Any thoughts on spouse who doesn’t want to get tested

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I tested positive for herpes specifically 2 tho I haven’t had an outbreak yet I guess its called symptomatic idk all I know is I was just gettin tested to be tested and that slapped me in the face. At the time of the slap I had 2 lovers a co worker (I know wrong) and my lovely boyfriend. My co worker got tested came back clean now it was my boyfriend turn and he told me I love you etc I don’t care if I had it. Eye opener which made me completely stop cheating and looking for love when I had one. But I’m curious on if it’ll be positive or negative. So I keep asking him to take a test and the first time he said my doc hasn’t texted or call me! What when did we start getting doctors personal numbers and he said it was his friends friend who was his doctor so that’s how he got his number ok whatever so then I ask him a week later did he get tested he said no she hasn’t called with a facility to get tested another week goes by and I ask again he said he has a doc appointment tomorrow ok great finally !!! I’m finally going to feel better if he tested negative right WRONG that day he called out sick from work because I called him and noticed he wasn’t at work he said he didn’t go to bed until late (he works at 3am) something about his mom and him didn’t get home until 11 and some other stuff that doesn’t add up. But it doesn’t bother me like that because today the day he gets tested but when I said are u going to the doc appointment he said I got food poisoning and I’m not because I don’t feel good ugh great which I’m like ur sick perfect time to see a doc anyways so about 45mins later I text him wyd he says doing a run with my dad. I text back saying I thought u were so called sick and he said I am but I have to walk it off u know I said I guess but when I’m sick I stay home and if u could do a run with ur dad why not go to the doctors. At this point I’m questioning my boyfriend I trusted him but I’m seeing through his lies even with other things not just this test. Idk if he’s scared to get tested or he knows he had it to begin with or what but I know it’s been about a month and my coworker got tested literally a week after I told him What do u think may be going on? Am I over exaggerating? I just want a clean conscious knowing the status of him because I already feel bad cheating with a co worker and possibly passing it on to him but I found the lord etc (changing my life for myself and daughter) and knowing my boyfriend status can close a chapter of sins I’ve done but idk comment please ur thoughts

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  • Posted

    It seems like he had it first especially since he isn’t upset. I’d say he gave it to you and Either has already tested for it so he literally can’t or he doesn’t want to face reality.
    • Posted

      Thanks for commenting I guess I’m going to have to force him to admit he has it or not to get the truth and yeah he wasn’t upset when I told him. I was crying hysterically and saying sorry over and over again and he just said oh ok I thought u were dieting like it wasn’t a big deal. 
    • Posted

      Dieing not dieting
  • Posted

    What test did you take?
    • Posted

      Blood test but i think it was an igg because on the result paper it said igg 5 I haven’t had an outbreak or symptoms I only did the test because I hadn’t been tested for stds or sti in years and I was at the doctors so I said what the heck let’s get tested.

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