7 weeks and 1 day and I am feeling so depressed and lonely

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Had a reasonably couple of better days last week, thought thing were going to get better, but the last few days, my body has been shaking, and I have felt more anxious than ever, except when it gets to night time, anxiety eases a lot then..... I have lost so much weight.... the doctor says there is nothing wrong with my health, go to the toilet more than I eat, I am so worried..... I  can't stop crying today, I feel so lonely and isolated... I can't worry my kids anymore.... I have tried to keep myself busy lately, done all kinds, maybe too much, I feel so tired and drained..... this is not the person I was, I don't know were she is anymore, the Councillor thinks i have delayed grieving for my late husband, but I don't know anymore, I don't think people know what to say to me anymore, as they thought I was getting better.... Can you be that much up and down on these tablets, as i have gone really down again, I take 20ml..... Please help me

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    Hi Hilary,

    I know exactly how you are feeling. I am on fluoxetine for nearly 9 months now. I had all the side effects you are having. They will subside eventually. Just give it a bit more time. It took 6-8 weeks for the meds to fully kick in, but everyone is different.

    Hang on in there. You will feel better soon.

    D

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      Thank you so much for your reply..... I think it is going to take me a bit longer unfortunally..... I was given Diazepam for the side affects, but didn't take them as prescribed by the assesment nurse, as i didn't want to get hooked, she wanted me to take them 3 times a day, I did for 2 days then slowly got it down to half a day, as I didn't think they were doing any good, just numbing me,which is not me, the Doctor agreed, mind you, I don't think they realize how bad the side affects    are, as even I don't remember side affects with fluoxetine years ago, that is what got me bothered, I was thinking I was going worse, till I came on this site, and sometimes you still get your doubts, and that's why when you get a real bad day, you think, am I going worse, or is this what happens, your not sure whether it's you or the tablets.... I will be so glad when I find myself again..... Hilary x
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      Hilary,

      I feel for you, as i know exactly what you are going through. I also was on flux abt 10 years ago and i did not have the same side effects as i had last year. May be it's because i am older now and the body chemistry changes. I also took a few sleeping tablets including diazepam, but doctors wld not give me them regular. I was also on mertastapine

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    Don't know if you'll hear me out as I'm much younger than you. But I empathise with how you are feeling now as I am frequently getting anxiety run my head even though my logical brain asks me to fight it. Well how I learnt to cope with anxiety is to accept that anxiety is part of me. I acknowledge that it's keeping me alive. I often try to watch comedies as I believe laughter is the best medicine. 

    Talk to to the people here. You'll never know how much solace you can find when you find people who are in the same situation as you. Share tips to pull through together. Good friends are often found in adversities. 

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      Thank you so much for your comments...... I totally agree, laughter is the best medicine.....
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    I'm at 43 days on fluoxetine, 30 days on 10mg and now 13 on 20mg. I also have good days and then bad days and today has been just plain awful. Had some shaking this morning as laying in bed because I awoke 2 and a half hours earlier than I should and just laid there and panicked. Feel very weak today and been having on and off nausea. Have you felt any of these things too? It's terrible after we have some good days and think we're starting to get out of it and then bam... 3 steps backwards. I've read that is what happens but I still wasn't prepared for it.
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      I am sooooo glad I am on this site, everthing you have said is exactly the same, it is so reasuring..... I have had lack of appetite, lost weight, nausea, had the runs, and yes I have had a couple of good days, and then been very dissapointed, as the bad days are more than the good at the moment, you think to yourself, was that a coincidenc, or what.... It is nice to know I am not on my own, as that's exactly how I would put it, 3 steps backwards, and I was not prepared for it either.
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    I didn't really have nausea until the last two days, I guess it's the medicine. Are you at the same dose you started at or has it been raised. My side effects started over full force after upping the dose. My appetite only comes back when I am less anxious, eat maybe once a day and not even full meals. Mornings are the worst for me, I wake up and automatically feel doomed for some reason. Usually in the evening and night I feel better but dread going to bed because I know it's gonna start over in the morning.
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      Hi Netminder,

      Yes I used to hate mornings, another day of hell, but evenings when dark was a bit better for me. I have been better for over 7 months now. Things do subside and get back to normal.

      D

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      Hi Netminder,

      I am on the same dose as I started 20ml, of course i was given Diazepam to help with the side affects, but really didn't help, haven't taken any Diazepam for 2 days now.... Today has not been a bad day, started a little rough this morning, were as I could stay in bed for a bit of a lie in, can't at the moment, what with anxiety and shaking, but by 2 pm today, went quite calm, always calm of a night, but unlike you, i will look forward to the night, and enjoy the calmness, and i think that's what you should do, okay, tomorrow might not be a good one for me, but knowing I have had half a day and a night good, tells me there must be more to come, of course i will be dissapointed if tomorrow is not the same as today, but do enjoy the calm when it's there, and try and not think of the next day.... I hope that makes sense.... Hilary.

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      I am 3.5 weeks on 40mg and still have the crazy anxious mornings.. like i wake up panicky....evenings r much better.

      Hopefully it gets much better for all of us soon. Xxoo

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