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along with the body pain I also have severe mood swings. I get very angry. Does anyone else have this as well?

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debbie58470
debbie58470

Perimenopause

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  • ipxy97873
    ipxy97873 debbie58470

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    Hi Debbie, I have only missed one period.  However, having always suffered badly with PMT I didn't notice any difference.  Neither did my family!!!!  From what I have read it appears the symptoms remain, sadly.  Hope this helps.  It's a worry and it would be reasonable to assume that a practitioner would be able to provide some sound advice.  Alas that does not seem to be the norm.
  • madcow1964
    madcow1964 debbie58470

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    Hi Debbie,

    I am 49 and still pretty much regular as clockwork, apart from one period last year being 3 weeks late.

    Last September I had to see my doctor after getting what I'd term as DMT not PMT - During not Pre! The day my period started I was weepy and I found myself crying at the drop of a hat all day every day for 5 days. I was paranoid, uptight, unreasonable etc...and it was so bad that a friend who never takes tablets for anything unless it's antibiotics actively encouraged me to get antedepressants asap! I was prescribed Fluoxetene to take for so many days each month but I was horrified to discover it's another name for prozac so I only took 3 days worth, until I felt better.

    That aside, I am finding that PMT and into the period can be horrendous! If I'm not weepy I am angry - furiously so! Luckily It's pretty much all directed at myself, particularly during the episodes of brain fog and forgetfulness! However, no-one who knows me would have recognised the harridan who stormed across the garden to shout at someone in a neighbouring garden (of a house where no-one lives at the moment) who had set yet another bonfire to clear their DIY waste, because I had washing out! As soon as I saw smoke and flames through the window I saw red and just acted on instinct! It took me ages to calm down afterwards!

    But that is how the perimenopause is affecting me - dreadful mood swings and brain fog - and now insomnia! I have noticed my moods improve, along with my energy levels, as soon as my period finishes, but these restless nights have only been going on for 2 weeks and I haven't discovered a solution yet. I seem to wake up feeling battered and bruised, too, at the moment!

    So you are by no means alone! We go through life hearing about hot flushes and loss of libido, etc, but they never tell you about the other crazy symptoms! When I was a teenager, a lad at school lost his mum when she committed suicide during "the change" - I can understand the triggers now!

    • debbie58470
      debbie58470 madcow1964

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      I just want to thank you for being so honest with me and to say that I am sorry you have to go through the mood swings like I  do.  Nobody warned me about the pain or the severe anger and the only thing that has come close to giving me some relief is medical marijuana.  Not sure if the HRT is doing anything for me but I 'm going to give it some time to get in my system and do ???
  • scrangelina
    scrangelina debbie58470

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    Yes, I'm 49 and in full hormone meltdown. The smug and irritating post office guy wouldn't give me my parcel yestrday, despite me having ID, and insisted it needed to be redelivered. I saw red and I told him he was a pathetic little jobsworth with a tiny penis (I was ruder than that). I felt like I was going to turn into the hulk, and yet anybody who knows me would describe me as easy going.

    I stormed out trying to slam the door, but it was one of the slow, controlled close doors, so that didn't have the dramatic impact I'd hoped for. When I got home I burst into tears then rang the Post Office head office to complain about him WHILE STILL CRYING. The woman must have had me pegged as menopausal from the outset.

    How I'm going to handle collecting my Amazon packages from now on is anybody's guess. 

    • debbie58470
      debbie58470 scrangelina

      Posted

      The anger is painful in itself and please do not get angry with me but, your story had me laughing so hard.  I've done some pretty embarassing things myself and don't go out amongst the public too often these days.  
    • aussie_rach
      aussie_rach scrangelina

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      oh im so sad and you made me smile i know this isnt humnorous but i do this im trying hard not to as i havent been able to go back to my fav chemist yet out of shame!! so glad im not alone thank you 
    • madcow1964
      madcow1964 aussie_rach

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      Maybe it isn't really humourous - but it sure helps viewing these things with a giggle - even if it's a nervous one!  It's been SO helpful coming on here and finding I'm not alone in my nuttiness  - it's just hormones wreaking havoc!

