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What do you do when one of your family members is quite a significant trigger to your depression?
I live with my sister after my mum and dad seperated and of course I'm grateful she took me under her wing and is looking after me, but at the same time she treats me with upmost disrespect. I've never felt so demoralised sometimes by the way her words affect me. My sister isn't violent but she's 'vile' verbally. It's hard because she's family and I'm living in her home rent free, but does that give her the right to treat me how she does?
I'm currently employed part time and inbetween work I clean the house as my 'board payment' if you like, and she'll get in from work around 3pm and no matter what she'll find something I haven't done right, if she has anything positive to say (which is very rarely) it'll quickly be followed by something negative. It gets to the point where I begin self loathing and then come the suicidal thoughts. I feel like there's weights pushing down on my body.
How can I tell her?
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gillian20097 FlipFlop1867
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Why not leave her a little note. Don't mention all the bad things she says. Make it a nice note telling her how much you appreciate her letting you stay and blah blah blah. That way she will read it and feel good about herself for being oh such a wonderful person but after the self admiration she will probably feel a pang of guilt because you are able to be so nice and yet she is so horrid xxx
FlipFlop1867 gillian20097
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She also refers to me as a liar and it drives me crazy because I don't lie, like sometimes I feel as if I'm being made to feel 'mental'.
People have told me it has to stop but no one quite understands how nasty and vindictive she can be, I feel so awful saying this because she's my sister.
She's Self Employed and when she decides to take a holiday, I cover for her, but she doesn't appreciate that either and I do it for next to nothing, but it's a waste of time talking about it because she's that harsh with her mouth I end up crying.
Argh, so frustrated and sick of being taken advantage of!
gillian20097 FlipFlop1867
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Like I said.my sister is a bit moody and can be a bit abrupt. Normally I would have a lot to say but at the minute I can't rock the boat.
i just let it go over my head and think that I won't be this way forever and won't need her forever and my time will come xx
FlipFlop1867 gillian20097
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jessica05 FlipFlop1867
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FlipFlop1867 jessica05
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elizabeth20203 FlipFlop1867
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FlipFlop1867
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Not feeling very good this morning, hate how I have amazing highs and then comes the 'crash'. Any tips to get through it? I usually struggle to get out of bed when I wake up in that state, but once I'm out and moving about it's fine. I've got up and tidied the house and now I've got nothing to do until I leave for work at 11:50!
Thank you for the support. x
elizabeth20203 FlipFlop1867
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FlipFlop1867 elizabeth20203
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Take care.
gillian20097 FlipFlop1867
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On here we write a little of what goes on,what we are going through. Not the whole story.
Flipflop says she has depression and I take her word for it. Who are we to judge on just one post.
Talk about kicking a dog when it's down.
People should be a little more considerate. We are all trying to get to the same place the best way we can and sometimes what may seem trivial to one person may feel like theend the world for another.
Being judgemental is very unhelpful when aimed at somebody with depression.
Please consider you words wisely when dealing with others who are very vulnerable and lost xx
FlipFlop1867 gillian20097
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I didn't want to have to explain my life experiences but I don't want to get judged on that one particular part of my life.
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elizabeth20203 FlipFlop1867
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FlipFlop1867 elizabeth20203
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There's no wonder people are scared to talk about it because of the reaction from people like that.
#StopTheStigma
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