too , like I have mislead work and family about my recovery or are am now pulling the sympathy card to get out of going back to work or childminding my grandson ( which I love) but he weighs 14 kilos and is still in nappies so worry about the damage lifting him might cause. I think the info given out is unrealsitic unless it is just us poor women onthis forum who take longer than the usual 6 weeks to recover and this sets up expectations of what and when work and family expect us to be back to normal. We are all such wonder workers and probably like me you did heaps before your op. Worked 5.5 days a week, mind my grandson one day and have to work at night to catch up when i mind him. On top of that we are still expected to do majority of housework and in my case gardening but that is my choice as its not a chore and my hubby is useless at it. They have all got used to us doing all these things and now we aren't they are. Is it any wonder they expect us to be back doing them within the guidelines given by the medics? Couldn't blame my hubby for thinking I am making up excuses to get out of housework i have been ordered not to do.he sees no visible scars even though I have offered to show him, but adviced him not to look would be scared for life LOL. I know I will get there in the end but am not a patient patient and hate the added pressure of knowing family and work expect more of me sooner bceause of the unreasonable recovery times that are issued by the medics. There had my whing , feel better for saying it. Guess only likes of Matron will ever be able to make a real difference. Hope she gets her papers published and things improve on the information front. Keep smiling and resting. Early days for me yet, I will trying to keep positive but thinking about starting to let work and family know my recovery may take months not weeks , hopefuly it won't but they should be prepared for that.