6 weeks after opp things are going from bad to worse !!!ja

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time.  That would be really rough, with kids so young.  My youngest is a toddler and it is still tough.  If it is detailed information you want, I found this book helpful.

Pelvic Floor Recovery - Physiotherapy for Gynaecological Repair Surgery

by Sue Croft

i bought it as an Ebook and it wasn't very expensive. 10 USD on Amazon.  She talks a lot about what you can do when, including forever limits.  She talks about how maximum fibrosis occurs at 12 weeks and has information for just after surgery, up to 6 weeks, 7-12 weeks, and afterwards.  Clearly you shouldn't do anything that your doctor said not to do, but I found it to be both very encouraging and very cautious about protecting your repair.  I read it before my surgery and it made me feel both better about what I knew and frustrated about what I wasn't told.  Mostly better, though.

fwiw, no affiliation with the author.  I just stumbled across it and found it helpful.

So sorry you are feeling this way Hun , just wanted to send you a big hug xxxxx

Hi patricia I to had a crap surgeon to who gave me no after care advice either. This page is fabulous for advice and reasurance and matron will be on at some point with some more fab advice . I'm nearly 4 weeks post opp and I Googled information cause I was feeling low and frustrated. Your not allowed to lift anything heavier than a kettle, no bending , rest lots and take it easy and don't over do it. I'm walking around now but still taking it slow. I haven't done the school run yet cause I don't feel ready for that yet. If your feeling so low and not yourself I would go and have a chat with your doctor and if you have small babies you may have a bit of post natal depression or a feeling of withdrawal cause you can't pick them up. I have days when I feel low because I can't do alot and even though I have a 4 & 6 year old I still feel like I'm neglecting them a bit cause I can't cuddle them as much as I would like and I can't do much for them. I hope you feel better soon sweetie and you get some help and reasurance big hugs.xxx

Hello Patricia. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Tell me honestly were you ok before the operation? I'm asking because it sounds as though you may have post natal depression. You've had 2 children and major surgery in a very short space of time. Make an appointment with your GP xx

Don't worry too much Patricia...I felt like it was the end of the world although I only had an anterior op. I was crying and frustrated and wished I had never had it done! I am nearly 10 weeks post op and feel so much better...just got back from the docs and she told me everything looks fine down there so there is light at the end of the tunnel...See your doctor and tell her your worries...good luck xx

Hi Patricia, I'm so sorry for you I understand you very well, after my anterior repair I was fine but 1month later I began to feel awful physically and very sad, I was crying all the time thinking that my prolapse had come back and when I came back to work it was worse I simply couldn't get up in the mornings, I have a very demanding job. I had to go to a psycologist who diagnosed depression. I was totally obsessed, and sure that the surgery had failed, looking at my vagina all the time looking for new prolapsed. But little by little I began to feel a bit better, and today 5 months post op I feel great, not perfect but i began to exercise, to have sex, I found this forum...I smile now! You must know that this surgery has a very slow recovery, but I promise you will feel much better. All the girls of this forum have had the same feelings as you. 😘

http://www.csp.org.uk/sites/files/csp/secure/pogp-ffsurgery1.pdf     This link is to the leaflet produced by the Association of Chartered Physiotherapists in Women's Health.  This gives post surgery exercise guidelines, though a lot of it is for the early days after.  If the link doesn't work, it should be easy to google.  I'm in my 60s and had hysterectomy as well and at 12 weeks, though still tired, I feel fine and doing most normal things so it does get better.  And I was depressed for some time when unable to do much but it's fine now.  Hope you feel better soon.