Always Worried!
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A friend of mine got cancer when she was 29. I have worried about getting cancer ever since - im now 54! Lost both mum and dad to cancer - my dad last november. I take bio-identical estrogen and progesterone. I took my estrogen for too many days and during the break period had a bleed. i was told by doctor not to restart if still bleeding (I got that wrong) so didn't restart estrogel. starting bleeding again so went to doctors who told me to restart the estrogel and progesterone. i did that and bleeding stopped but because of pain in tummy and post menapausal bleed she has referred me to hospital to rule out ovarian cancer. last 2 weeks have been terrible. My abdomin was tender during the bleed but has remained so. my appnt is this Wed 8/10/14. i am so worried i can barely function. if i hadn't had the bleed i wouldn't have thought about ovarian cancer now i can't stop thinking about it. 3 weeks ago i thought i had a melanoma which proved to be nothing. this site helped me realise i am not alone and i read the 'health anxiety' leaflet by the nhs and that has helped a little. i don't want to spend the rest of my life worrying about cancer! tx for reading
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Wendl lynda29225
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I have health anxiety and I imagine that every physical symptom will result in a terminal illness.It is exhausting to feel this way all the time.
My problem is that I do not have faith in the doctors,due to the way my late husband was looked after when he had a serious car accident.His doctor was negligent and it resulted in major problems for the rest of his life.The original notes when my husband was in hospital were not found.Inbelieve they were not written.
Consequently I do not believe my doctors when they tell me it is 'just' anxiety.I always think they have missed something.
I am70 and have felt this way for the last 14 years and yet I am still here,so I guess they can't all be wrong.
My mother was on anti depressants from the 1960's until 1998 when she took an overdose,so I have a strong reluctance against taking medication.They did not work for her,and I do not want to have those type of pills around me as I live completely alone and get too frightened.Doctors hand out too many drugs and are happy to keep trying something else if the first ones do not work,but I do believe that they have too many adverse affects.
CBT seems to be the way to go.After your test next week,ask for a course of CBT to help deal with the anxietys but it us not a quick fix ,but I think that there are better results from it?Wishing you luck next week.Wendl.
tonya46846 Wendl
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Wendl tonya46846
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aaron84501 lynda29225
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I was perscribed antidepressants about 5 years ago because I got to the point where I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything, and would stay in bed and cry, but I stopped taking them eventually as I don't think they were having much impact. I was referred to cognitive behavioural therapy recently (that is what cbt stands for) so I will see how that goes - lord knows I need something. I think what I need more than anything is someone to talk to. I usually talk to my mother about these problems (she has always been my first port-of-call whenever something has been bothering me), and I know that she gets tired of hearing about the latest illness that I have apparently got. I also relate to Wendi's fears that doctors might miss something. I went to the doctors a few years ago because I felt something unusual on my testicles. The doctor felt and said it was nothing, but I wasn't convinced, and after reading stories about people being told that they are silly for worrying about having bowel cancer because they are too young, I'm even more distrusting of doctors - I mean, they are only human and can make mistakes, right? Sigh..
Stay strong Lydna. I know how damaging health anxiety can be to your well-being. Remember that you are not alone - there are so many people exactly like yourself who worry about their health all the time, and there are people who can help you. Also remember that most people do not get cancer, and even on the off-chance that you do develop cancer, most have good survival rates and we have come so far over the past 20-30 years (that is a small crumb of comfort for me at least).
kayfabe lynda29225
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