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Im 8 days out of having anterior and posterior vaginal repair with kelly plactation and I'm wondering if anyone would like to keep up with each others progress as we go and share our days with each other I know we all heal differently and we wont heal the same but maybe it will be easier to find out what we are each going through.
Thanks for reading and I hope everyone a speedy recovery
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stephanie90840
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I can call anytime and leave a message and they will call me back.
Im not sure what it is swelling air bubble prolapse but at the front of opening right under my urethra is where the bulge is theres quite a bit of pulling sensation whether im standing sitting or laying down and almost feels like a small balloon getting smashed. Trying not to worry and just wait to see if it goes down at all.
I have heard not to do pelvic floors until you get the okay to have sex as it could damage the stitches I would ask a doctor before trying to do them.
As far as the number 2 goes the first couple of times after the surgery was quite uncomfortable for me as well I believe we all had that problem just our body working though new area. As far as the bulge after that happened as well but at that time it was just swelling I would go to sleep and in the morning everything would be better. Just take an easy drink lots of fluids and get plenty of rest and hopefully you'll feel better soon
PRLady stephanie90840
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Best wishes!
rachel_52861 stephanie90840
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Hi Stephanie and all other recover ladies who have replied to this thread.
I'm pleased to find a current discussion with woman who had a similar repair done as me within the last two weeks. My op was the 6th Feb and I had an Anterior and Posterior repair plus Perineoplasty. I am only 33 years old but had a forceps delivery with my first child in 2006 then 20 months later gave birth to my second who came out all on his own but was 9lb10. I'd been complaining about an uncomfortable bulge, skin tags and generally feeling like I was gaping for years but GP's failed to diagnose or refer, they just told me to work on my pelvic floor and said that repairing the skin tags was cosmetic - what a joke! I self diagnosed a prolapse years ago but finally got a fererral last July to see a consultant who instantly diagnosed and offered to repair - such a relief, I wanted to kiss him!
So here i am 12 days after surgery and I have to say that I feel really good all things considered. I'd read so many horrible things about recovery that I was excited and terrified all at the same time. I'm relieved it's done now but I'm concerned that I might take a turn for the worse at some point. Don't get me wrong I am very sore still but having 'gaped' (sorry to sound so crude) for years now, I'm realieved to feel put back together again.
I'd be happy to private message with anyone who wants to or I can carry on discussing through here. It's just nice to have others in the same position to chat with.
Wishing you all a speedy and stress free recovery x
kelly84069 rachel_52861
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Feeling a bit disheartened today, I'm hoping it's just swelling but I had a proper look down there it it seems like there are 2 small bulges poking out, one really bruised almost black. I don't even think I k ow what I'm supposed to look like down there anymore, I'll obviously never be the same down there just struggling with its appearance. I've always had a healthy sex love but I'm not even sure I'll even have one after this. I don't have the uncomfortable bulge anymore and can wee properly for once but maybe I'm expecting too much too soon, I only had surgery Wednesday, I just hated the bulge it was so off putting and not being able to wee. It just all looks like a different person down there and I'm not sure it's better than before, he did say he didn't do my anterior too tight as it would be painful having intercourse but not sure he's done it at all. I'm 36 btw
jamie66750 rachel_52861
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When did your sutures start to come out? I'm on day 8 and I noticed 1 out already! I'm very worried. Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel like it is almost the same as mine.
stephanie90840
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Wow thank you ladies for sharing your stories and for posting on here I never thought this many people would of replied. It is so helpful to know how other people progress is going and that we are healing together.
It also makes it easier know I'm not the only person in their 30's going through this
It is strange not knowing nothing about the new parts it makes it hard not knowing how it's supposed to feel or look.
Jan999 stephanie90840
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Hundreds of young women have prolapse repair surgery every week. It isn't and never has been surgery for the older woman. This website isn't the only one that gives informed information.
gaynor45570 stephanie90840
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I've also been worrying about how it feels and looks down there since the op. I have a hard lump when I touch the perineum but on looking it is smooth so it must be inside. It is really good to know others are going through the same emotions! I am in my 50s and I have been marvelling at how all of you with young children are managing. I know I'd have found it really difficult without my husband doing the cooking and the chores and I don't have any children to look after. I had my first proper venture outside today. I went to the supermarket with my husband. He collected all the groceries while I sat in the cafe. It was good to see life going on around me but I have to admit I found it uncomfortable after a while sitting and was glad to get home. At home I spend most of my time with my feet up on the sofa as it's more comfortable than sitting upright.
