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Ok so the last 5 years of my life in small....
Met a bloke, was warned off by many ppl that he was bad news but I fell for him..
He then used me for sex and then ignored me until he wanted to use me again. Stupidly I let him hoping he would want me..
Fell pregnant, he left me was pretty nasty towards me flicked fag in my face tore scan picture up in front of me abusive texts about how he would love to break my nose blah blah
I then went into bad depression and bled through out pregnancy which I might add he did not once come and to hospital to see the baby was ok and I hadn't lost it.
Rest of pregnancy I found out he was sleeping with his ex again which made me feel awful,
His family begged me to have him at birth I agreed and always loved him so felt awful having him there he sat there striking my hand the hole labour,
Next day he took my baby in car seat and walked to car leaving me to walk on my own, he dropped me home n left us. When baby was 6 weeks he came and got abusive and police was called n did nothing.
When she was 6 months I got back together with him hoping for a perfect family , stupid I no.
He left me n came back and forth for the next few years.
I'm a mess now and I don't no what to do ? Stay with him or just get rid?
I can't have friends or go to work I feel isolated, my family don't like him. He won't go to any family does but I have to go to his there's no commitment 4 years down line, says he will move him and it never happens. I'm so confused I don't want him with anyone else
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He'a abusive in many ways, including emotional, physically and mentally.
This man is not worth pursuing. He's also controlling and making you frightened.
Back off, please. Ignore his texts and don't believe him when he comes crawling back, promising that he's sorry and he won't do it again. They all say that but it is just a method of getting you under his power again.
Be brave and strong and send this man packing. Your focus has to be on your baby.
Both you and the baby will have your lives ruined if you take him back.
Absolutely nobody on this site has told you that theere's hope. All of us have made it clear that you need to finifsh things with him - and get the CSA to make him pay a good level of Child Support.
Your self-esteem is almost non-existent at the moment. Start to take control of your life. lots of love from Tess
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Keep us posted, please.
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You have every right to lead a peaceful life, without this controlling man in your life.
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I went through an abusive relationship for ten years. Every time he hit me he'd say he wouldn't do it again. But he did. Many, many times.
Finally, after leaving him then coming back, only for the whole cycle of abuse to start again, I realised that what was happening to our two young children would damage them. So I moved out, with the children, to my sister's. Needless to say I was bombarded with phone calls saying he wouldn't do it again. I ignored him. Then he sent £1000 to me! Like money could buy me back!!!!!
I used the £1000 to pay for a divorce lawyer.
That was many, many years ago. He never sent any child support, he broke into my house and raped me, and also beat up my new boyfriend, who nearly lost an eye.
He never bothers to make any contact with the children.
Don't let this happen to you! love Tess
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My situation is different but I no what your saying and your so right X
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They found the station and the ticket man phoned me. I was utterly horrified and quickly gave the ticket man the money with my bank card, so they could get home. The ticket man said he'd make sure they'd get on the right train and told me when it would arrive, so that I could meet them. I never let him near them again, needless to say.
Eventually I met a lovely man who has been my husband for years, now. He showed me that there were good men in the world. Actually, he's cooking us a roast dinner right now. Do the right thing, my love. XXXX
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Made me cold again.
Your poor kids.
I'm so glad u have met a decent man now, did u ever feel like u never would? Like you'd be alone for ever?
Why r some ppl like that why can't they just be normal. Thinking about the time I've lost depresses me. Life's so short. Xx
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