Age...Is it a big deal???
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Hello Ladies,
I'm here with yet another rant. I really am glad I found this forum and the ladies here are very helpful, understanding, supportive, and always ready to give helpful advice. I really appreciate you all.
However, there is something that disturbs me. I read a lot of post and I post a lot to get insight and see if anyone else experience these symptoms and sensations. The question I see a lot is asking how old a person is. I am fairly young (38), but that doesn't mean that I am not peri/meno because I'm not in my 50's or 40's or vice versa in thinking that because someone is over 50 that they should be in meno or post. I've done quite a bit of research and while I am not an expert, I saw that this can start for some women in their mid to late 30's and can go on for many years well past their 50's. It nerves me to assume that because someone is not of the age you think they should be, that their symptoms are not peri/meno. I can't speak for the ladies here, only for myself in saying I have had plenty of bloods, scans, you name it, and it all comes back normal. That is a good thing, so I can rule out many things and put mines down to hormones.
I say all of that to say ladies come here for support, I certainly do. But please don't make assumptions that because someone is older or younger that they are not expierencing peri/meno. It's stressful enough dealing with these issues, and its even harder when you are blown off because of your age and what people think it should be. Every women's expierences are different but that doesn't mean they are not going through the same things as you.
Don't mean to come off as angry or offensive. Just want us to all be supportive of each other.
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Kadija1966 jamie50513
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jamie50513 Kadija1966
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chrisann144 jamie50513
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I believe that you can start peri symptoms in your thirties I had a friend that was emopausal at 43 so anything is possible I'm a nurse not a dr but I do have an open mind and nothing shocks me at this point lol!!!! The thing that really gets to me is some Drs will say your too young and maybe but the symptoms can start younger!!!!Then you have Drs that will say welcome to your forties are you kidding it's not a joke my symptoms have progressively gotten worse especially this last year I still get a period and I'm 47 I have missed months here and there and I'm not as regular every 28 days like I used to be but everyday it's something new some ache or pain! To me you know your own body so if you feel like your in Peri then you are and maybe it will be done earlier just because bloodwork doesn't tell the whole story in my opinion there is more to the big picture! Thanks for sharing because I know some younger women can relate to you!
jamie50513 chrisann144
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I didn't want to seem angry or defensive. Just browsing some posts and responses bother me when I see people respond with "you're too young" or "you should be post by now". I just think it's not fair to say. I started everything early so I'm not surprised to be going through this at my age. Most of the women in my family started peri/meno early as well. I just feel it's bad enough when medical professionals disregard us, then to have women of your peers disregard you also is even more devastating. For me personally, I don't come here for a diagnosis, I come for support and reassurance that i'm not alone and I will make it through it. Just makes things easier to deal with. This forum was a wealth of knowledge for me since I had no knowledge of peri or really what encompassed meno.
Shelly0069 jamie50513
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i can totally agree with you........
2 doctors I saw last year fobbed me off I knew somthing was wrong with me at first I had no idea what was up with me when I came across this site I was entering into Peru.....
those 2doctors both said I was to young?
And because I'm still having normal periods!!!!!
Im 46 and had my last ( baby number 3) at a let age 38 bless he's 9 soon!!!
everybody is different we all know our bodies and I always say you know best if somthing isn't right get checked out.......my body was telling me for ages I was entering the premenapause stage regardless of age.
Some doctors are very naive!!.
jamie50513 Shelly0069
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Zigangie jamie50513
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My sister in law was all done and finished by the age of 40. We are not all the same. I agree and would suggest anyone wondering if they are perimenopausal take a look at the 66 symptoms and decide.
I was post before I read that and it would have saved a whole lot of worry over my health if I had seen that last in the early days.
As a lot of women say, I thought I had some dreadful hidden undiagnosed disease.
jamie50513 Zigangie
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gentleballads jamie50513
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my peri had started more than four years ago but i hadnt identified the experiences coz i did no research before the really horrendous symptoms took over. i had to cut down the stress areas and Im learning new things everyday. But i do wish i had known about this much before and could have prepared myself....at least psychologically.
for peri there can be no age - its just the time of life the hormones start doing their dance....for surgical menopause that is definitely the case.
periods may still be there - even on monthly basis but there will be differences with regard to regularity or flow.....
but generally it is the norm to ask anyone their age if they say they are 'suffering' from meno - that is the general trend but it cannot be used to dfine the condition. a lot of education needs to be spread not only with women but also their husbands and families....and of course the docs.
jamie50513 gentleballads
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Since peri/meno is not a "disease" and just considered the "change of life" and women have to deal with it all the time, (as I am told) I just try to manage what I can and get through it. I hold onto to the hope that one day the severity will lessen and I am going to be ok.
elaine33371 jamie50513
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chrisann144 jamie50513
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