Jan999 gaynor45570
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gaynor it isn't just the "younger woman" who is having to cope. As someone who has worked in urogynaecology for many years I have seen women in their 40's, 50's and 60's having to cope with their emotions when they look after grandchildren and some who are carers for elderly parents. Younger women have options such as friends, childminders and nurseries who can help, sometimes at a cost but so what. Compare that to grown up children whose mums or mother in laws need surgery but it's not easy when trying to find carers for elderly parents. I've seen women refuse surgery because they don't want to upset their daughter in law who doesn't understand why it's more important to have a prolapse repair than looking after her darling children so she can go to work. Young women recover much quicker from prolapse surgery, research has shown that. As we get older it's much harder, our bodies don't cope as well and our pelvic floor isn't as strong. I don't marvel at younger women having to cope after prolapse surgery any more than I marvel at any woman recovering. I was 57 when I had 2 repairs and I was extremely lucky that I didn't have those sort of responsibilities but it took me a long time to recover whereas I had a colleague in another NHS Trust who was 20 years younger than me and had the same surgery but returned to work 6 weeks before me. Youth was on her side.
gaynor45570 Jan999
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Thank you, matron, for your comments. I am struggling to come to terms with not feeling fit and it is comforting to hear that there are women out there who know what it's like. The only two people I know who have had the same op were both in their 50s and needed 12 weeks off work. That is why I'm concerned I may be unfit still after the 6 weeks my consultant told me I'd need. When I mentioned some wome had needed longer he said not needed but wanted! He said no surgery should take longer than 6 weeks to recover from. I just hope my GP is more sympathetic.
Jan999 gaynor45570
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I was off work for 13 weeks and returned on a graduated (phased) return over 4 weeks. 6 weeks is too early in my opinion and I know the urogynaecologists I have worked with agree especially when a lady is over 50. Obviously it depends on your job but the longer you can take off work the better and most GP's will happily write "sicknotes" for that length of time.
rachel_52861 gaynor45570
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Bless you and please don't take this the wrong way but you sound like my mum and it's very sweet. She is always marvelling at how I cope with 3 kids plus work the hours I usually do even though she done similar herself. Now she is constantly feeling bad for not helping out with the kids when I've just had major surgery or coming to visit me. She has a swollen right knee and sciatica affecting her left leg so badly she can barely walk. I have been worried about how I will cope but have lots of support and hate the fact that she's putting this pressure on herself. I have no doubt in my mind that I am in less pain than she is but she won't have it. She has so many other health problems too. All I need from her is for her to be well. I've realised how much age is on my side with this and I don't envy anyone in their 50's going through it. We all have different stories and they are all hard in their own way. My physio at the hospital told that she believes this op should be 12 weeks off work. I'm signed off for 6 but I work a couple of 9 hour days with 1.5 hours travel which I don't think I will be able to cope with after 6 weeks. Everyone is different and it's unfair that you were told it shouldn't take longer than 6 weeks to recover. I questioned my consultant about the 6-8 weeks off in the leaflet and he said I would probably need it all and if it was hysterectomy then it would be at least 12 so my work are getting off lightly, so I prepared them for the full 8 weeks with a possibility of longer. I feel more relaxed about it because of that. It's really important that you take the time you need so don't be bullied by anyone.
gaynor45570 rachel_52861
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Thank you so much, Rachel. X The hospital only issued sick notes for 2 weeks which is up on Tuesday. I am picking up a new one tomorrow which I'm hoping will be for another 6. I'm determined not to go back until I'm ready though.
julib16 Jan999
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It's so good to read that 12 weeks isnt unreasonable before returning to work. My specialist gave me 7 weeks and I'm planning on taking some holiday leave to get to the 12 week mark. Was wondering if I was being overly careful. Had a hysterectomy 10 years ago and knew that 7 weeks wouldn't be enough from my experience with that! Only on day 3 after surgery now but so far so good.
stephanie90840
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I am aware this can happen to anyone at any age but a co worker of mine that I thought was my friend said some pretty nasty things about me having this surgery and I guess it has stuck in my head and with all these ladies on here that are close to my age I felt better because I wasn't alone which I already knew but just seeing it took all those nasty words away. I hope all of us get our lives back to normal and have a wonderful recovery.
Jan999 stephanie90840
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stephanie I just can't understand why any woman could be so callous. It's unbelievable that these days people can be unkind about someone who has something really wrong with them. I don't know where you work but in the NHS this is classed as bullying and isn't tolerated. I had hoped all workplaces were the same. Prolapse never was an "old ladies" problem despite people thinking it is, it's just something that isn't discussed as openly, probably because of ignorance. I'm sure you managed to rise above it but all the same it can be very hurtful. P.S. I hope all her bits drop 😂😂
Mossup Jan999
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It is really hard to understand how ignorant and unkind people can be. I have been fortunate and well supported by my colleagues, friends and family and I still angst about being an 'invalid' and being an inconvenience to them.
😂😱😂 at I hope all her bits drop! 😉
PRLady stephanie90840
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That's true. Many people don't understand this surgery. They think it's a comestibles thing.
PRLady
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It's cosmetic the word. Not comestibles. LOL.
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