Anxiety and peri menopause

Edited , 4 users are following.


i have joined here hoping to find some reasurrance and advice

i was on 40 mg of citrapram 2 yrs ago i was grt no anxiety but one morning woke up with panic attack from no where i rushed to gp as panicked

she said maybe they have stopped working so switched me to sertraline

took this for around 9 months

but no luck never felt the same and side effects were awful

so went back on citapram 20 mg but side effects this around were awful so i came off them 10 -11 wks ago

well all my anxiety is back

i went to gp and asked could this be peri menopausal j am 48 and drs didnt pick up on this two yrs ago when i woke suddenly with panic on 40 mg

instead switched me to sertraline as mentioned

now i am on no ssri just diazapam 2mg a day been taking this bout a year everysingle day

drs dont know i take this

as they refused me this

i again went back to gp and asked could i have peri menopause as my symptoms fit



dry skin


wake early hrs

feel on edge every day

told dr all this but they said they cant do tests as hormones change all the time

i am sooo scsred

quality of life is poor

i have no energy left my job

anxious all day

all drs said is try citrapram again but sooo svared

plz anyone out there can help ?


0 likes, 19 replies

Report / Delete

19 Replies

  • Posted

    hi victoria, firstly hello, hope you're staying safe? every post i read on here someone else has been dumped on yet another antidepressant! i am fed up reading that this is the only thing doctors now do. has nobody offered any mindfulness to yoga or something else? i live in leicester there is a charity called lifelinks here that deal with anxiety, stress, depression and lots of things besides. try speaking to someone called the richmond fellowship. you'll find doctors will only offer you pills, which work for so long then stop. i point blank refuse to take any antidepressants and i may be need something due to assault and intense counselling. good luck, i hope you get the correct support.

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    HI Victoria.

    I hope you are doing ok.

    I experienced exactly the same symptoms as you, during perimenopause.

    It was when I hit around 45-46, that I noticed my anxiety hit the roof. I would be waking up every night, unable to get back to sleep and worrying about the silliest things!

    After attending CBT (which helped SO much) and also being put on Effexor (150 mgs a day) as well as finding a wonderful and understanding GP, I started to feel more like myself again.

    I am now 50 and I noticed that after I reached menopause, things started to calm down once my hormones began to settle.

    I also work out every day, get out in the fresh air, spray my pillow with lavender every night to relax me and drink peppermint and camomile tea every day.

    I was experiencing terrible night sweats, but after a combination of the Effexor (which I've read can help with this) and using self-help, they have improved a lot!

    I'm still taking the medication and my GP has advised that she will start to reduce the dose after about another year.

    It might be worth going to have a chat with another GP about how you are feeling and see what their opinion is of changing your medication to Effexor, if that is something they might recommend or whether you still want to proceed down the medication route.

    I would also recommend CBT as Sam suggested, as the mindfulness and coping strategies are terrific and I would strongly suggest you being kind to yourself as much as you can too! You will get through it!

    Please keep me posted about how you get on! XX

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      soooo lovely knowing someone out there understands

      my skin really dry

      i lok old

      severe panic attacks

      dizzy spells

      on edge all day

      scared feeling 24/7

      only thing helps me is diazapam but scared now that i am addicted to that

      i told drs so many times how i feel and beg for tests but they say "you are prob in peri menousal and not much we can do as tests wont always show

      my palpitations are awful

      i feel trapped in my own body

      i not been offered offered effefor (venalaxine ) only citapram fluxetine and mitazipine

      i will defo ask if i can try that one

      i am just sooo scared

      thank u sooo much for kind advice


      ps i am scared of side effects too as cant handle more anxiety xxx

      Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    I had awful night sweats; insomnia; I felt on edge all the time and unable to relax.

    I was getting myself so worked up, I was struggling to eat as well.

    When you visit your GP, do also ask about CBT. I found that really helped me too and I still practice the coping mechanisms.

    I was stunned when I read how many other women were experiencing the same symptoms as me. I do know that your hormones fluctuate like crazy in perimenopause and that many GPs say it isn't worthwhile testing hormones at that stage, as they have a tendancy to be up and down like a yo-yo from one day to the next.