      Had an Indian lady - "Alice" (yeah right!) - on the phone this morning, wanting to do a "quick survey" . Just over a week ago I would've bitten off her head - today I calmly, and without thinking, said "I'm not interested in doing any surveys thank you" and hung up. My hubby nearly passed out - he didn't know I could be polite to Indian call centres!! We all seem to become Jekyl and Hyde creatures every month!

    • aussie_rach
      aussie_rach madcow1964

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      yes yes i know exactly what u mean i have twin lads and they know everything to do with the mens and when im in the right mood and they know when i am now  they will sing very badly mind you....menapausal momma walking down the street....to the tune of roy orbisins( sorry about my spelling)pretty woman!!! they hve a fav pic the dwarfs and they find the hormonal guide funny too but its right the way your asked how you are makes ahuge difference on the reply
  • scrangelina
    scrangelina debbie58470

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    And brain fog. God the brain fog. I feel like I'm in a zombie trance somedays, watching my life happen as if it was a movie and I am playing no part in controlling what happens. A deflated blob of a woman. Forcing myself to get out and do something or socialise, even though I really don't want to, is the key for me.
    • madcow1964
      madcow1964 scrangelina

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      Oh Scrangelina! You sound SO like me - were we separated at birth???

      My mum once asked me (during my "normal" PMT years) if I felt like an overwound clock spring? That was the perfect description! However, that clockspring could only take so much overwinding and just keeps snapping these days! Woe betide any hapless callcentre employees ringing when I'm busy (usually during Neighbours!), particularly the Indian ones who plough through their spiel and rarely take no for an answer!

      I was brought up to be polite and still feel awful being rude, BUT! One day I just screamed down the phone before slamming it down (it isn't really satisfying when it's a cordless phone though), another time I shouted I was dead!

    • scrangelina
      scrangelina madcow1964

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      Hahaha my mum and dad, who's completely gone for gold in the behaving badly club, have a whistle and if they get unsolicited phone calls they blow their whistle down the line.

      Another thing that drives me mad, along with unsolicited phone calls from annoying people, are slow pensionsers, driving at 20 miles an hour, and you can't even see their heads because they're so shrunken. I end up doing that shouty thing in my car, where nobody can hear but me, which is really pointless.

    • madcow1964
      madcow1964 scrangelina

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      I know what you mean! I shout at my mobile a lot - which doesn't make the signal any stronger and it isn't the gadget's fault it's the service provider! If I want to stick my head upside down down the back of the sofa I can have a mobile phone conversation in my house - but no-where else at home!

      Re foreign call centres - ask THEM questions...they can't compute that, blow a fuse and hang up! I can only do that in my more lucid moments and they are few and far between these days!

      Lovely Jay in Spain recommends taking several B vitamins for brain fog / memory / mood swings - but how do I actually remember to look for them whenever I go into town??

    • debbie58470
      debbie58470 madcow1964

      Posted

      The only way I can function is to leave notes all over the house so if I can't do it then maybe someone else might take pity on me and do it.
    • madcow1964
      madcow1964 debbie58470

      Posted

      That sounds like a cracking idea - now, where have I put that Post-it notepad............
  • jayneejay
    jayneejay debbie58470

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    Hi Debbie

    I am 49 and approaching year 9 of peri 😫 last couple of days I am back with the body aches and no energy .... it tends to get me badly at certian times of month..

    last period was Aug 13 .... feel sickly today, not wanting to do alot, have to push myself, also trapped something in my neck/shoulder which doeant help...

    as for feeling angry, I dont feel angry, ( i havent the energy 😀) I tend to avoid anything that upsets me or will wind me up, I cant handle it... stress i try and avoid, just seem to want quiet and peace... Jay xx

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