Afraid to see a doctor

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I've felt depressed on and off for around 4 months now but it feels like it's been forever. When I was young I didn't understand depression and I was stressed. I went to the doctor and told them I was depressed when clearly I wasn't and they turned me away as they should. Now I actually have depression and understand it and I'm afraid to go to the doctor in case they turn me away. It probably wouldn't be the same one as this was years ago and I'm not worried about that I'm more worried of being laughed at or told I'm making it up. I'm at a point where I can't sleep at night because of depression and anxiety and I go days thinking I don't want to be here anymore. I'm not suicidal and death terrifies me but I spent a lot of time wishing I could disappear and make this all go away. 

I don't know what to do. I have no support and none of my friends or family know. 

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    You sound like me! Suicide not really an option, you just dont want to be here anymore but your not sure where you want to be. I think its just because you want the feelings to stop but dont know what to do 😐 Go see your gp. Things have changed so much and theres so many new options. Or phone the wellbeing people. Where I live you can have appointments by phone or even skype, evenings and weekends. Theres plenty of people to help and you ve made the first step by wanting it. Its a terrible thing to suffer from but it does get better. Im still very up and down and dont sleep very well. Is there no friend you can talk to? Its surprising how many people you may know that suffer in silence. It does take the edge off feeling so alone 😊 Keep going and please give your gp a chance to help. What have you got to lose? 😊

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    You should see a doctor. Things are different now. Doctors are more caring.
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    Hi if you don't go to the doctors then you won't get the help you need.  Sometimes depression will just go away on it's own but at other times it doesn't.  Do you have any family/friends you could talk to whom you think would understand?  

    You do need to go to the doctors though.  I presume you are in a group surgery and if so ask the receptionists for a sympathetic doctor as some aren't very good on mental health.  Before you go make a list of your symptoms and when they started and how you are feeling.  If you want to just write it all down and hand it to the doctor.  

    Your doctor will  have heard it all before a thousand times as mental health is the second biggest reason people visit a doctor (a bad back is first).  It's not easy I know and it took me a good couple of months to pluck up courage but you have to do it,  Good luck and let us know  how you get on.  x

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      Thank you this does help. I like the idea of writing it all down as I find it really hard to talk to people about how I'm feeling. I don't know if I'm ready yet but hopefully I can pluck up the courage soon.

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    Hi BMi,

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm a physician, board-certified in internal medicine, and I recommend you make an appointment with a physician. Your concerns will be taken seriously and kept confidential. Depression is very treatable.

    I recently wrote about depression on my blog at my medical musings. Please take a look.

    Doctor T

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    Angel, doctors cannot turn you away! You don't even need to mention your experiences in the past - just how you are NOW. If you're not sleeping / sleeping too much / feeling anxious all the time they WILL listen. Things have moved on now, honestly! The only thing that hasn't changed much is that doctors like to tell YOU what's wrong, and not the other way round smile

     

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      Thank you. It's just hard because where I live it's all old people and the doctors is a very small. I feel like they won't care about me moaning about being sad

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