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Does anyone else feel like people just can’t be bothered to make as much effort with you since going through anxiety? Or now that you say ‘no’ to certain things to maintain your wellbeing people can sometimes be ‘off’ with you? I’ve noticed that for me, staying up late or going out drinking isn’t where I’m at right now in my life, as neither make me feel good physically and mentally. Or feeling like I ‘have’ to be available to respond to people’s mesages at all times. So I don’t. I’d say the one good thing to come out of going through anxiety and depression is that it’s taught me to take better care of my wellbeing and to slow down in life. That it’s okay to take time out for myself more and re-charge. But I feel like sometimes people expect certain things of me even though I’ve explained doing them won’t be of benefit to me. It’s frustrating because if I had a broken limb for example I feel that I’d receive more empathy or understanding. But with anxiety it’s almost as if people expect you to always be available for them and it doesn’t matter what you’re feeling! I suppose this post is more of a rant really and just to see if anyone else feels similar?
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al-pk9 Star1711
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Heya star,
Yes. And doubly so as I used to have a reputation for hard drinking and all of that. I haven't drank in 2 months, I don't want it anymore, I want my mental health back. It's a tough call when your old ethos and friendship group revolves around drinking. Every time I've been out it's been the same, someone buys me a pint and I just leave it... then get a comment like I have just thrown it in someone's face. I've tried telling everyone what's going on, I've tried letting them know. At the end of the day it's not happening 🤣 you gotta do you, especially now.
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I just have zero interest in going out and getting trashed from alcohol or being around others who are trashed from alcohol 😂🤷🏻??? I’d rather have my mental health thanks and a good nights sleep 💤 🙋🏻??? Ha ha. It’s frustrating isn’t it, you’d think those close friends etc may not understand but that they’d try to understand. But like you say, you have to do what’s best for you regardless of others which is what I’m going to carry on doing 😬
Tammy83279 Star1711
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I feel that people get fed up because you are not getting better and think you should. Some people can’t be bothered with it.
It’s hard as you say if people could see it as a physical thing, it may be different.
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Philly89 Star1711
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Unfortunately I've found that unless the person has actually gone through anxiety issues, they will most likely never understand it. The only friends I've had that completely understand my anxiety, and don't get annoyed or judge, are the ones who actually get anxiety themselves too.
For my friends who don't understand it well, I just don't tell them the truth lol. I lie and say I can't go out bc I have prior plans, no money, etc. It keeps things simple and then I don't need to listen to them questioning it. It shouldn't be that way but unfortunately that seems the easiest way for me at least. N i don't even really blame my friends who don't understand it either, bc I do think if you haven't had it it would be hard to comprehend.
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Philly89 Star1711
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Yeah I just find it easier when u tell less people what's going on haha. Bc then I don't have to explain anything and no one asks things like that ^ like are u better yet, it just seems so much easier for me. I have my family as my support system and one or 2 friends and thats it. Everyone else kinda knows I get anxiety sometimes but they don't know the actual extent of it.
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