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    I literally don't know what to do anymore, I'm 23 years old, male and so close to killing myself because of how I feel. For over a year now I have been breathless, like I wake up struggling to breath and I feel dizzy, tired, panic, I'm 99% sure I'm having a stroke all the time I can't cope. I was just a normal lad not so long ago loving life. I've given up with doctors cause they say nothing's wrong with me I'm just anxious, have a day off either I'm slowly dying or I am seriously mental. I've not left the house for a month, I just lay in bed now with no friends, no family, lost my job, no girlfriend and the worst thing is I can't bring myself to tellanyone I do have about the way I feel so I've basically ran off and not contacted people. I've tried everything feeling like this had completely ruined my life and now I'm sure I'll never get better. I don't have good days, every day is a bad day. When I go back 18 months to where I am now I'm shocked I haven't killed myself by now. Can this all really be anxiety? Surely not, but if it really is how can I get better? I've been on loads of tablets that didn't work. I just feel dizzy, breathless and like I'm dying 24/7. Only time I'm okay iswhen I'm drunk or asleep. I just want my life back and I really cant cope anymore.
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      Also tell me do you breathe through your mouth? Do you sigh a lot, yawn a lot or gasp for air a lot (through your mouth)
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      I've tried bettering my diet, but that's not really a massive issue cause I'm a healthy weight, I do smoke I gave up for a while and my breathing and anxiety was 100% worse so although smoking isn't exactly great it's not made me worse. I have also tried hypnosis which again failed, I've been told yoga can help? Any idea if That's true? Yes I breathe through my mouth alot, yawn, gasp ect it's pretty horrific. I also have high blood pressure, was found when I tried drugs a while back I wasn't a druggy I went out with the boys and tried mdma then I was pretty bad for a while after being rushed to hospital thinking I was having a heart attack, got better for a year or so now it's just spiraled. I've moved country from England to Scotland to try sort a fresh to see if it was all stress related but that hasn't helped at all. I'm really at a loss, will I ever be okay? Thankyou so much for replyin to me, I may have rambled on but just want to get it off my chest if I'm honest
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      And you're right I probably am depressed, if I'm not that I feel sorry for anyone that is because feeling worse than I don't must be horrendous.
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      Your story is uncannily similar to mine, bad bout of MDMA went to hospital cause my stomach muscles were spasming (I was just panicking so much) although I don't have high blood pressure. Having a healthy diet isn't mainly due to your weight, it's to do with what you're putting into your body. Balance it as well as possible. You'll feel better for it.

      I just started doing yoga yesterday to help myself too. I INSTANTLY felt better afterwards. Do you have lots of aches and pains? It will really help with muscle tension.

      Breathing through your mouth will explain your dizziness and breathlessness. When you're anxious you OVERBREATHE. You feel like you can't get enough air so you take in bigger and bigger gasps to try counteract it. Although it's the exact opposite that you need. You need to calm your breathing down, try hold your breath for a couple of seconds then breathe in only through your nose, let it out through your mouth.

      I tried hypnosis too, I was too anxious for t though.. Haha.

      But yeah, things do get better mate. Once you stop fighting it. I bet you have rolling thoughts that 'oh man it's gonna happen now I'm gonna have a stroke' right? Then you sit and wait for it... And guess what.. It never happens. So why you fighting it. It's not gonna happen. For one, you're very very young for that to happen. Risk age is 50+ for 2, it's NOT happened after many episodes of you thinking it will...

      Tell me about talking therapies you've done? Have you got a therapist?

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      Are or were you suffering from similar symptoms yourself then pal? Well my diet at the moment is mainly comfort crap food so i'm guessing  that might not be helping to be fair. I'll give YOGA a try and see then, hopefully it can help me. 

      Bang on, I think I'm havng a stroke about 20 times a day, it's annoying because deep down i Know im not, although with high blood pressure it is a possibilty and i refuse to take my meds becauase they make me feel worse. i have Lisinopril 5Mg i take on and off only when i am really really stressing purely because it does lower my bp, i know ive just contridicted my self there haha i very rarely take them would have been better way to word it. I don't have a therapist, do you think it would  help? a doctor did reccomend it to me but i never got round to it to be honest, thought that would confirm i was crazy if i did.

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      I do get ahces yeah, sorry forgot about that bit, i put that down to not being very active anymore though, ive gone from very very active to being a house bound loser very quick 
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      Yeah I did exactly the same. Agoraphobic, kept thinking I was gonna have a stroke all the time. Weirdly enough I stopped that by this method called 'the emotional freedom technique' have a look for it on a video streaming service.. I get aches real bad in my shoulder and back and in my pec muscles so my focus has turned to a cardiac problem rather than having a stroke now ha.

