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Anxiety about my girlfriend

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ciaran58617
ciaran58617

I've been anxious for 5 months now since we started going out everything was good until anxiety hit me like a brick wall there's nothing wrong with us at all i have fun in person we connect well and she understands my anxiety i used to worry maybe once a week but then it would go away but now it's everyday i worry about whether i truly love her and she is the one is she attractive to me? What if you dont like her? I used to find comfort with her in person but its become so bad that i only feel anxious around her and i had my first panic attack yesterday i do love her and i cant imagine life without her im just finding it hard to think positive I've become so clingy and protective and im showing obsession over her its affecting my day to day life she's always on my mind sometimes positive sometimes negative and now im turning these negative thoughts on her and not just the relationship like im thinking she's doing this to you its her fault you dont really like her you should end it all and i hate it i cry everyday because i dont know what to do because i love her and i just want to feel positive again so i can start feeling grateful for her and start thinking about her positively its not her fault its in my own head i just dont know what to do as she is my dream girl and feeling negative about her just really upsets me generally if im feeling happy these thoughts aren't as bad but it has escalating so much there is no positive thoughts left not matter how hard i try and ram my positive thoughts into my head naturally im never happy so i just sit and feel drained and sad what should i do?

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  • ciaran58617
    ciaran58617

    Posted

    Sometimes i feel like giving up but then i think about not having her and how much she means to me and how wonderful she is and i imagine her with someone else and then it triggers a panic attack i hate this i hate it so much i need help im on a rollercoaster of thoughts sad
  • lee12629
    lee12629 ciaran58617

    Posted

    This sounds like a huge red flag. I think you really need to think over the relationship. Xx
  • ILoveDebby
    ILoveDebby ciaran58617

    Posted

    Just keep calm. Dont think about it the more you do the more stress and anxious you gonna be, as long as she's loved by you and always see a happy smile on her face you doing fine, dont get too obsessed with her cause there will be a time were she gonna ask for space for been all over her and then you will go crazy with the anxiety. Do your job as a boyfriend and make her happy dont over think about it rolleyes you're harming yourself mentally
    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617 ILoveDebby

      Posted

      Yeah im obsessing over her all the time in my head sometimes its positive or negative depemding on how i feel at the time i was thinking maybe seeing the doctor would help

    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617 ILoveDebby

      Posted

      Im so confused cause i have a great time around her and we connect well together and everythings good smile

  • lee12629
    lee12629 ciaran58617

    Posted

    Why do you feel anxious around her?
    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617 lee12629

      Posted

      Well last time i was around her i took a panic attack because i was a little happier than i was before i went to her house and the tough of leaving her and going back to feeling awful sent me into panic i do feel good around her when i allow myself to relax but im finding it hard to relax i have anxiety in general i have asbergers i was reading im more prone to it i dunno its not just my girlfriend that triggers it its not her i know that
    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617

      Posted

      Every relationship ive been in ive had anxiety but im with someone who i really like and i need to get into positive thinking which im struggling with i just feel depressed

    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617 lee12629

      Posted

      If i could get myself focused on task and thinking more positive i dont want to be with anyone else but her she makes me who i am iits a terrible feeling when my heads trying to talk me out of being someone who i love

    • ciaran58617
      ciaran58617

      Posted

      So for example lets say i was with another girl in a relationship id still have anxiety its not specific to the person
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