Anxiety and depression what shall I do?

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Some years ago I was given medication for anxiety and when I asked the doctor how long I should take it for he smiled and said 'forever'. I stopped taking it after a while as it gave me stomach problems and I didn't like the way I felt.  I have also taken medication during a difficult period  for depression which I think I have had since I was a child.  I  stopped taking that when I felt a bit better.  I had some cbt which helped me with my thoughts which helped a little.  Ihave been 'below the line' for the last few months due to family.  I have ibs, fear of travelling, worry about everything, and feel useless.  I am not good at anything.  My  husband never says I look nice.  I don't want to take medication,  I am not sure what to do.

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    Wow... I'm sure you as not useless.. Can't you speak to any1 or try exercising, reading doing stuff to clear your mind, ?? 
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    hi, first of all you are not useless- i know you say you dont want to take meds but perhaps your present low mood may be related to stopping the anti-depressant meds- this happned to me, i also stopped taking the meds when i felt better- i then went into a period of feeling very low and also lost all sense of my own self-worth- i went to  a counsellor who advised me to talk to my GP, who then put me on a different anti- depressant at a lower dose- it really worked for me- i wonder could your anxiety issue be related to this also? - talk to your GP or another health proffesional- but remember no matter how low you are feeling now - you are not useless- we all get ill at some time in our lives whether mental or physical i hope things improve for you soon -
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    Your depression/anxiety is telling you that you are useless.  My self destructive mind does it to me every day, along with a barrage of other self defeating comments. Tell it to get lost, I'm having to do this everyday & try to focus on small things everyday to build my self esteem. It's very difficult & you are not alone. 

    Have you spoken to your husband about how he is making you feel from not Being praised? 

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      Ah that's horrid. It's not nice when someone close to you can't give priase or encouragement. Especially a spouse, unconditional love & all that. 

      I had this with my Mother growing up then got with emotionally unavailable men repeating a pattern, it's taken me a long tie to learn this about myself. On my own level, I can be emotionally unavailable too but the depression etc makes it worse. 

      I did a course once where I had to ask 3 friends to say 3 good things about me. I've kept hold of those comments & put them on the fridge, everytime I go in the kitchen I smile. Maybe try something similar, I felt a bit weird asking people but it definitely helps.

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    your a valuable and worthy person in your own right, AW - nice as it would be you dont need his comments to validate your own selfworth- he is foolish man if he doesent realise how lucky he is to have you in his life- i hope these negative feelings pass soon, as they will- the best of luck-
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    Hi AW

    I've found that a bit of regular fresh air and exercise works wonders.  A 20 minute walk or a very light jog, just something to increase the heartbeat - because when the heart slows back down afterwards you get a little rush of natural 'feelgood' chemicals.

    As for feeling useless, I found a lovely little ebook on amazon called the secret of how to be happy, which explains brilliantly how a small random anonymous good deed per day naturally improves one's long-term self worth.  I'm sure there are other books out there but this one really worked for me.

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      Thanks for that.  I do play sport most days and it helps.  I do good deeds for my children most days.  I have thought of volunteering but as I cannot help myself  I couldn't help someone else.
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      I felt like that a couple of years ago but did volunteering for 6months in a charity shop. I had some really bad days & I put alot of that down to being on the wrong medication. Even something really small helps to make a big difference. Not many people want to give up their time for free so that's really positive that you are selfless enough to want to do that. I met some other people with depression from working in the charity shop & it was a supposrtive environment to work in. Be kind to yourself x
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    Just watched the programme on people living in Calais so desperate that they would cling on to the undercarriage of a lorry. I realise how lucky I am not to have to do that. Why do I let everything get me down so much!.
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      Because your a human being with feelings of your own my friend, you can change those habits though, try a Mindfulness course or book or there's a great downloadable course on the Centre for Clinical Interventions about worrying it's called What Me Worry? I think.

      i do volunteering and I'm stuffing my face with pills at the moment and I do get a great sense of achievement from it and it's only 1 or 2 hours per week. 

      Take care my friend... Why? Because your worth it! 

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