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Am I normal?

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GravyLover
GravyLover

I am a straight female in a long term relationship with a man. However, I get turned on by watching girls together rather than man and woman. I love having sex with my boyfriend and am looking forward to starting a future with him. I am pretty sure I am not a lesbian as I couldn't see myself in a relationship with another female. I have read a lot of things stating that actually females do prefer watching other females but I wondered other people's opinions on this matter... 

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  • mancguy
    mancguy GravyLover

    Posted

    No one is 100% straight or 100% gay, there's an imaginary line and we move up and down that line. Enjoying watching lesbian porn is fine, being curious is fine, it's great that you're so open about enjoying it. It doesn't mean you're bisexual or a lesbian. Just enjoy it, next week you might be into something else
    • GravyLover
      GravyLover mancguy

      Posted

      Thankyou for your reply. I suffer from severe anxiety so as you may be able to imagine this has set me off into a whole new world of panic! 
    • mancguy
      mancguy GravyLover

      Posted

      Just look at every issue you have individually, it doesn't look as bad that way and it's less of a mountain to climb. Enjoying lesbian porn is a good thing, it's something you enjoy, nothing to panic about
    • GravyLover
      GravyLover mancguy

      Posted

      Thank you. I am trying- I end up googling it every day just to check whether it's normal. I have this urge to even tell my mom about it just for reasurrance- how embarassing would that be?! My partner says its fine and so does google!
    • mancguy
      mancguy GravyLover

      Posted

      It's fine. I'm gay and the idea of watching lesbian/straight porn is horrifying, just not my thing. And what's normal, we're all different and that's exciting, if we were all the same the world would be a very dull place. Don't tell your mum, it's something she doesn't need to know. Enjoy it with your partner, watch it together and see what happens - I'm sure he won't complain
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken GravyLover

      Posted

      It's normal, believe me. Most humans are drawn and attracted to what is taboo and that alone is a turn on for many. I suggest not mentioning it to your mother, because I have found that mother's of the age 43 on up, grew up in a different era than us and it is viewed negatively.

    • GravyLover
      GravyLover feelbroken

      Posted

      Thank you both for your comments. I know nothing good will come of telling my mom- I think its that that's worrying me too much. I have always been open with my mom and I think that if there is something I think I need to tell her then I should feel guilty about it and worry! Obviously, when thinking logically I know nothing good will ever come of disclosing this information to her!
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken GravyLover

      Posted

      Just a very different era for them. They grew up w even less equality as women than we have, they didn't grow up w the party sorority girls drunkenly making out w one another. Yo them if you did that stuff, then you were gay.
    • mancguy
      mancguy GravyLover

      Posted

      And what is normal, every human being feels differently about things, so what you feel is normal for you, what I feel is normal for me
  • archemedes
    archemedes GravyLover

    Posted

    In the great scheme of things I really don't think it matters a lot what our personal preferences are, as long as it does no harm to anyone.

    So just get on with it and enjoy your life to the full and please do stop worrying, because in truth you are worrying about nothing.

  • simonthethird
    simonthethird GravyLover

    Posted

    And as all the others say there is a line of sexuality.  Most men would say they are 100% straight but when they watch pornography do they close their eyes from men's penises or find them interesting?cry
  • britrecko
    britrecko GravyLover

    Posted

    The statistics show twenty percent of women can be aroused by thinking of lesbian activities but only sixteen percent experiment carry out the behavior. For men those that try are only four percent.

    Sexual proclivities are on a Bell shaped curve.Truly monosexual are at the peak.There can be an element of choice about where one behaves on a continuing basis.One's partners responses have to be considered if the heterosexual relationship is to prosper.

     

  • worriedteen92
    worriedteen92 GravyLover

    Posted

    It's really common for women in particular to be turned on by all sorts of things - most commonly lesbian porn because it's more sensual and easier for you to identify with and therefore get turned on by it. You are completely normal :p
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