    If I were you, I would go and see another GP and explain to them how you are feeling. X

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      sorry yes i am doing a cbt course online but i find i cant focus on this

      i feel too anxious even answering the questions

      i just feel so damn lost and this waves of fear over me 24/7


      Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    thank u for kind reply

    i was thinkkng hrt but thst scares me tbh

    yes your symptoms are similar to mine

    i find though differrnt drs say differrnt things.

    i been watching the "menopause dr"

    she is amazing but as said scared bout hrt

    i can handle periods all over the place and nightsweats but its the anxiety and scared feeling

    i also notice i am becoming depressed maybe its normal too

    but i am hoping i am coming to the end peri

    lol who knows

    when i do go drs i find thry are just reading down the lists of meds on their computers

    i dont know if i should re start on citrapram again

    as been off thrm few months now i hate waking at 5 am every morning and panic sets in

    just awful


    Report / Delete Reply
  • Edited

    Victoria so sorry to hear you're suffering right along with many of us. I would agree with the others for you to go see another Dr but I would go to one who is a Hormone Specialist. I'm 42 & I know I've been in Perimenopause for the last 4 years but no GP or Ob/Gyn I've seen have agreed with me until I saw a Dr who is a hormone specialist. All that other Dr's have done is put me on antidepressants, mood disorder meds, & anti-anxiety meds or put me in Birth Control Pills..... UGH! It's frustrating!

    Well, anyways, This hormone specialist Dr is going to run bloodtests on me to check my hormones but i have to wait until I'm on my 12-14th day of my cycle. So we will see what that shows. But after her just looking at my intake paperwork where you're asked a million health questions, the first thing she said to me is Yep! I'd agree you are going thru the change - You are in perimenopause. FINALLY a Dr who believes me!! She put me on a higher dosage of Progesterone and Metformin, which levels out your insulin levels. My blood sugar and insulin levels have always been on the high side where I am pre-diabetic or borderline. This Dr (with 30 years of experience) said there is a correalation between having an imbalance of hormones and insulin. So it is my hope that taking these recommendations she gave me will help balance out my hormones & help me to EVENTUALLY come off the 4... yes FOUR psych meds I'm on.

    So, to end this before I write a book, that would be my suggestion. See a hormone specialist who is a doctor. The way I see it is if the four psych meds aren't helping my depression, anxiety, or stabilizing my moods, then it's time for a change and find out the underlying issues of your symptoms. I believe you will find the help you need. Don't give up! 😃

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      wooow grt understanding uou have

      the thing is i cant afford to see a specialist

      i would luv to

      but agree these anti depressants are not wiorking

      a friend of mine was lucky to have a decent dr and she was put on the oeastogen cream and mirena coil and she is cured


      i said this to my dr

      but she said i need lots of tests and to start back on citrapram


      Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    hi victoria, you could always try alcohol or chocolate, there's always a good excuse for those! 😷😷😷😷🥴

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    ha ha

    i have been eating alot

    my hungar is crazy not sure if thats nerves or wat i dont drink unfortunately

    i just get so frustrated with all of this and feel everytime i get my call back from gp its always a different one and just says "try another ad as u are suffering with anxiety " i say yes i am but i feel its something else causing this as my body changes are effecting me

    i feel they are pushing me off phone

    another few things ive noticed is that i have develpoped allegies like hayfever never have i had this also stomach issues ibs or acid reflux

    drs saying its all anxiety

    i neen offered fluxetine mitazipine citrapram

    tjey are all ditting in my cupboard . it took me weeks to get off citrapram and side and withdrawal was awful

    the thoughg of trying again scares me

    i just feel sooo scared and like trapped in my own body

    dizapam helps been on that 2 yrs 2mg a day but even that isnt helping anymore

    i just feel tired of everything


    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      hi victoria, again big hugs. have you tried writing all this down and showing anyone? will they let you put a letter in to your doctors, ask to speak to the manager and insist you speak to a doctor. if you look on this site you may be able to get a comparison on symptoms of anxiety versus perimenopausal symptoms. you are eating because of stress i think but i am no expert, mention mental health effects and you may get somewhere, tell them it's female related. i said mental health the other week and my own doctor rang me back, mind you i had attempted to jump! (that's no joke). for anxiety walk, find a hobby, draw, bake and use something like a grounding technique, breathing techniques help. if you feel your breath slow down you've down it right. can you eat something for me? when i'm stressed my stomach likes no food.

      Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    thank you again for caring and getting back to me

    i defo thnk i wanna try hrt

    the gel on arm and the tablet cannot spell the hormones lol

    but you know wat i mean

    i am going to call gp tues as bank hloiday tomo

    i am going to get them hopefully to refer me to a hormonal specialust and get my self sorted

    again awoke at 6am or prob before heart pounding panic took a diaz but dont think thry are helping i need help now

    awful day today went out to local shop felt panic and dizzy and sweaty

    cant cope with this


    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      hi victoria, oh dear poor you, you sound exceptionally anxious! before you move out of bed in the morning breathe in for the count of 4 deeply, then hold it for 2, then SLOWLY breathe out for 6, don't move until you can feel your heart stop racing. put lavender on your pillow or use camomile. if this doesn't work try deep breathing in to a paper bag instead/on top. good luck, let us know how the doctprs goes on tuesday..

      Report / Delete Reply

Join this discussion or start a new one?

New discussion Reply

Report or request deletion

Thanks for your help!

We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.

newnav-down newnav-up