      If you have high blood pressure take your meds. Lol. Silly not too. Sort your diet out, get some green tea too. Drink LOADS of water too, hydration will make you feel loads better. Yeah, I'm not sure what Scotland's mental health service is like, but definitely do some therapy. I'm doing exposure therapy and cognitive behavioural therapy right now. (Been doing it for a month, been off work for a month too.) I'm gonna go to bed now, I private messaged you though, so if you wanna chat more tomorrow let me know. Keep strong pal 👏

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      Alcohol (I'm an alcoholic..only sober 1 month)....I had 8 years at one time.

      Alcohol is like pouring a depression pill down your throat...I was in the same despair you are in a month ago...and seriously...just with the change of me stopping drinking...I am more "normal".

      Also alcohol is like caffiene.....its drains your body of the fluids. I entered the hospital a month ago...because of drinking and not eating...and I needed SEVEN Intraveneous bags for FLUID replacement.

      Especially if you drink coffe as well.  I have  a sister....who drinks..and ONLY drinks coffee during the day...and she was having the SAME symptoms as you....

      She won't stop drinking...but she agreed to add 2-3 8 oz bottles of water a day...I check on her everyday and she is feeling BETTER now.   SHE IS AMAZED that a little thing like water helped so much.

      All the Drs tell me to drink water too....If you want your life back...start thinking about adding water to your diet...start thinking about cutting down on alcohol sad ...better yet quitting....and I promise your anxiety will subside.

      Its a tough thing to stop...but all it is doing is depressing you more, making you sicker and raising your anxiety.

      I'm sorry you are suffering.....

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      Hey, I'm 22 year old female, and I have suffered panic attacks since I was 4. I bet your gonna ask how do I know they were panic attacks at that age... well I didn't know, just almost every night I went to bed I would have to take a dick bowl because I would sweat and shake, my heart would ancestors and I would always fear I was going to die, and then when I was 16 I finally found out from my doctor they ere panic attacks, I got councilling then from then I had them in bursts... OK for months on end then have a few months a year where I would have panic attacks everyday. Anyway I had my first son at 18 he's now 4, and i recently just had my second son he's 13 weeks, and I'm not kidding you everyday since he's been born I have had full blown panic attacks day in day out, I dernt watch the news, I'm scared my labour displaced my organs and may cause cancer, I'm scared I'm going to have a heart attack because I get palpitations and chest pain and numb arms everyday and I gasp for air alot like my heart knocks air out of me. I feel sick all the time, the list is endless alot nd to top all that off panic triggered ibs for me and now I get really bad stomach ache when I'm anxious which is all the time. It's so hard for me because I'm a strong minded person and I have so much support but no one really understands if they haven't been through it. Sorry about the life story but you aren't alone in this, I aren't suicidal for the same reason I don't cry, I can't bare to think I'm weak and I feel crying or suicide is letting the panic win. It's not gonna win. I am.
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    Argh. My message is under moderation cause I mentioned a webbbbbb sitttttteeee check your private messages
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    Hi I just want to comment as ur quiet similar to me. Altough I'm not depressed and I don't suffer as bad as u I was exactly the same a year ago. I'm 23 and I've never had any social problems or issues ever before. I loved my life was always out there and had loads of friends then after last summer it just all changed.. I got a new job though working mon to fri and I just started to really isolate myself. Friends would txt me and I'd always say I'm busy or make excuses and I gradually dropped them one by one I ended up sitting alone alot not really going out the house specially all through winter. I didn't see anyone.. I just realised I wasn't helping myself now a year later I'm really trying to sort myself out.. I'm not one to sit about and feel sorry for myself so I force myself out there even when I don't want to which I no can be hard but I've had enough. I've gradually started getting my friends back and doing things abit more and talking on here has been helping me. All I'm saying is just try ur best to socialise even though somtimes u really don't want to once ur out its not as bad as u thort. Maybe u should join the gym aswel as u said u used to be fit and healthy? Just remember when u have ur suicide thorts that I'm sure u don't want to die to end ur life.. u want to die to end ur misery and pain. So I hope u can turn it around and start enjoying ur self again because I've had enough of being crap for a year and my mind frame now is I'm not going to let it ruin my life
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    I know it's been a while since you posted this, but I wanted to respond just in case you haven't solved your problem. Your symptoms sound exactly like those of sleep apnea. I was having the same symptoms: waking up out of breath gasping for air or chocking, feeling like I was going to faint or even die, having panic attacks, and feeling like I was having a heart attack. After about a year of multiple visits to the ER and being told it was my heartburn causing it, one of my doctors sent me for a sleep study where I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. Now that I sleep with a CPAP, I no longer have any of the symptoms.
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