Anxiety driving me mad!

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I've suffered anxiety for the last 2years scince the loss of my older brother. I feel like I'm trapped by my own thoughts most of the time, I feel like things are happening around me that make me irritable and moody but actually nothing is happening. Someone please help me. I don't want medication.

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    Hi Laura,

    Sorry to hear you lost a loved one.

    Did you suffer from anxiety before he passed away?

    It's important to recognise the negative thought pattern and the outcomes of these thoughts. It's hard to break but it can be done with patience and time. Easy to say I know. I've had racing thoughts god knows how many years.

    Sounds like your extra sensitive to your environment. This happens when ur brain is on alert as it is.

    Meds isn't for everyone I guess. Are you eating well, getting exercise, getting out and talking things over with someone you trust?

    Hope this helps

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      I never really suffered it before he passed away and the first month or so after I didn't. I was going out and partying quiet a lot and never really noticed the anxiety to much then one day I felt the way I do when I have an attack and scince then it's taken control of my life.

      I still go out and go places but I have to know the way out etc just so I know I can get out.

      I eat well and exercise frequently as I walked everywhere.

      I don't really talk about my anxiety to anyone to be honest, simply because it scares me, when I have an attack it like I'm itching from the inside out and need to escape, before a full blown attack breaks out I pace up and down, this sometimes helps. But I can't shut my mind off! I'm so scared it's going to effect my relationship.

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      I'm glad ur eating well and exercising. This releases endorfins that make you feel good. But anxiety can block out these feelings.

      The brain is powerful and a right bum.

      I think it would really help you to talk about your anxiety to someone you trust . I think you need someone to just listen.

      If your reason for not wanting to share this is because you feel embarrassed by it or you don't want others to worry, rethink.

      I suffered anxiety since young and never shared it. I should have because by early 20s I had learned to not share it. It was like a pressure cooker . This together with other factors resulted in a breakdown and later on psychosis. All because I thought I could handle it on my own.

      Perhaps this isn't you but nowadays it does feel good to share my woes. Doesn't make me feel alone.

      Get to know the anxiety. Don't demonise it. Tell yourself you are not scared of it even though it scares you.

      Hope this helps.

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    Have you tried counseling? You have been thru a lot. So sorry about the loss of your brother. What have you tried to do in terms of managing the anxiety so far?
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      Do you rhink you have PTSD? Maybe? The theraoy is different for it then for some of the other anxiety disorders. Most dont really know why or how their anxiety exists, but you do know the start. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) that is used for PTSD. Also CBT is effective mixed with proper therapy though. If for some reason you needed meds short term just so you can calm everything down enough to properly embrace therapy or to absorb the whole thing dont be so quick to turn it down. Its not a horrible thing to need meds for a little while, people go on and off them all the time. You just cant use them to mask the problem and never get the needed help. Many do that they gets meds and think they are cured  and never resolve anything. Just a thought for you.
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      I tried bearavment counselling but didn't get on well with this so stopped. I have certain apps on my phone that help with the build of anxiety on a bad day but other than that I've just battled through the anxiety alone.

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      I've never thought of ptsd being the problem but you could be right. I will go see the doctor and have a chat. The reason for not wanting medication is that this is where my older brothers addiction started. He suffered split personality disorder and bipolar along with a herion addiction, I have been addicted to codeine as a result of a operation and never wanted to be reliant on medication.

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