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Anxiety is controlling my life and I'm completely lost - any help appreciated

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Iwanttolive
Iwanttolive

I'm 19 and have suddenly been hit hard by my anxiety disorder.  I've had it for a long time but in the last week or so, with no apparent triggers, it has come back stronger than ever.  

I've got to the point now where I feel so overcome with sickness, worrying, feeling faint etc.. that I can hardly leave my house.  I know I experienced some of these feelings for the first time a few years ago when I had my first relationship and found I couldn'd cope with meeting my boyfriend or feeling at all relaxed but suddenly now, when I have just got the realtionship I dreamed about and have got comfortable meeting friends, these feelings have come back.

I cannot cope with this at all and have no idea what to do.  My mum is currently undergoing treatment for aggresive breast cancer and I cannot support her in any way because of this and she isn't well enough to put up with this fear I now have.

Please help me - I love my life, friends and boyfriend and have such an amazing degree planned for next year but I feel like I'm ruining everything with this.  I'm scared I won't be able to kee myself safe when the next panic or anxiety attack happens.

Thanks you so much in advance xx

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  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 Iwanttolive

    Posted

    Its not that it came back or appeared out of nowhere its been building up and has since hit the straw that broke the camels back kind of thing. You need to watch a video on oanic disorder just so you are aware of the science of ehats happening. Next have you seen a therapist or a cbt counselor or both? This whole anxiety thing a big bully and wont stop unless you learn about it and get some guidance and help with disarming it. Dont worry about not being you again, you will be a stronger and different  version of you in future. Go get some help with all this so you can begin to find a way to manage this. Stay very strong and beleive and know this does become manageable most of the time and you will adjust to it. 
    • Iwanttolive
      Iwanttolive lisalisa67

      Posted

      Thank you so much for this - I've been having counselling but this intense anxiety had eased and the counselling was helping the lower level of stress I was experiencing up until now.  Right now I'm just scared of loosing the people I love and not sure how I can tell them about this to make them understand.  Thank you for you words though - I really appreciate it.

  • tess33005
    tess33005 Iwanttolive

    Posted

    Hi - Lisa is right. I'm sorry you've hit  this wall - and I really hope you get a handle on it soon.

    My daughter went through the same thing at the same age. She totally gave up for some years - until a few months ago when she suddenly gathered up her courage and took a job for the first time since leaving school. You can do this - but it needs time.                                       love Tess

    • Iwanttolive
      Iwanttolive tess33005

      Posted

      Thank you so much - I really appreciate your support and it's comforting to know I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

       Love Nancy

  • kimberly59704
    kimberly59704 Iwanttolive

    Posted

    I was your age when I started with anxiety, and it went away, and came back, really bad with  panic attacks, I am now 56. I have been on a antidepressant for years.I am doing fine and have been for years. I got my life back. This will not go away by itself. Do yourself a favor and see you family doctor and get started.
    • Iwanttolive
      Iwanttolive kimberly59704

      Posted

      Thank you Kim and I'm so glad you've got your life back - unfortunately I cannot take antidepressants as I am allergic to some and get side effects.  My doctor also says they cannot do anything more for me, as I'm moving away to uni in September, and I just need talking therapy (which I already have). 

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