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I'm not really sure what is wrong with me but this is how I feel. I'm not really where I want to be in life. I work for someone else when I would love too work for myself. I'm in debt through my own stupidity even thow I have that in check now. I'm still renting when I want to buy a house. I have two kids and a partner who I constantly feel like I'm failing. I realise that no one can change my circumstances but me but I don't know where to begin. My thoughts constantly hold me down. I get up and feel like an empty vessel. Just sit there in a daze. And on work days I wake up and don't want to get up for work and have screening of dread. I just want to be happier. I have had meds before and didn't like the side effects form them. I've never had the confidence to take new chances in life to improve my life at work etc. I'm extremely good at my job but constantly fear messing it up. I feel sorry sick every time I need to see my boss. I'm certainly jealous of friends who appear happier or doing better than me. I just want to start making things happen for myself and my family but I don't know where to start. I don't feel like I'm living at the moment. Just flying by on auto pilot. Does anyone have any answers?
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Richard.
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rachna36991 richard61401
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We all have our bad moments and low energy. Life routine is a silent killer for most of us and it will be good if you can have a break, just tk your kids and partner for a small vacation for some time.
You have your dream of starting your business , that is very good, work for it. AM sure you will find a way to it, live to make it happen. We have only one life, lets surf on its waves and live it to the fullest despite our problems.
Best of luck. Wish you lots of happiness
laura11452 richard61401
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Is your debt all cleared?? If not there is no point at this moment in time thinking of buying..Maybe on down the line..
Your really good at your job but sounds like your a perfectionist and put a lot of pressure on yourself...You just need the confidence to believe in yourself..Can you take what your good at and start on your own if you had the option??
Why do you want to be like your friends??
Your an individual person that has his own personality and with your own unique qualities..
Do not be fooled at your friends being happier than you..We are all very good at hiding how we feel..
Happiness is fleeting and if we where happy all the time we would not appreciate the good times..
How about going on a course to build your confidence up??
If you really feel low or depressed it sounds like its coming from you beating yourself up 24/7..If your unable to get you mood lifted it wouldn't do any harm to speak to a doctor..
You sound like a lovely guy that genuinely is concerned for his family and doing the best you can at this present moment in time..We all get into debt so easy to do these days.. Your sorting it and that is a positive..
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laura11452 richard61401
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Your a supervisor and you didn't get there from lack of confidence and not be capable..
Take a day at a time Richard and wait until the debt is sorted ( thousands upon thousands are in debt).. Look into some areas of where you think you might be able to get up and running on your own.. You have two years to do some homework and when your debt is sorted you can make decisions..
Your not having a meltdown you are just having a rough patch..
Yes talking to someone would be good..
Maybe look into where to ask advise in starting on your own..
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laura11452 richard61401
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.Its not that you attract bad luck.. I have found the strongest people seem to get a rough deal now and again..But they always come out the other end of it.. The ones that get life easy find it much harder to cope when things go wrong..
I have also found the people that really really give a damn about life, their job and people etc etc.. Seem to get low moods at times but have the fight to get back up..
You will get well again Richard you have been through a tough journey and back at work..Jesus give yourself a pat on the back..
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laura11452 richard61401
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Wish you all the best Richard..
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Jenny-66 richard61401
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Good on you for simply wanting to do the best for your family. There are plenty that don't. I am sure if you asked your family they would be happy with how you provide for them. Owning your own home, whilst considered an achievement in life, should not be considered above providing a loving home, which sounds to me like you definitely do.
Your story seems similar to ours. My husband had testicular cancer in 2009. It was advanced and he needed 3 operations and chemotherapy. He spent a lot of time in hospital that year and our finances, already at stretching point, were very bad so that we had to declare bancrupcy that year. It was a very stressful year and we thought we'd never own our own home or get out of the cycle of debt.
7 years later (and it only seems a short time) we are back at a point where we can get credit again, easily, and we now feel we could get a mortgage at some point. Life DOES get better and your finances will improve.
I truly believe that many people's lives, marriages, finances etc are not always as they appear. We are great deceivers and your own pals that you envy at the moment might be having the very same problems.
You're extremely good at your job so I am sure, at the right time, you will make that break into your own business. Perhaps whilst you are paying off your debts you could spend the time looking into all the ins and outs of owning your own business and speak with small business advisors. Perhaps this will give you the confidence you need. 2 years will fly by.
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