Anxiety driven by not knowing?

I am one of those people who needs to be challenged. I quit many a job over the years because I knew it so well, I had nowhere else to go in that job.

I suggest you start putting out resumes. Just that focus will help. To me, there is no greater awful feeling that stuck in a job that offers me nothing but money. Think about it. Talk to your wife about it. You have nothing to lose doing this. You can even go on interviews...and say no if the offer isn't right for you. You need a right now goal....this could be it, Thomas.

Learn how to keep busy at work. I read computer manuals, rearranged files. Its better to make up your own work then someone make it up for you

Also you may want to consider taking up a course at night to further your education and help challenge by our mind.

You'll be alright just don't let it overwhelm you.

Maybe you should talk more about it with your wife maybe drop the front and get her thought and ideas in it.

You must value her opinion as well as your own you're in this together.

But I do think I would be totally honest with her about how bad feels remember she can't help you fix it if she doesn't know it broke. Drop the front and embrace the honesty in your marriage she'll respect you more for it!! Good luck my friend God bless and keep us updated please. Sue. =)

Cant you find something else that challenges you? Hobby? Maybe going back to school for something more complex? Just a thought. What is it that you love to do? What would make you happy?  Maybe figuring out what you love to do, what you feel is challenging would help guide you to something in that area. And if you dont feel educated enough to aspire to do what you love theres pleanty of colleges around to pursue that goal.i say this because i didnt exactly know all this when i was young ended up getting a few degress but none in what really interested me. I didnt know at the time. So i pursue what interests me anyway, but not in a job realm but in a learning And maybe one day  doing somehow. Im older, not going to reinvent myself in the career mode but you are young and maybe thats your answer. You job is your job and your life is your life. You can combine them of course but you can find stuff outside the realm of your job to pursue as well. Unless you chose to return to college and reinvent yourself. Did that make sense?

You sound like me. I had a good life too. That doesn't matter,and has nothing to do with it. You have over worked yourself. It's hard to keep up the pace. I know you don't think you are worrying, but in the back of your mind,you want to take care of your family. The full on panic attack will drop you to your knee's. And than it's down hill from there. I know it suks. I had been out on the river all day, Hot, but cold water. I was in a tube floating. Not a big deal. By the time I got home, I  didn't feel good, and was exhausted. All of a sudden I had a bad panic attack,so terrible. I couldn't come out of it. I walked around dizzy, ringing in my ears,couldn't eat,sleep,focus,or leave the house, and was crying a lot,shaking, scared, on,and on. This went on for a year. Crazy.  I was 22 then,now I'm 57. I have been on meds for years. Through the years,we need a tweak,or a med change for one reason or another,and that's normal. I have been doing great for yrs,thank god for these amazing meds.I don't know what would happen to me if I wasn't on them. Something happens in our brain,that causes this. There doesn't need to be a reason. We can have the best life,it's a chemical imbalance. Please don't put up with this anxiety, and panic,it will make you nuts. Call your family doc, and they will put you on a antidepressant,and you will feel better. If you still have anxiety, they will up the dose,or change it till your feeling better. You have to take the first step. Millions of people are it the same boat. Suffer no more.

Hi Thomas. You are trying to plow through a rough patch alone. But you are in a near-bewildered state right now and your attempts to put up a front are likely doing more harm to your relationship than your actual situation likely will. You say you are not depressed, but clinically, you are. You have covered the questionnaire almost fully in your post You are tense and no amount of overcompensation of any kind is about to change that. I would suggest talking to your partner first. Sooner or later in marriage we all have to surrender and show our weaknesses. This serves to move up to a new level in your relationship, one with better understanding of the other and also a chance for true partnership in surmounting whatever obstacles. Then you need to find a way to stop this mad race in your head. You are unhappy at work and this is surmountable in thousands of ways, with some great suggestions already posted in response to your post by some wonderful people. All of us here have been where you are in some shape or form. My take on this is that you are feeling somewhat insecure and perhaps also unaccomplished, perhaps fearing failure as well as feeling stuck. You are not helping yourself by allowing your mind to convince you that there is some immediate need for a decision and resolution. You need to slow down your mind, not try to keep up with it as it will drive you around in circles. I would consider consulting a psychiatrist, for assistance to stabilize until you feel in charge enough to make solid clear decisions. And then start building on top of that. A sound base. I know you said you are off all ADs now, but not sure what you were on, for how long and how properly you followed and terminated therapy and how long ago you terminated. It sounds like you did not see it through or your therapy was inadequate somehow. From where you stand now, in panic and despair, you are much less likely to make good choices about your future. And you are so young, you have plenty more time for trial and error. Give yourself a break. Rebuild it. But do it steadily and on your time not your brains overdrive. And look for something that excites you and makes more sense in the meantime. And this will happen. You will pull through.

Most EVERYONE WITH PANIC ATTACKS have low vitamin D levels for optimal health it should be between 80 to 100...and that needs to be addressed with your doctor older doctors will say that 20 to 30 is normal which it isnt...in 2009 they made the level requirements higher...have that checked ASAP....And as far as your irritable bowl syndrome making u vomit your definitely low in potassium...which is dangerous get your doctor to give u potassium pills and get a blood test done for levels of vitamin d....in the mean time drink pedialyte to help replenish yourself from vomiting and it has alot of potassium in it...bananas have some but almond butter with toast among other foods have higher content...hope u feel better and i hope this helps

Did anyine notice Thomas never came back to this discussion?