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Tiny Tears, I read your post of August 27. My daughter was raped and I tried every avenue to get her help. The best advice I got for her was \"One day she may decide she is not a victim, but a survivor. On that day, if it happens, she will be able to go forward.\" You say you do not like to look at yourself in the mirror. I say, don't allow any other person to decide your value in YOUR mind. We are all ignorant, just about different things. You came into this life with nothing, just like everyone else. Depression can cause you to forget your good points and concentrate on your weaknesses. I was fortunate enough to find a loving partner, and you can too! Be genuine, be true to yourself, allow others to notice the love deep within you. Miracles can happen. And I believe you are a survivor, although you may not yet have realised it. And if you are overweight, so what? My partner says she is fat, and I am slim, but I don't care! She is a caring, loving, wonderful girl. And there are plenty of men who just want to care for and protect the love of their life. Smile at your good memories, don't dwell on the bad ones. And look after you. I hate taking medication, but I don't believe I can cope for the moment without it. One day I will get off it, but in the meantime I use Cipramil to keep the depression at bay because I suffer less side effects with it than others I have tried. And I use Valium occasionally to get to sleep, and gradually I am reclaiming my life. Think of who your care about most, and send them a note to say Hi! Their response will help. Good luck, Breezman.
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Could you not phone your doctor and ask her to pop round and see you instead, as youare sooo exhausted ....?????
I knew today would be tough, but this is a hellish nightmare!!!! All these people keep giving me these odd looks...makes me want to cry even more..and the hole in my stomach has reached maximum...I dont think ill be eating today somehow. [b:bfdd9cd26b]Sorry Melbi, I am just having one of my worst days ever!!! You take care and good luck at your doctors. (I just wish I had not gone now!!!!). I want to be normal, pretend that this is not happening!!!! :wah: [/b:bfdd9cd26b]
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Hope you feel better after your visit to the Drs. I thought I'd let you know that once you've been signed off work with depression & or anxiety your bosses have to be very careful & follow a strict procedure on your return to work. It's all to do with the possibility that your illness is work related & you might sue them. Also there is a great deal of ignorance & bias about such illnesses. It's nothing personal just basic legal advice apparently. I myself have only recently returned to work and I didn't receive the reception I'd hoped for and I've worked for them for 20 years!!. It is standard practice that they reduce your work load / offer you part time hours even though that's not what you want. They are so scared that you could lay the reason of your illness on them it's just stupid. But if you are willing you can fight it, go to your \"back to work interview\" and explain to them that you want to be treated as before - normally! Just because you've been ill it doesn't mean your any the less of the person you were before. Remember it's not personal - I know it's hard as I'm just going through that stage now but hoping things will improve. If you don't feel like visiting your place of work for the interview ask your boss to come to you or go somewhere neutral to talk. It's better to get it sorted out before rather than later. Let us know how you get - I'm still a bit at logger heads with my boss but hoping it will be resolved soon.
Best wishes
Nicky Jane x
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I hate this gutted feleling though....who put that stake in my heart?...I am not a :vampire: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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And why the hell couldnt he have just rang me and said so - why the need for such a formal letter?
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At least you had a letter!!! I had an email telling me that I'd 'forfeited the right to my job'. I now feel well enough to go back to work but can't as there's no job for me, meanwhile I'm on half pay which will run out in 3 months. I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday - I wonder how he's going to feel about signing me off sick when I'm well enough to be in work!
I'd do as Nicky Jane suggested and ask the boss to come to you (but make sure you have company to act as a witness if necessary).
Good Luck - home the doc went ok
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Are they allowed to do that?
It makes me bloody sick it does. If you had broken a leg or something would they have said the same thing?
Can't they see they are just adding to the problem - they probably are cause of many peoples problems - these companies.
I hope you manage to get it sorted.
I have posted how doctors appointment went on the victim thread I think. It went well and feeling a little more positive that she thinks the worsening symptoms are the tablets causing them and not my anxiety getting worse.
Melbi x
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I'm probably just being paranoid - I just don't understand why he didnt ring me to pre warn me there was a letter in the post.
It could be that he might have felt he shouldnt ring in case I was having a bad day. I really ought to make a huge effort to ring him tomorrow and let him know what is going on - or even send him a text. I'll send him a text.
He is normally a very caring boss who gives up his time at work to help others with any problems - even on a personal level which he has done with me a few times these last 11 months.
I'll send him a text now - I was hungry went to kitchen and hunger went away. Oh well lol
Melbi x
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Off to bed now because I really do feel like I am going to sleep tonight.
Here's to us all having a better day tomorrow.
Melbi x
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Took 30mgs of pill last night, and folks i feel GREAT! Okay I still look//// and cant ealk, but I am getting my sense of humour back([b:27550d303d](yeah!!!) And I want to but myself Happy the dwarf from Snow White, just so I can remeber tofay!! :lol:
Got to admit though, everything is a little bit blurry....
its soo good to get back here, the last time I felt this good, I had popped becca out in like....well I dont know ...was it half an hour...just lucky she never fell out in the taxi!! (With my sister cracking jokes...shes still not got over that day). I remeber her standing holding my knickers.....and the expression on her face....like eh...YUck!!! And the...\"Whats she making that funny noise for?\" Followed by push pop...oh :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Dont worry about the eating thing, one step at a time eh!
I am so pleased you too are feeling better.... I was worried you might feel worse if you read my post that I have woken feeling better today.
Keep going hun - we will make it!
Melbi x
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Sending my Mothers Day card and thinking , god there was a point last year where I did not think I would be doing this!! Thank goodness I am!!!
Its scary to report good feelings, when everyone else :o is feeling so awful and feel it out of their control......would you agree?
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1. At least it might help others see that citalopram does work even if the good days don't always arrive.
2. Surely it gives others hope that things can get better.
If we only post are bad experiences that this isnt going to help others or ourselves.
Others may feel there is no hope if they only ever read about our down days and us? Well surely by talking about our good days helps us to realise that it isn't all doom and gloom.
When feeling low we can always go back to our 'good day' posts and hopefull this will help us get through the bad days.
Does any of the above make sense lol
I know what I'm trying to say but not sure if I'm making myself very clear.
Melbi x
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