Any Ideas???

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Hi ladies!!!!My question may give to much information...So sorry in advance but im at my end with this symptom...I enjoy and still want sex but finding more and more that when my husband and I have sex I get so close but just cant seem to get over that hump and then theres times I have multiple ones????Any advice would be great and sorry but you ladies are only ones I can talk to bout this???Thank you so much....

Love ya all

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  • Posted

    How old are you? If you are peri-menopausal then low Testosterone would explain the not being able to 'get there'. I just started taking it and wow! it does help. I don't know about the multiples, that's just a bonus.
    • Posted

      Hi Dawn Im 41 and been peri bout 3 years now...Im on testosterone cream that I put on labia everyday...Frustrating cause i guess I never thought i would be like this...always had a healthy sex life so this is a smack in the face...Thank you fo reply....
    • Posted

      Hi Dawn. I am wondering about the low testosterone element....were you prescribed something, or have you found something yourself?
  • Posted

    I would say that is very normal with perimenopause and menopause.  The hormone levels do drop which causes changes in the vaginal area, often making it very difficult to "get there" sometimes.  If it is really concerning, you can get a prescription for either Vagifem or Premarin cream.  This points estrogen into the vaginal area and beefs up the tissues and blood flow making it more normal.

    Or maybe you just wanted to know if it's normal and, in that case, yes it is!

    • Posted

      Thank you Chris...Well i was wondering both things so yes you answered them both..Really really hate this symptom...lol I think I will call my Gynecologist and see if I can get something...Was hoping it would pass soon but not looking like it...Only 41 and never expected this already....ugh
  • Posted

    Hi Laurie your lucky you still want sex as i dont due to dryness and pain, tried vagifem but had to quit as caused bleeding and had to have a scan too but was ok, was adviced to stop using them (pesseries) and have been offered nothing since. did buy someting else on line but the amount of times you have to use like three times a day everyday. well works out exspensive. I can imagine your frustration hear but id be happy just to want sex again and not have any pain with it. im 64 though, started menapause at 56.

    Sue

    • Posted

      Begining to wish id never put what i did now, am i the only one then who feels like this  or does my reply belong in another section redface may be should have been in the Vaginal Dryness and Atrophy section, wish we could delete our posts sometimes!
    • Posted

      You shouldn't think like that Susan, surely this is the point of these forums...so we can be open and honest in order to help ourselves and others feeling the same...goodness...look what i've written...never admitted that to anyone else!

      Once it's out there...once we've said these things...they hopefully should free us a little? Jx

    • Posted

      Thanks Janeben  but if hubby read these saying like have sex  often remarks he would feel like well jealous! and say well if these women still want it whats wrong with you, i truly find it painfull. sad
    • Posted

      Don't feel that way.  Believe me, more women feel as you do during this time of life than they do the other way.  But they are just ashamed to admit it.  Vaginal dryness and lack of proper hormones in that area, take away the sex drive.  
  • Posted

    Hi,

    We have sex often, we have fun but I rarely, if ever "get there"!

    Occasionally (forgive me) if I'm on top.

    Have often wondered why?

    Husband caring and funny and attentive.

    Maybe in my head!

    Don't yet need to take any meds, just vitamins and magnesium for health...I'm about to be 58 next week! Can't believe it as don't feel much different from my 30's!

    But have often wondered about the

    " getting there" thing! X

    • Posted

      Yes I understand the on top part for sure!!!lol Yes we have sex often too..Everyday for most part..My husband is also very wonderful and we have a great marriage and thats why this is so hard to deal with....Thank you for sharing...Love and hugs....
  • Posted

    so I'm not the only one! X

    We have fun and enjoy each other but would like "the earth to move occasionally"!

     

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